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Episode 94 - Teaching Boys to Feel: Healing the Emotional Divide in Marriage with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst


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Why do so many men struggle to express emotion—and what happens to marriages when they do?


In this compelling episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings sit down with psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, whose groundbreaking work on the emotional development of men and boys reveals surprising truths.


From toddler tears to marital tension, Dr. Vanderhorst explains how boys are taught early on to suppress tenderness, sadness, and fear—and how that emotional restriction shows up later in intimacy, conflict, and connection.


Together, they explore:

💬Why boys are born more emotionally expressive than girls

💬 How culture trains men to mute their feelings

💬 What women can do to invite emotional depth without fear or shame

💬 Simple tools (like “feeling words” lists) to help families nurture emotional fluency


It’s an eye-opening conversation about healing generations of emotional silence—and building marriages where men and women can truly feel, connect, and grow together.


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You can find Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst and learn more about her work at : www.drvanderhorst.com


Check out the free feelings list pdf she mentions here: https://www.marriageiq.com/freebies


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Marriage iQBy Dr. Heidi Hastings and Dr. Scott Hastings