EVERYTHING EVER

Welcome to a snippet of the inside of my brain. The past few months of my life have been humbling. 

You remember that time you decided to give up on relationships? Yep… we’ve all been there.

Well in this episode, family and couples therapist, Imani Intouch, delves into your questions about relationships… a professional outlook on some of the relationship issues we all face form time to time.

How do we start up conversations about trauma within our partnerships? What is a trauma bond? What are attachment styles? How important is our relationship with ourselves? Why do we keep going back to toxic situations? Why does healthy love feel so boring? Why is there no spark? Do we romanticise the wrong things?

For anyone looking to improve their own relationships, or simply anyone excited to learn more about the psychology behind why we do some of the things we do within relationships, this episode is for you.

(TW: Mention of abuse)

More in this episode:

Where to find Imani: 

Instagram: @imani.intouch 

Website: https://imaniintouch.com

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast 

If you aren't already familiar... What is neurodivergency? I hear you ask? By the textbook: anyone who strays from what is considered the cognitive norm. ADHD, dyspraxia, dyslexia, and autism are only a few that the term covers. 

In this episode, model Jessie Bryant comes on to talk about her experience with ADHD, from being young and not understanding why she felt so different, to eventually being diagnosed and gaining a better understanding. From being neurodivergent in an education system that is anything but friendly to ADHD, to the perks that come with it, this episode is hopefully a starter into understanding what so many misunderstand.

In this episode:

- What is neurodivergency?

- How does neurodivergency fit in the mainstream education system 

- What people mis-assume about ADHD

- What actually is ADHD? (And the different types)

- How neurotypical people can be less inconsiderate 

- Jessie's experience of getting diagnosed 

Where to find Jessie:

Insta: @jessiexbryant

Other platforms:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/everything-ever/id1585640985?i=1000535160945

Insta: @everythingever.thepodcast (if you wanna be on any episodes about neurodivergency, hit me up here!)

Youtube: Everything Ever - the podcast

Astrology. The topic that was once underground that has now become mainstream. “What’s your star sign?” - I wonder how many times a day that question is asked.

Whether you know it as just your sun sign, or your roadmap to if you and your next partner are compatible or not, something you read about in your weekly newspaper, as just the thing the ‘woo woo’ girl next door keeps going on about, use it as a point of connection to the rest of the universe, or plan out when to rest and when to work according to the lunar cycle… in this episode we delve right into the very stigmatised topic of astrology.

Patrick Geary, an astrologer, addresses what actually IS a birth chart, and how we can interpret it. We delve into some of the transits of the past year (Saturn-Pluto conjunction anyone?), and how the major shifts we saw in the sky correlated to those here on Earth. For those of you that already have a good understanding of astrology, Patrick offers what might be a refreshing new perspective on the topic and how we can relate to it. For those of you that don't know much, this episode is a good place to start.

Major timestamps:

Intro: 00.00

About Patrick: 06:00

What is astrology: 15:00

What is a birth chart: 32:00

Astrology transits of the past year (pandemic transits): 45:00

Connecting with the lunar cycle: 1:12

Mercury retrograde: 1:22

More about what we cover:

- Skepticism 

- Having a healthy relationship to astrology 

- Planets, houses, and signs

- Lunar cycles 

- Predictions for the next few years

- How we relate to authority 

- Shifting from a 200 year cycle of Earth, to now Air

- Saturn-Pluto conjunction 

Where to find Patrick:

Blog: https://www.stillwaters.space/

Email list: https://stillwaters.subtrack.com/

Instagram: @patrickisclueless

Email: [email protected] 

Other platforms:

Insta: @everythingever.thepodcast 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w

Credits:

Music: Nathalie De Leuw

Musicians... I don't know how you do it but apparently you hear music in your brains?!?!?!? The fact that you can hear original sound in your minds genuinely, deeply, and profoundly baffles me but at least it has produced an episode where we try to talk about this as best we can - featuring me (someone who knows nothing about music), and my childhood friend (who knows everything about music).

Nathalie De Leuw is a musician who has loved music since she was young, and in this episode we discuss all things music.

In this episode: 

- What it's like to perform 

- Imposter syndrome

- The importance of art 

- Opinions about the performance industry 

- Self expression 

- Shyness VS confidence 

- "Putting yourself out there"

- Creating music + the process of making art 

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w

Credits:

Nathalie De Leuw (Insta: @natsuma_music)

HOW DO YOU FIND THE CLIT?!?!?! 

Ok hi, now I have your attention (although we do address this in the episode)... have you ever found yourself dissatisfied with your sex life, intimacy, or unable to communicate in those settings? 

Yeah. Not to generalise, but pretty much every woman under the sun, as well as men, have most likely at one point felt that way. According to some studies, only 1 third of adults are actually satisfied with their sex life (in the UK at least). Comfortable communication, feeling connected to our bodies, and feeling safe in intimate settings are things that are far less common than they should be. And why is that? 

(TW: This episode does discuss sexual assault, consent, and boundaries.)

This episode addresses these topics, holding an open discussion and debate between two friends - we share some personal experiences and raise a few questions that we, ourselves, are still figuring out.

I hope this episode creates a sense of comfort for the topics and themes that we are sometimes less comfortable talking about, and that you realise you are not alone in feeling how you feel about these things sometimes. 

With love, enjoy the episode. 

Some other topics covered - 

- Being sexualised in a work environment 

- Feeling voiceless

- Why do we not speak up?

- The orgasm gap

- Female sexuality being seen as complicated 

- Stigma around female sexuality 

- What does it mean to 'hold the space'?

- Feeling comfortable enough to actually say no

- How a 'no' should be responded to 

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w/videos

Spiritual narcissism, cultural appropriation in spirituality, ‘THE WEST”, how the system becomes a crutch… this episode is packed with wisdom and important discussion.

Featuring Nicholas Helwett, who is a musician, activist, and is part of Indigenous Enterprise, the conversation taught me a lot. Offering perspectives on so many buzzwords that we so often hear or read, especially on social media, this episode also delves into the process that can sometimes occur behind activism - the process of breaking generational trauma, addressing abusive patterns, to then be able to powerfully challenge collective patterns of abuse.

“As within, so without”, they say, and this episode addresses that statement.

We also talk about:

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w/videos

Credits: 

Speaker: Nicholas Hewlett (Intsa: @nicholadjamesorlando)

Music: Nathalie De Lew (Insta: @natsuma_music)

This is the first episode of ‘Sage in the Streets’ - the series, recorded with one of my favs, Miranda Stone.

Adding a bit of a spiritual take to a bit of girl talk, the series offers reflections on relationships (the fun and not so fun ones), communication styles, different definitions of love, and navigating ourselves out of toxic habits.

Have you ever gotten too deep into self reflection, self analysing, mindfulness, or spirituality, to the point where it can even become inhibiting? Well, this first ep. debates how spirituality can be inhibiting VS how it can be helpful. Can mindfulness ever become too much, and can you find a balance between observing your emotions and embodying them? We discuss some of our old unhealthy habits and relationships, and how we witnessed each other through these stages and transitions into toxic relationships... basically we spill the tea, touching a little bit on manifestation at the end.

Topics -

- When is spirituality helpful and when is it not? (starts at around 15:00)

- Balancing mindfulness VS embodiment

- Toxic relationships 

- Seeking out extremities 

- Jumping from one extreme to another 

- Allowing ourselves to make' mistakes' 

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w

Credits:

Music: Nathalie De Leuw (@natsuma_music) 

Speaker: Miranda Stone 

Aliens, anarchy, whether or not people can change, UFO's, blocking people online, harbouring resentment VS apologising after arguments, going to an all boys school, and using visualisation to change your neural pathways... this episode has the WHOLE shebang. 

I sit down with two of guy friends to chuck random topics up into the air to see what perspectives and opinions come out. A laidback, light-hearted episode, half of it had me cracking up (so apologies for the loud laugh). If you love to chat about all the wacky/possibly questionable theories there are with an open mind and sense of humour, then this one is for you. 

Take everything we say with a pinch of salt... we were there in a less serious mindset where philosophising, questioning, and debating for the sake of it was the objective. 

Have fun listening to this episode! 

Other platforms: 

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w

Credits: 

Music: Nathalie De Leuw (@natsuma_music) 

Speakers: John Cresswell, Guy Muncer

Dedicated to all those of you that are nosy and curious about other people's relationships... I present to you the very first episode of EVERYTHING EVER.

This brings to you a background check of me and one of my lockdown loves, aka, one of my now closest friends. You hear our story, how we met, and all the specific little quirks that weirded us out about each other but also drew us to one another. All relationships have their stories, lessons, and own unique world that is created from them - this is one of them. An up close and personal audio recording of our reflections on our dynamic, what it was like to meet in a lockdown, the significant point at which we met that shaped the manifestation of our friendship, the challenges of being emotionally closed off, the differences with which we viewed certain moments, and feeling doubtful in social situations. You know when you write in your journal, or whatever it is, about all your thoughts on certain people... this episode is that... but out loud and recorded.

It's a chill episode. Nothing too hype, nothing too crazy, with a few almost tears but that's to be expected.

So for anyone curious, nosy, and craving a candid conversation (with a couple of tears here and there), enjoy.

In this episode...

- Feeling like something is missing (but not knowing what it is), feeling out of place, and doubting your ability to form meaningful connections.

- Being in the arts + being surrounded by passionate people.

- Developing a relationship during a lockdown.

- People pleasing VS being honest when something feels like a 'no'... boundaries.

- Forming a connection out of choice rather than obligation.

- Different perspectives of the same significant moments.

- A dive into some of our insecurities.

- Pushes for growth in the connection - being pushed to let go/emotional safety.

- Encouraging emotional vulnerability after resenting emotions.

Other platforms:

Instagram: @everythingever.thepodcast

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZAJR42l-Mg_25yrlMjc-1w/videos

Credits:

Music: Nathalie De Leuw (Insta: @natsuma_music)