Therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Lyubim Kogan—five-time immigrant, community leader, and founder of Wings for Heroes—to explore the unseen emotional toll behind a lifetime of displacement, survival, and service. Lyubim opens up about cultural clashes, family conflict, and the weight of witnessing war from near and afar, coming to the powerful realization that even those who help others must learn to honor their own pain. Together they reflect on resilience, identity, and the healing magic found in community and courageous self-ownership.

Let this story remind you that your pain doesn't require a battlefield to be real, and your healing doesn't need permission to matter. Take a moment today to ask yourself: Where have I minimized my own wounds because someone else "had it worse"?

Write down one experience you've dismissed, acknowledge its impact, and offer yourself the compassion you so freely give to others. Healing begins the moment you allow your own heart to be worthy of your own care.

Lyubim's links: Website, Insta

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