Whatdo you do when you lose your father at 14 and your mother in your mid-twenties,leaving you completely unparented without a roadmap for life?
RobertDelFave is a specialized grief coach,host of the Carried Forward podcast (formerly Unparented), and author of the upcoming book The Other Side of This: The Messy Truth About Grief for Teens.For nearly two decades after his losses, Robert tried to outrun his pain bystaying constantly busy, building a career, and starting a family. But afterrealizing that avoidance was silently shaping every area of his life, hestopped running and learned to walk directly toward his loss. Today, he helpsindividuals and grieving teens move from feeling haunted by loss to activelycarrying it forward.
In this episode of FailCraft, Robert joins Ezekiel to dismantle thewell-meaning lies society tells grieving people. He discusses why clichés like"they're in a better place" alienate those in pain, how unprocessedgrief manifests as chronic busyness and emotional numbing, and the shiftrequired to stop white-knuckling through loss.
Inthis episode of FailCraft, you’ll discover:
· The Illusion of Moving On: Why pretending loss doesn't affect you is the realfailure, not the loss itself.
· Unwitnessed Grief: The danger of well-meaning social clichés and whygrieving people need presence, not fixes.
· Grief for Teens: Why teenagers need honest, un-clinical space to processlosing a parent.
· Haunted vs. Honoring: Shifting your relationship with loss from beingcontrolled by it to carrying it with purpose.
· Grief Coaching vs. Therapy: How peer-led, specialized grief coaching helps you builda path forward.
· Practical Daily Shifts: Simple daily habits—sunlight, movement, and honestconversation—that support healing.
ConnectWith Robert DelFave:
· Website Hub: robertdelfave.com(Explore coaching programs, podcast episodes, and book updates!)
· Book an Intro Call: Schedule a free intro coaching session directly on hiswebsite.
· Upcoming Book: The OtherSide of This: The Messy Truth About Grief for Teens
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00:00 Introduction:Robert DelFave & Growing Up Unparented
02:00 OutrunningLoss: The 20-Year Trap of Unprocessed Grief
03:56 "They'rein a Better Place": Why Conventional Comfort Fails
05:37 The Other Sideof This: Writing a Raw Grief Guide for Teens
07:30 The IsolatingReality of Losing a Parent at 14
09:13 Moving TowardPain: Shifting from Haunted to Honoring
10:53 Grief Coachingvs. Clinical Therapy: The Need for Witnessing
11:57 Daily Action:Carrying Grief Forward Instead of Surviving
14:44 Advice forAnyone Currently Running from Loss
15:12 Redefining Successas Using Loss to Propel Forward
16:22 Connect withRobert DelFave & Final Takeaways
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