In this episode, I explore the hidden lessons learned at family mealtimes. Across thousands of childhood meals, rules about eating, belonging, and control were silently taught and absorbed. Those rules still determine adult eating patterns today, often more powerfully than any diet.

By revisiting your early food history, you can begin to see why willpower alone has never been enough and how reclaiming awareness of your family food culture is the first step to restoring agency over what and how you eat.

Key Points

• • Family food culture describes the unspoken rules and behaviours you learned around food in childhood.
  • The “family dining table” is a metaphor for wherever food and family came together.
  • An average of 4,000 childhood meals created and reinforced lifelong eating rules.
  • The setup, seating, and atmosphere of those meals carried messages about hierarchy, safety, and belonging.
  • These deeply embedded systems often conflict with diet rules, making long-term weight change impossible without understanding them first.

Takeaway

A diet can change what you eat for a while, but it can’t undo the 4,000 meals that trained your eating system. Once you recognise where your rules began, you can start choosing which ones still deserve a place at your table.

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