What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want is the identity you're unconsciously holding onto?

In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the powerful intersection of psychology and spirituality, diving into identity work, manifestation, self-sabotage, and the courage it takes to become the version of yourself capable of receiving what you desire. She unpacks how subconscious patterns keep us stuck, why vulnerability is essential for transformation, and how the people you surround yourself with can either reinforce your old identity or support your growth.

If you're ready to stop repeating old patterns and step into a more authentic, aligned version of yourself, this episode offers practical insights to help you begin.

Choose one behavior this week that reflects the person you're becoming—not the person you've always been. Small, consistent actions reinforce a new identity more powerfully than waiting until you "feel ready."

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In this deeply personal solo episode, Malisa Hepner shares what it's been like navigating life after profound loss while continuing to choose joy, presence, and healing. Reflecting on how PTSD, grief, and the nervous system intersect, Malisa offers an honest look at what healing actually feels like in real life.

She also explores why she no longer resists normal human emotions, how creating an energizing home has become an act of self-care, and why reconnecting with creativity without chasing validation has changed her relationship with life.

If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to hold joy and sorrow at the same time, this episode is a reminder that healing isn't about leaving grief behind—it's about learning to carry love differently.

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What does it actually mean to become embodied? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Ben Oofana to explore the path to enlightenment through presence, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the wisdom of the body. Together, they discuss how unresolved trauma disconnects us from ourselves, why emotions are meant to be experienced rather than avoided, and how traditional Native American healing practices can support deeper transformation.

This conversation explores the difference between intellectual understanding and true embodiment, offering practical insights for anyone seeking greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic inner peace.

Enlightenment isn't about escaping your emotions—it's about becoming fully present with them. True healing happens when the mind, body, and spirit come back into alignment.

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Ben's links: Website, Teach me to meditate, Heartache Hotline, Breakup First Aid, Heal My Heartache, Youtube, Insta

In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner dives into emotional availability, self-sabotage, accountability and spiritual beliefs.

This conversation challenges polarizing thinking while offering practical insights into healing, boundaries, and personal growth. Whether you're navigating difficult relationships or your own patterns, this episode will leave you thinking long after it ends.

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In this deeply moving conversation, host Malisa Hepner sits down with grief advocate Kirsten O'Connor of thisisgrief.nz to explore what happens after unimaginable loss. Following the death of her daughter Kahlia, Kirsten shares the lessons grief has taught her about love, presence, and what genuine support really looks like.

Together, they discuss why our culture struggles with grief, how acknowledging death can deepen our connection to life, and why sharing our stories is one of the most powerful paths toward healing. Whether you're grieving yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers compassion, understanding, and hope without minimizing the reality of loss.

Grief isn't a problem to solve—it is love that continues after loss. Healing begins when we stop trying to fix grief and start making space for it.

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Kirsten's links: Website, Insta, Tiktok

Kirsten's first visit to the show: Spotify, Apple

Kirsten's Second Visit

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What if confidence doesn't come from changing who you are—but from understanding how you're designed?

In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Katie MacLachlan (@begoodguide) to explore how Human Design and astrology can serve as tools for greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic self-expression. Together, they discuss Mercury retrograde, releasing conditioned patterns, honoring your unique blueprint, and overcoming the fear of being seen. Whether you're new to these concepts or have studied them for years, this conversation offers practical insights for living and leading with greater authenticity.

The more you understand your unique design, the less energy you spend trying to become someone else—and the easier it becomes to show up authentically and confidently.

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Katie's last visit to the show!

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Can astrology be more than horoscopes? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Bee Doyle to explore how astrology can become a powerful tool for healing, self-awareness, and personal growth. Bee shares her journey into astrology, explains how birth charts can reveal patterns, strengths, and challenges, and discusses how understanding your cosmic blueprint can support trauma healing and living with greater purpose. Whether you're astrology-curious or already a believer, this conversation offers a grounded perspective on using astrology as a tool for deeper self-understanding.

Astrology isn't about predicting your future—it's about understanding yourself more deeply. When paired with curiosity and self-reflection, it can become a meaningful framework for healing, growth, and navigating life's challenges with greater compassion.

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Bee's links: Website, Insta, Youtube

Bee's links: Website, Insta, Youtube

Host, Malisa Hepner, explores the often-overlooked signs of emotional unavailability and why it isn't always obvious. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and practical insights, she explains how emotional unavailability can show up as perfectionism, overthinking, people-pleasing, emotional independence, intellectualizing feelings, and more. Learn how these protective patterns develop, how they impact relationships, and what it takes to create deeper connection with yourself and the people you love.

Emotional availability isn't about feeling every emotion perfectly—it's about being willing to stay present with your inner experience instead of protecting yourself from it. Healing begins when you recognize the subtle ways you've learned to disconnect and practice choosing connection over protection.

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What does it really take to heal when life feels unbearable? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with author, speaker, and Peace, Love and Bring a Bat podcast host David Chametzky for an honest conversation about mental health, emotional availability, and finding hope. David shares the practices that helped him move from surviving to truly living, including the healing power of havening, self-awareness, authentic love, and forgiveness. Together, they explore what it means to face your pain with compassion and create lasting emotional change.

When you're overwhelmed, resist the urge to judge what you're feeling. Instead, pause and ask yourself, "What is this emotion trying to tell me?" Meeting yourself with curiosity rather than criticism creates the safety needed for healing and lasting change.

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Host, Malisa Hepner, welcomes back to the show, Laura Bratton, as they explore what it truly means to be a "villager"—not just offering support when life gets hard, but learning how to ask for help, receive care, and build meaningful connections before a crisis occurs.

Through personal stories, practical mental models, and honest conversations about emotional support, Malisa and Laura examine why so many of us struggle to communicate what we need and why supporting others doesn't always mean fixing their problems. They share practical ways to care for yourself, show up more intentionally for the people you love, and create the kind of community where no one has to navigate life's challenges alone.

Being part of a village isn't only about showing up for others—it's also about allowing yourself to need, ask, and receive. Meaningful support begins when we move beyond assuming what people need and learn to communicate, listen, and create space for honest connection.

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November, 2025 - Uncertain Timelines, Unshakeable Truths: Healing Through the Unknown (Spotify, Apple) January, 2026 - Holding yourself with kindness: Gratitude, Vulnerability and Healing (Spotify, Apple) April 10- Spirituality & Healing: The Truth About Self-Compassion and Spiritual Bypassing