In this conversation, we discuss the concept of belonging and its implications in various settings. We explore the imposition of belonging in DEI initiatives and the challenges of defining and experiencing true belonging. We also discuss the hierarchical nature of organizations and the need for a more inclusive and fluid understanding of belonging. The conversation highlights the importance of self-belonging and connection to nature in fostering a sense of belonging. We share personal experiences of belonging and emphasize the ongoing process of cultivating belonging in different contexts. The conversation explores the concept of belonging and its various dimensions. It delves into the magnetic pull and body knowing that comes with belonging, as well as the joyfulness and rituals that foster a sense of community. The loss of belonging and the grieving process are also discussed, highlighting the bond that is formed within a community. The conversation then examines the role of retreat spaces in creating a sense of belonging and the flaws in the capitalist framework when it comes to fostering true belonging. The importance of belonging in nature and the antidote to toxicity are explored, along with the spiritual journey of belonging. We conclude by emphasizing the need for true transformation and the empowerment that comes with embracing discomfort in the pursuit of belonging. Takeaways

• Belonging is a subjective experience that cannot be prescriptive or imposed.
• The concept of belonging is often used in DEI initiatives, but its meaning and implementation vary.
• Belonging requires a sense of connection to oneself, others, and nature.
• True belonging is a process, not a finish line, and requires ongoing effort and reflection. Belonging is characterized by a magnetic pull and body knowing.
• Joyfulness, laughter, and rituals foster a sense of community.
• The loss of belonging can lead to a grieving process.
• Belonging in retreat spaces can be powerful but is not necessarily meant to last forever.
• The capitalist framework often fails to foster true belonging.
• Belonging in nature is characterized by interbeing and the presence of antidotes to toxicity.
• Belonging is a spiritual journey that requires embracing discomfort and undergoing true transformation.

Chapters 00:00Introduction and Land Acknowledgement 06:46Exploring the Concept of Belonging 12:30The Imposition of Belonging 16:33Belonging in Corporate Settings 21:43The Process of Belonging 23:43Belonging and Connection 25:23Peak Belonging Experience 26:17The Magnetic Pull of Belonging 26:50Joyfulness and Rituals 27:19Grieving the Loss of Belonging 28:12The Bond of Belonging 29:02Belonging in Retreat Spaces 29:56The Flaws in the Concept of Belonging 30:27Belonging and Capitalism 31:30Belonging and Departure 32:22Belonging in Nature 33:21The Antidote to Toxicity 34:17Belonging as a Spiritual Journey 37:04Micro Moments of Belonging 38:22Belonging and the Capitalist Framework 39:01The Fear of Liberation 40:25The Guru Model and Hierarchy 41:19The Need for True Transformation 42:34The Discomfort of Belonging 43:44The Empowerment of Discomfort 45:06The Dangers of Performative Belonging 46:29Belonging as a Devotion 47:09Belonging to Self and Others 47:54Belonging Rooted in the Earth