Erasing Shame

David Kim, author of the new book, “Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World” shares his life experiences that led up to writing this valuable resource for church leaders and followers of Christ to practical and doable ways to overcome loneliness in our times. Recorded live on YouTube.

Where do we even begin to tackle this huge topic? We’re going to begin by presenting the entire episode of The Same Boat Podcast that talks about Spiritual Abuse in the immigrant Asian church. This episode is a conversation with Dr. Roy Kim (Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist at New Legacy Family Counseling), Pastor Wilson Wang (lead pastor of Renew Church OC in Fullerton CA), and Jenna Fu. Thanks to the Same Boat Podcast for permission to syndicate this episode. 

See the show notes at erasingshame.com/episode622

Many of us Asians and Asian Americans have experienced trauma in our lives, from recent events as well as from past events, possibly even from generations past. 

This short episode answers 2 basic questions: What is trauma? How do we begin to heal from our trauma?

Thanks to the Trauma Healing Institute https://www.traumahealingbasics.org/ and their free resources via Creative Commons share-alike license, they share 3 questions to ask someone who is hurting. Learn how to listen to people who are in pain.

And we close this episode with a reading of the Asian American Christian Collaborative Statement on the Gun Violence in Monterey Park and Half Moon Bay—https://www.asianamericanchristiancollaborative.com/statement-on-the-gun-violence-in-monterey-park-and-half-moon-bay

(content warning: this episode talks about infertility and sexuality)

Dr. Jessica Cho shares her experiences and research into options for women seeking to be a mother, but have infertility and fertility issues, and the many challenging considerations involved with options like domestic adoption through the child welfare system, foster children, international cross-cultural adoption, fertility treatment, or remaining childless. We talk about how this affects our faith and identity in Christ, and how God gives hope in the midst of one's sorrows, griefs, and yearnings.

Dr. David Chao shares about the pioneering work of the Center of Asian American Christianity at Princeton Theological Seminary that's paving the way for Asian Americans to more fully experience the abundant life. These four main focal areas are: race, mental health, discipleship, and leadership.

And, you're invited to join a free online conference on January 19, 2023, "The Pursuit of Asian American Happiness: Improving Mental Health in the Asian American Church" to get inspired and equipped - get more info and register at https://pts.events/2023-mental-health-conference/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SoJyDhgmN6Y

Yes we Asian and Asian Americans have strong family values, but that often comes out of duty rather than delight. Dr. Jessica Cho shares about how to grow relationships by practicing emotional availability during those early years of parenting young children, and how that's so valuable in the long run. And then when those children become adults, the'll love being with their parents, and vice versa, full of joy and delight and obliged to visit their parents out of duty.

https://youtu.be/oPe24q-SL_k

Dr. Jessica Cho chats with DJ Chuang about how marriage can be much more than a perfunctory or functional stage of life between adulting and parenting. Listen to this episode for how you can enjoy your marriage with your partner and experience the naked-and-unashamed intimacy that the Bible talks about in the beginning. Learn what emotional connectedness looks and feels like up close.

https://youtu.be/r2Hg1ADXc8o

Show Notes

Dr. Jessica Cho - A New Leaf Counseling https://www.anewleafcounseling.org 

Jeanie Chang of Noona's Noonchi chats with DJ Chuang about how the Christmas holidays is the annual tradition that gathers family together physically but sometimes it's not the smoothest sleigh ride in town. How can being family time be a better opportunity for meaningful conversations and growing healthy relationships rather than steering into family drama? That's what we talk about, having bite-sized morsels of intentional thoughts shared with kindness and firmness that have the potential to grow over time into the quality time, joy, and appreciation for the people we belong with in family.

https://youtu.be/MmfYnIpbYz4 

Show Notes

Noona's Noonchi noonasnoonchi.com • "a deep dive of your favorite K-Dramas from a mental health perspective"

Connect with Jeanie Chang at Your Change Provider yourchangeprovider.com • speaker, therapist, author

Jeanie Chang's book "A is for Authentic: Not for Anxieties or for Straight A’s" https://amzn.to/3v9EDBf

How Korean Culture Went Global on NPR's Thoughtline npr.org/2022/09/06/1121364712/how-korean-culture-went-global

Dr. Jessica Cho shares her back story of going from marketing at MTV to the mission field in Japan (where they used talk therapy as part of ministry outreach) and becoming a mental health professional, with a Doctor of Psychology (PsyD) degree and also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). Tuck in your earbuds and listen to quite the adventure in how faith and work come together in her life. We also discuss navigating the many roles and careers in the mental health world and how does someone choose or decide.

Dr. Jessica Cho's private practice is A New Leaf Counseling https://www.anewleafcounseling.org and her clinical specialties are in the areas of Anxiety, Relational/Marital Discord, Fertility, Adoption Triad, and Grief & Loss. Dr. Cho is a second generation Korean-American who understands the melding of multiple generations and cultural complexities.

https://youtu.be/1VCoBvwLYIw

Pastor Jin Lee poignantly shares the urgent need for mental health among Korean American communities, opening with an alarming statistic. Jin serves as an executive board member of Mustard Seed Generation (MSG), a nonprofit ministry that is training Korean American churches to be strategically caring and supporting communities for those who struggle with mental health by providing all of its programming in English and Korean languages. MSG's impact has already exceeded tens of thousands and recognized by national leaders. 

And you don't have to be Korean American to benefit from the valuable training and resources that MSG offers. Our hope is that MSG will be a great example that inspires other Asian language communities to develop programs to advance care and compassion in their churches too.

Plus, you're invited to join their virtual event on December 8, 2022, a fundraiser that will be fun and inspiring as MSG goes from a moment to a movement. Register for free at https://www.lovemsg.org

• Mustard Seed Generation https://www.mustardseedgeneration.org

• About Jin Lee https://www.mustardseedgeneration.org/en/the-board#block-yui_3_17_2_1_1664174964994_332819

https://youtu.be/OsTwJhOFD7c