In this episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria Arpa welcomes Conroy Harris, a shadow work therapist and former CEO of a mentoring organization called Band of Brothers. Their conversation delves into the concept of shadow work, which involves exploring the hidden aspects of our psyche, particularly emotions like anger and grief, to achieve a sense of wholeness. Conroy shares insights on how societal norms often suppress these emotions, leading to destructive behaviors and disconnection. They also discuss the shadow work needed within organizations, particularly in the context of power dynamics and ethical practices, highlighting the importance of self-reflection for individuals in positions of authority. The episode emphasizes the need for safe spaces to express and integrate our darker emotions, ultimately fostering healing and understanding in both personal and organizational contexts.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Understanding Shadow Work: Shadow work involves exploring the hidden parts of our psyche, particularly the emotions and traits we often suppress, such as anger and grief. By integrating these aspects, individuals can achieve a sense of wholeness and healing.

Safe Expression of Emotions: There is a critical distinction between expressing anger and acting it out destructively. Safe spaces for expression allow individuals to confront their emotions without fear of humiliation or punishment, which is essential for personal growth.

Cultural and Organizational Shadows: Organizations have their own collective shadows, which can manifest in power dynamics and ethical failures. The culture within organizations often reflects unspoken rules and can lead to harmful behaviors if not addressed.

Individual Responsibility for Change: Change within organizations and society begins with individuals taking responsibility for their own shadows. Self-reflection and acknowledgment of personal issues are crucial for fostering a healthier environment.

Need for Trauma-Informed Practices: There is a gap in trauma-informed practices for those in positions of power. Understanding the trauma that may drive individuals to seek power is essential for creating a more ethical and effective system, particularly in fields like law enforcement and justice.

SOCIAL LINKS

www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org

www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk

www.workplacehuddle.com

https://www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk/training/

HOST BIO

Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).  

Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.

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