Ninazo iziluleko zowesifazane omkhwenyana wakhe usezophuma ejele?Umnyeni wami ubetoke iminyaka emithathu,usezobuya ngenyanga ezayo.Ngilangazelele ukubuya kwakhe ,ngibe sebudlwaneni obumnandi isibili naye ,kodwa khona lapho futhi ngizizwa nginovalo.Angikwazi ngqo ngqo engingakulindela.Ningangisiza?

Singaba ngumzali kanjani wengane endala kube kunezinye ezisencane ekhaya ezimbili? Zintathu sezizonke izingane zethu : umfana nentombazana esise- high school ,nendodana esiphakathi ko 20.Lo omdala izinto azimhambelanga kahle ukuyobheka impilo osekumphoqe abuye ekhaya okwesikhashana.Siyabona usemdala futhi kumele simlawule ngokwehlukile ngokwemithetho ,nokho sisabela umthelela engenzeka kulaba abancane .Zikhona iziluleko eningangipha zona ?

Ngenze njani uma uwakwami ekhuluma okungeyikho kumbe okungiphoxayo emndenini noma kubangani? Angicabangi usuke ekuqondile kodwa mina kugcina kungehlisa isithunzi.Sekuyiminyaka yenzeka lento.Ekuqaleni ngangiye ngimlinde size sibe sobabili bese ngigonyuluke kuye.Manje sekuvese kwadlanga futhi sengibona kungcono ngivese ngingasalindi manje kodwa ngimdumele khona esidlangalaleni ze ngivikele isithunzi sami.Yikuphi eningakusho?

Angeke walokotha ukuthathe kancane ukuklama umngcele emshadweni wakho. Ubudlelwano emishadweni eminingi sebube nduvunduvu ngenxa yokungakali imingcele ecacile, yagcina ingena esonweni.

Ngakube indoda eshadile ingasiza owesifazane oshadile ngezinkinga zakhe zomshado bebobabili?

‘Ngingamqondisa kanjani umfanawami onkambo ikhombisa ukungakhuli ngengqondo ? Hhayi ngoba engezwa kodwa ubudedengu nje.Isibonelo nje akazibeki izinto zakhe ,uvese ashiye ibhola lakhe la lingantshontshwa kalula khona,ashiye kanjalo izicathulo namathoyizi.Kwenziwanjani ?

Umnyeni wami akakaze abe ngonodlame kimi ,nokho kuluduba oluhlukile ngamalengiso mase kuziwa kubantwana bami .Uvama njalo ukubabhaxa,futhi useke wabalimaza kaninganyana .Ngifuna ukuvikela ,nokho ngiyesaba ukuthi lokho uzokuthatha kanjani uma ngimphonsela inselelo .Yikuphi okumele ngikwenze ?

Ninazo iziluleko kophila nowakwakhe ogcine eseqhoqhobelwe imidanti engenasidingo ? Kimi sekuyacaca ungenwe wukucabanga ngobuhaba.Uhlala njalo exwayile ekhathazekile .Akalali engabhekaka isicabha kashumi .Ngihola kahle ,kodwa uhlala ekhala ngokuthi wesaba kungenzeka sihlulwe zindleko suku lumbe Sekuqala ukungisanganisa lokhu ,kukhona enikuphakamisayo ?

Izimfuno zemsebenzi edla isikhathi kanye nesindayo zinkulu, bese kuphenduka inselelo ukuthola isikhathi sakho nomndeni okuyinto esemqoka Esikhathini sethu esigijimayo, nala khona i-technology isigcina simatasa nangeminwe yethu sihlala sikwezokuxhumana, kubiza ukukuqonda ngqo ukwenza isikhathi nomndeni ikakhulukazi la khona ukudinga.

Ngingama kanjani eqinisweni likaNkulunkulu kodwa ngingabi ngowahlulelayo ? Ngingumuntu okhulumayo ngokholo lwakhe ,okugcina kwenza abantu bangiphonsele inselelo .AmaKhrestu amaningi kulezinsuku azi ukuthi ungaba likholwa wenze nantoni oyicabangayo bese uyasindiswa ngomusa nesihawu seNkosi.Banomqondo wokuthi umhlatshelo onguKhrestu unamandla phezu komthetho okuphetha ngokuthi uNkulunkulu angabi nandaba nobuqotho bokuziphatha .Lokhu kuvamisa ukuba yilomqondo ikakhulukazi kwezokuziphatha ngezocansi .Angifuni ukuzwakala ngingozenza olungileyo ,nokho ngikholwa ukuba lomqondo udinga ukuphonselwa inselelo.Ningangisiza ?

Yiziphi izimpawu zokugxila ophuzweni ? Ngikhathazekile ngomkhwenyana wami kodwa angazi noma nginesiqiniseko sokuthi kukhona akwenzayo ngophuzo.Uma ehleli nabangani bakhe bebuka ibhola kwi TV kusuke kuphuzwa utshwala.Nanxa kungenzeki njalo.Kahle hle ngenye yezindlela azivikela ngayo uthi uphuza makungama -weekend noma kune- game .Uthi yisikhathi nje sokuzijabulisa nabangane bakhe ,engekho emsebenzini epholisa ingqondo bezibukela ibhola.Uze ame ekutheni abadakwa bona bathi qhabu nje .Nicabangani ngalokhu ?