et cetera with Bouge & Rouge

Today's episode is about the blue wave and the boys. We talk about the midterm election results from a psychological and societal standpoint versus political and analyze the reasoning behind the behavioral patterns we are seeing across the nation. Continuing with the topic of anthropology, we discuss how this relates to mix gender friendships and group dynamics.

Today's episode is centered around this horrible Mercury Retrograde in Scorpio and the theme of death. I share what the news of a recent loss has spurred in my community and urge you all to remember that tomorrow isn't promised and to be careful today. Then, we chat about Love Is Blind and how much Netflix is exposing the real reasons behind the male loneliness epidemic. I voice my opinions about how doing all the "right" things to be a good partner for the WRONG partner can be so detrimental to your soul. 

We are due for a ramble! After discussing some very serious topics the last few episodes, we take a break to peek inside my brain and streams of consciousness. If you ever wonder what a high-functioning (I think?) ADHD person's brain sounds like, this is the episode for you. Today, I share my thoughts about my random hot streak of luck with gambling, Pokémon, art, developing creative businesses, the qualms of womanhood, and hybrid apples all in one sitting. Deep inhale with me, and let's RAAAAAMBLE AND RUMBLE BABY!

Listen, we can't take it all to the grave with us...

In today's episode, we discuss consumerism and how to combat the retail therapy urge! I share my thoughts on dupes vs fakes and what to truly invest your hard earned money on. We also dive into the problem with poor quality products creating this consumerism problem in a capitalistic economy.

Trigger Warning minutes 6:17 - 14:28 about everything going on in the media from f-ed leadership, our r@p!3t prez, and the f-ing C0rnell 7.

Alright. Get a snack. Get situated. We are diving IN today.

Today's episode skips the chit chat and life updates to make time for a very important stream of consciousness: the curse of the Millennials / Gen Zennials (aka anyone born between 1985-1998). I dive into the burden that has fallen to our generation from the constant dichotomy of spearheading progress but still rooted in traditional values to the reason why we are all unable to build a portfolio of assets like our parents and busy treating ourselves to instant gratification and dopamine hits. 

"So, where did you go to school?"

Ah, the dreaded question everyone asks regardless of whether you're in suburbs where nobody has really left OR in a big transplant city. People never like to admit why this question is asked for both high school and college in the respective settings: it's because we as humans naturally need a simple anchor to base our perspective of others. In the suburbs, your high school tells others how you grew up and your socio-economic status. In the cities, your college tells others what kind of person you aspired to be when you left home. How you react to this question also tells you how far you've come since then.

Nobody likes to admit that there are truths behind stereotypes and that there is a class system (not to be mistaken with caste) in place when it comes to any society. People can move through that class system but it requires a specific mindset, behaviors, and life experience to do so. The reality is we aren't tied to those 4-8 years permanently, but those 4-8 years we developed into the person we are today (or aren't anymore) which is why it's a question asked regardless of the crowd. You can be privileged with all the right accolades but go nowhere in your life, and you could have a community college degree and become extremely successful because you knew how to reach your potential.

In this episode, I break down why we are so "elitist" when it comes to education and how the crowd and environment of a school are so crucial to a young developing mind. I share my highs and lows from my "brand name" schools and why I think it matters more what you do with what you have versus if you went to one of these brand name schools or not. We are more than our degrees, but our degrees do set a foundation for who we want to become in our early adult years. 

Holla we want prenup, "WE WANT PRENUP, YEAAAAAH!"

Wedding season is almost over, so let's talk about marriage itself and how our society centers everything around it. Recently, I've seen quite a few divorces under a year of marriage and it led me to ponder on the core reasons and synchronicities in values and mindset needed for a successful marriage. We also tackle the very important but polarizing prenup topic and why I wrote mine with my current bf 3 weeks in. 

UPDATE: Episodes will be bi-weekly through Labor Day!

It's the last month of my whimsical girl summer! Today, I share stories of my psychic abilities with blind boxes and how I've been whimsy-waterboarding my boyfriend into accepting one or two of his own trinkets and figurines. I also share some travel plans (ASIA!!!!!!!) and my love for new latest albums that came out before diving into today's main topic: discernment in the comments section.

We live in a parasocial society that has forgotten that freedom of speech is a privilege lately (although it should be a right) and communication is a tool, not a weapon. Today, I dissect how I've been able to exercise my discernment to navigate trolls and immature comments on my socials. I explain how to turn a sticky situation around for your benefit and how to stay true to yourself both online and in real life. 

Before listening, check out @naomibabybu's TikTok on 6/25 about Tastestlop: Sophistication vs The Algorithm for the official inspiration behind this more casual discussion of taste.

Today, we're back with a (semi) fixed microphone and an update on my whimsy girl summer! I share what blind boxes I've been collecting as well as my hypocritical splurge on Labubus and closets for them this month. Then, we dive into the topic of having "taste." In a world where everyone is trying to tell you who you are and what taste is, have you fallen for the same algorithm to cosplay someone with "taste" or have you done the work to actually develop taste? Taste is a social language that determines status and culture. Consuming taste is very different from developing taste. To have taste, one must develop it individually and slowly over time after challenging themselves, not because they conform to a formula. 

So, do you have taste? Or is it someone else's?

You might want to turn this one on 0.75x speed because I blasted off into yapland in a racecar... Sorry for the two week hiatus! It's hell season and work so yours truly had to work late.

In this episode, I ramble quite hard about my frustration with the term girls' girl and how it's evolved from good intentions into something negative. I'd tell you more, but honestly you'll find out all my unfiltered thoughts when you listen so I'll just let you digest my speed talking LOL!

Inspiration: @Lindsiann on TikTok 5/26 horizontal episode