How do things escalate? A small disagreement which becomes a massive argument. It's always fuelled by a misunderstanding. It's the same misunderstanding I always talk about. The misunderstanding about there our feelings comes from. It starts with a reaction ... and then another ... and then another! It goes back and forth. More and more fuel poured on the fire. An explosion is inevitable! 

But at any point this can stop. Just one person has to see that their feelings are not coming from the other. It breaks the cycle. Things settle down. In the calm there is space to say what we need free from anger! That is always available to us! If you need help seeing this, you know where I am.

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