What do you do when the person you've been in love with for 22 years tells you that they don't love you anymore... If you're an alcoholic, you drink. So, that's what I did. I drank and drank, and drank, while crooning at the moon. Coldness and detachment is part of divorce and a natural process of separation. That doesn't mean you have to like it or even endure it - If you decide to leave your person and there is still love, avoid this part if you can. Don't play games, try not to manipulate. Don't drink. Be patient, be kind and courteous, be nice. It's worth it in the long run. My person couldn't do this part and to be honest, I was a little late to the party myself.