In this episode Ken shares wisdom about the consequences of a lack of self-regulation from Edwin Friedman and his book "A Failure of Nerve." Friedman writes about the impact not only on individual relationships but also on organizations, stating that organizations lacking self-regulation will be "perpetually invading the space of their neighbors." He says that organisms like this "cannot learn from their experiences," so they cannot be reasoned with. Ken shares wisdom about how to engage with people who can't self-regulate and explains why it is so important for leaders to prioritize their own growth and maturity.

This episode was recorded on July 10th, 2026.

In this episode Ken provides a framework of the components of emotional maturity, starting by elucidating what we mean by "self" to help the group and listeners better understand the concept of self-differentiation. As we grow in our emotional maturity, the self we "own" will become more and more differentiated while also staying connected to other "selves." Ken emphasizes that taking responsibility for self is the foundation of emotional maturity and makes the case (with regard to the call in the gospels to deny ourselves and take up our cross and follow Jesus) that "we can't deny our self until we own our self and love our self." Listen as Ken unpacks all of this and more.

This episode was recorded on July 3rd, 2026.

In this episode, Lou Huesmann challenges us to consider who we are becoming and identify where we are in the unfolding narrative of our lives. He reflects on how we know where we are and asks what framework we are using to answer this question -- one we have thoughtfully considered and chosen, or one we have received from our society, our culture, our family, our friends, or our church?

Lou shares a Substack post with the group by Kirk Squires called "The Regiven Life: When the Soul Outgrows the Life We Built" that speaks of a journey from the "given" life, to the "gotten" life, to the "regiven" life. Squires states, "This is what I mean by the Regiven Life: not life invented from scratch but life returned through surrender, received again in a truer form. Something more substantive and satisfying than striving ever produced -- life given back by the one who originated it."

Lou states that "what seems to be disorienting often can be the pathway to hope." God uses "a season of disorientation to do a fresh work of his transforming grace." According to Squires, "Often within this confusing season is an invitation to be slowly undone, remade, and deepened by the God who is always at work in our transformation." Lou notes that a posture of consenting to God's presence in our daily life helps us receive what God has regiven to us - the life God intended for us all along.

This episode was recorded on June 26th, 2026.

In this episode Ken Shuman continues his series on polarization. He shares a quote from Ronald Richardson (Polarization and the Healthier Church) that "a differentiated person is one who can maintain his or her emotional objectivity while others are polarizing." Feelings don't run these people's lives; they don't let emotions dictate their judgment or actions. Ken shares a story about Jesus and his family from scripture that contrasts their polarization with Jesus' self-differentiation.

Ken then describes a few of the ways we act when we are polarized, followed by four ways Richardson suggests we can change ourselves into people who are less and less susceptible to polarization.

This episode was recorded on June 19th, 2026.

In this episode Ken continues the conversation on polarization. Intense polarization is the result of low levels of emotional maturity, he says, and according to Ronald Richardson, progress in society depends on people achieving a higher level of self-differentiation [another way of saying "emotional maturity"]." "If we want to change the world," he states, "we have to grow in our self-differentiation." Also, to be clear as to the objective, "we differentiate to change ourselves, not others."

We all function as part of emotional systems. Self-differentiation, Ken explains, "is having beliefs and values we have thought through deeply on our own." It's "the ability to function as a separate, autonomous self and to be less impacted by other people in the emotional system."

This episode was recorded on June 5th, 2026.

In this episode Ken talks about Henry Cloud's book "Necessary Endings" and specifically Dr. Cloud's assertion that there are three kinds of people - wise, foolish, and evil. Ken shares the characteristics of each type of person according to Dr. Cloud, then transitions to discussing where Dr. Cloud's three kinds of people would be on the scale of emotional maturity. He leaves the group with an invitation to evaluate where they find themselves and to ask themselves, on an ongoing basis, "How can I become increasingly more wise?"

This episode was recorded on May 29th, 2026.

In this episode of Faithwalking Stories, Ken speaks with Marcos Leon, Faithwalking's Spanish Program Team Leader, about his Faithwalking journey both personally and as a member of our staff. A native of Ecuador, Marcos has been living in the US for more than 20 years and has been a part of Faithwalking in a variety of roles since the very beginning. In addition to his Faithwalking work, Marcos is a therapist and a spiritual director. He is also a husband and father of five.

Marcos and Ken spend time reflecting on the origin and evolution of Faithwalking over the years before turning to the growing impact of Faithwalking in Spanish-speaking countries, particularly throughout Central America. They discuss both the unique challenges and meaningful opportunities involved in working with participants from the broader community there, as well as with ministry teams serving in the region. Their conversation highlights the powerful and often moving ways Faithwalking impacts people across cultures, "translating" so effectively because it addresses our shared human experience.

When asked at the end whether he had anything else to share with those listening, Marcos invited them to trust and enjoy the process: "The process is transformative...because it is a process that involves and sees the human being as a whole...and it works!" "Being a therapist I can tell you it is one of the most comprehensive and not expensive ways in which you can find a lot of healing and wholeness."

This episode was recorded in September 2026.

In this episode, Lou Huesmann unpacks a Substack post by Richard Beck about the impact of mattering in mental well-being. He talks about two types of mattering - relational and existential, or cosmic. Lou shares from the post that existential mattering is "the more robust predictor of mental health....We need our value to be grounded in something more durable and consistent than the current status of my social, familial, and romantic life. Our worthiness cannot be wholly in the hands of others."

Lou shares that Beck goes on to explain that there is an intimate connection between relational and existential mattering: "For many of us, we can only come to believe in our existential significance by experiencing being significant to others. We mediate mattering to others." By extension, we can live in such a way - love others in such a way - as to make the love of God believable!

All this lines up with the purpose and endgame of Faithwalking - we grow in our emotional maturity so we can promote wholeness and flourishing (shalom) in the relationships and world around us. We show people they matter by loving them well, and through this they discover they matter to God and that God is for them and truly loves them. This is an incredible calling, and Faithwalking helps equip us to live it out! This episode was recorded on May 22nd, 2026.

In the latest episode in our series on polarization, Ken returns to the topic of triangling. "So when people get anxious," he says, "they move towards someone else...in hopes that the other person will be their advocate and will join their team and will think what they think, believe what they believe, and be against whatever they're against." This is how triangulationunfolds. But ultimately triangles destroy relational health, he explains. They lead to polarization — where somebody's left out or ostracized or they become the enemy.

Ken takes the group to several scripture passages in which Jesus responds to relational triangles with clear boundaries, and he finishes by offering practical ideas for managingtriangulation in our lives. The challenge and goal as we grow in emotional maturity is this, he states: “Can I manage my anxiety in healthy ways within myself rather than going outside myself to manage my anxiety?"

This episode was recorded on May 15th, 2026.

In this episode, Ken talked about the role of triangling in the polarization process. He explained the concept of triangles in the context of relationships and how we can get sucked into them, becoming part of the polarization problem. Ken shared examples of triangling in scripture and showed how Jesus refused to be sucked into triangles. Ken then explained how to respond when others attempt to pull us into a triangle, out of their own anxiety. He concluded by asking the group, "How will we be different?" and emphasizing, "It takes work."

This episode was recorded on May 8th, 2026.