Plenty of capable people learn to lead by copying whoever's already in charge. It works for a while, right up until it leaves you running on someone else's fuel and still not quite yourself.
Ruth Andermatt is a Canadian self-leadership coach who has spent more than two decades working with executives and emerging leaders, most of them introverts. She was often the only woman in the room, and she has thought hard about what it costs to keep conforming to a style that was never going to fit.
If you're in a non-titled role wishing you had more influence, or eyeing a step into management because it looks like the only way to have impact, this conversation is for you. Ruth draws a clean line between managing people and leading them, and she begins where most leadership advice skips ahead: how you lead yourself. Expect plenty on holding your ground without conforming, guiding the people above you, and what to do when the version of success you've been chasing quietly stops fitting.
We Explore- Why conforming to get into leadership tends to run out of road
- The difference between managing people and actually leading them
- Leading the people above you, not only the ones who report to you
- What self-leadership asks of you long before any title arrives
- The cost of staying in survival mode and calling it dedication
Timestamps
01:15 Being the only woman in the room and the pull to conform
05:45 Masculine and feminine leadership, and why most workplaces pick one
08:48 The exhaustion of dancing to someone else's tune just to get hired
13:40 Why a title doesn't make you a leader, and what self-leadership actually means
16:44 Hitting a plateau and shifting your perspective instead of walking away
29:05 The blind spot that holds capable people back, women especially
33:08 Leading the people above you, not just the ones who report to you
41:25 Survival worn as a badge of honour, and the price every choice carries
45:09 Untangling your identity from how you got here and redefining success
55:48 Outgrowing your manager and repositioning without burning the bridge
About Ruth AndermattRuth Andermatt is a self-leadership coach and consultant and the founder of Andermatt Consulting Experience (A.C.E. Inc) in Canada. A former national-level paddler and UBC graduate, she has coached executives, business owners and emerging leaders for more than twenty years, with a particular focus on women and introverts who lead quietly but effectively. Her view, useful for anyone in a hierarchical field like healthcare, is that leading yourself is the foundation everything else is built on, title or no title.
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachruth/
- Website: https://andermattconsulting.com
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