In this episode we look at the ways that we use performance plus others opinions of us to define our worthiness. We discuss how we earn our value by performing in the world, in religious settings, and compare it to living out of the Kingdom of God. We offer the tool of choosing to believe "What is Most True" to heal our family belief system so that we can live out of the Kingdom of God.

This episode is the first in the series on Family Goals and Parenting Styles called Stairway to Change. During this episode you hear Chris and Allie tell how past trauma manifested itself in perfectionism within the family. They describe what this type of dysfunction looked like in their family: placating to have peace at all cost. They then provide the steps taken to change the the dysfunction and what breaking that cycle looks like.