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In this episode, I talk about You’re So Vain, not simply as a brilliant takedown of a self-absorbed man, but as a song about vanity as failed adulthood.

Vanity is not just liking yourself too much. It is what happens when a person chooses the performance of being special over the responsibility of being real.

And it honors the person left behind, who gets clear enough to say:

I see you.

And I see what you chose.

Andrea Fiondo
 Kundalini Yoga in Detroit
 Ethical Adulthood: A Detroit Soundtrack

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Some losses arrive with funerals and farewells.

Most do not.

In this episode of Ethical Adulthood: A Detroit Soundtrack, I  explore Darlingside’s haunting song The God of Loss and the quiet accumulation of endings that accompany every human life.

Friendships change. Dreams evolve. Bodies age. Children grow up. Careers end. Versions of ourselves disappear. Most of these losses are so ordinary that we barely notice them happening—yet they shape us all the same.

The song imagines loss not as an enemy to defeat, but as a companion that walks beside us from the beginning. From a yogic perspective, this raises a difficult question: If loss is inevitable, what does it mean to live well anyway?

This episode explores grief, impermanence, acceptance, and one of the central capacities of ethical adulthood: the ability to remain open-hearted in a world where nothing can be held forever.

Because maturity is not learning how to avoid loss.

It is learning how to love what is temporary.

🎵 Song discussed: The God of Loss by Darlingside

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What if the problem isn’t that life is unfair?

What if the problem is that we’ve been looking for peace in the wrong place?

In this episode, I explore Fleetwood Mac’s Go Your Own Way and the enduring fantasy that success will finally make everything okay.

Lindsey Buckingham and Stevie Nicks had talent. Fame. Money. Creative brilliance. One of the most successful bands in history. They had, by almost every measure, won the game.

And yet the song exists.

What if that is the lesson?

What if no amount of achievement can provide the peace we imagine waiting for us on the other side of success?

Ethical adulthood begins when we stop searching for completion in outcomes and start looking for it where it has always been available: in our relationship to this moment, this life, and this imperfect human experience.

Because if peace depends on winning, most of us will spend our lives chasing it.

And even the winners won’t find it.

Andrea Fiondo

Ethical Adulthood Podcast

Kundalini Yoga in Detroit, LLC

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From the time we are children, we are taught to celebrate winners.

The champions.
The valedictorians.
The people who come out on top.

But most of life is not winning.

Most of life is showing up.

In this episode, I explore Fought & Lost and what it has to teach us about resilience, participation, and the courage to remain engaged even when success is not guaranteed.

Because adulthood eventually asks something difficult of us:

Can we continue to love, create, work, risk, and care when there is no promise of victory?

We will win.

We will lose.

We will rise.

We will fall.

The invitation is not to become a champion.

The invitation is to remain a decent human being no matter which side of the handshake line you're on today.

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What if the most important part of a protest song isn’t the protest?

In this episode, Andrea explores the 1969 jazz classic Compared to What by Les McCann and Eddie Harris—a furious, joyful, street-level masterpiece that still feels startlingly alive more than fifty years later.

The singer is angry. The horns sound like they’re throwing furniture. The world appears to be coming apart.

And yet, buried inside all that outrage is a remarkably mature question:

Compared to what?

As a former school psychologist and longtime yoga teacher, Andrea reflects on gratitude, perspective, historical memory, and the importance of calibration in a culture increasingly drawn toward certainty, panic, and despair.

How do we know when things are truly terrible?

What ruler are we using?

And what happens when we examine the measuring stick itself?

This episode is less about politics than perception—less about answers than the questions that help us see more clearly.

Because ethical adulthood may begin with a simple act:

Looking at reality honestly.

And asking:

Compared to what?

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Some songs arrive carrying a philosophy.

Others arrive making fun of philosophy.

In this episode, I revisit Edie Brickell & New Bohemians’ 1988 hit What I Am—a loose, wobbly, deceptively wise song that asks what happens when our minds become a little too impressed with themselves.

Part memory piece, part cultural reflection, and part cautionary tale about certainty, this episode explores intellectual peacockery, spiritual performance, the seduction of sounding profound, and the difference between real insight and showing off our feathers.

Along the way, we’ll visit Laguna Beach in 1988, talk about why this remarkable album still holds together decades later, explore the surprising connection between Edie Brickell and Paul Simon, and consider one of the most useful questions ethical adulthood can ask:

Am I telling the truth?

Or am I enjoying my feathers?

Sometimes philosophy really is the talk on a cereal box.

Sometimes religion really is a smile on a dog.

And sometimes wisdom sounds less like certainty and more like:

“I know what I know, if you know what I mean.”

Thanks for listening.

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What kind of society are we building?

Rush’s “Closer to the Heart” asks that question through power, labor, art, philosophy, and ordinary human responsibility. In this episode, Andrea explores why ethical adulthood is not self-optimization but conscious participation in a shared reality.

From leaders and artists to plowmen and philosophers, this song imagines a civilization built through coordination rather than domination — through ordinary people choosing integrity over cynicism.

A reflection on:
 • power and stewardship
 • work and meaning
 • participation vs performance
 • culture, humanity, and moral orientation
 • staying human in systems that reward disconnection

Not perfection.
Not purity.
Just moving a little closer to the heart.

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In this episode of Ethical Adulthood: A Detroit Soundtrack, Andrea reflects on distance — not just physical distance, but the slow emotional drift that can happen between friends, partners, parents, children, and even versions of ourselves.

Using Carole King’s So Far Away as the doorway, this episode explores adulthood, longing, repair, nervous-system exhaustion, and the strange modern condition of being constantly connected while quietly isolated. Sometimes nobody did anything monstrous. Sometimes life simply accumulated: jobs, schedules, grief, fear, pride, distraction.

This is an episode about what happens when we wake up and realize someone we love has drifted farther away than we ever intended.Not a lecture. Not nostalgia. Just an honest look at relationship, tenderness, and the courage it takes to remain reachable.

If this episode made you think of someone you drifted away from, maybe send the text.  Not to fix the whole story.  Just to remind them you're still somewhere on the map.

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In this episode, I reflect on Steely Dan’s “Home at Last” through The Odyssey, Odysseus, the Sirens, and the strange human problem of remaining tied to the mast after the danger has passed.

What if the crisis is over, but the nervous system is still braced for more?

What if home is not one more project, reinvention, improvement, or dramatic chapter away?

This episode explores Steely Dan’s brilliant, slippery world; the seduction of drama; the project mind; survival structures that once protected us; and the possibility that ordinary life may not be a waiting room after all.

Sometimes maturity is not a climb, a quest, or a journey.

Sometimes maturity is staying where we are long enough to realize:

This is my life.
The danger is past.
The mast can loosen.
Home at last.

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Ethical Adulthood: A Detroit Soundtrack — Episode 2: “Closer to the Ground”

In this episode, Andrea reflects on Joy of Cooking’s 1971 song “Closer to the Ground” as a reminder that ethical adulthood is not about rising above ordinary life, but coming back into contact with it.

Through kitchens, bodies, machines, spirituality, onions, AI, Instagram, and the inconvenient fact of having hips, this episode asks what it means to stop looking for certainty in symbols, systems, rituals, and technology — and instead return to the ground beneath us.

A warm, funny, embodied meditation on ordinary life, practical joy, and the strange wisdom of remembering we are humans with bodies we need to connect with to stay wise.

Episode themes: groundedness, embodiment, spiritual bypassing, technology, ordinary joy, ethical adulthood, Joy of Cooking, Season 2.