Haven't ever been on a job and someone that was not qualified based on credentials constantly moved up the corporate ladder while more qualified candidates and individuals were left behind? This is called failing forward and usually these individuals will hire failures like themselves in order to insulate themselves from criticism and backlash but other credentials and more qualified individuals. Ironically, this also happens in relationships when a person may not seek someone that would be in their fear group or that will keep them accountable and challenge them. Therefore, they become very selective about their partner and may look for more incompetencies in the individual than attributes, sounds rather counterintuitive, but the goal is to not be shown up by someone else. In these relationships, loyalty outweighs competency and love.

We discuss some of the issues pertaining to why some people choose this route in life and the sense of entitlement they believe that they have from not trying, but to criticize others as justification for them remaining dormant in their efforts.