Letting go of our ability to control the outcome isn’t easy, it requires trust. When we surrender our control to Jesus and yield to His will for our lives and marriages it can feel like a scary place, but ultimately the fruit will be much better than anything we can produce in our own strength.

In today’s conversation, we talk about the journey of giving up control of our lives and each other in marriage as we choose surrender instead. This surrender is not to our spouse, but rather to the Lord - which will in response cause us to act more humbly towards each other in our marriage.

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Rather than approaching our marriage in the same way we shop for deals and money-back guarantees around boxing day, what if we approached it more like an Olympic athlete approaches their training routine?

Today’s conversation is part of our Bricks and Hammer series and we’re talking about how a 50/50 mindset will bring destruction to our marriage whilst taking an “all-in” approach will help us build a strong and lasting relationship.

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Marriage Week is an opportunity for people to be reminded about the importance of marriage, why it matters, and what you can do to strengthen your marriage relationship.

Today’s discussion is part of a 2 part discussion we had before and during marriage week this year - we talked about the importance of investing in your marriage and discussed some tools that we have available to help you on the journey.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Ii716TRQbuk

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Marriage week is an opportunity for us to celebrate the institution of marriage as God designed it for our flourishing and as a space to raise healthy, happy and wholehearted children. It’s also an opportunity for us to look at ways we can be intentional about growing together as a couple and invest in our marriage.

Today’s discussion is part of a 2 part discussion we had before and during marriage week this year - We talked about the importance of investing in your marriage and discussed some tools that we have available to help you on the journey.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/kRJDj0c6wJ0

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

For more info about FamilyLife NZ go to: familylife.nz
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For more resources from FamilyLife NZ, listen to our podcast: familylife.nz/podcast
For more Digital Marriage Resources: familylife.nz/digital-resources
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Most of us have a dad in our lives. Maybe it’s your biological or spiritual dad, maybe you’re married to a dad, or maybe you’re a friend of a dad. 

In today’s discussion, we’re looking at understanding the heart of a dad. What are 3 things to understand and what are three ways we can honour the dads in our life? This conversation will strengthen and encourage you if you’re a dad, or it will give you some insights into honouring the dad in your life.

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/HNlpSJKeFvs

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Being correct doesn’t mean we connect. Sometimes we can win the fight, yet lose the battle for oneness in our marriage, but there’s a better way than arguing your way to victory.

In today’s conversation, we talk about how to break out of the argumentative cycle by developing empathy and choosing to prioritise understanding above being correct. This is part of the Bricks and Hammer series where we talk about building our relationships with the bricks that will lead to a strong and lasting relationship and putting down those hammers that cause destruction.

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fB2uY646Nd0

For more info about FamilyLife NZ go to: familylife.nz
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We will get more of what we focus on in life. Are you focused on what you're discontent about in your marriage or are you focused on the things you are grateful for?

Today’s conversation is part of the Bricks and Hammer series where we talk about building our relationships with the bricks that will lead to a strong and lasting relationship and putting down those hammers that cause destruction. Today we focus on building with gratitude and learning how to be content. 

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/O4iqq0fY5gg

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What would our world look like if instead of making excuses, being defensive or shifting blame for our problems, we actually took full responsibility in every relationship?

In this interview, we talk about our tendencies to blame and be defensive and how we can consider taking 100% responsibility instead. It’s a life-changing principle and it will certainly strengthen your marriage.

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aImDGXG3e1A

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At times, we all experience emotions of anger towards each other in our marriage. Anger in and of itself is not the problem, but how we respond when we’re angry is. Is it possible to learn how to return to joy from anger and apply the virtue of patience instead? We think it is.
 

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

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Let's talk about pride for a moment and how NOT to make your marriage fall apart. Our relationships, just like our homes, need maintenance and some tender loving care. Sometimes we need to repaint, and sometimes a complete renovation is required.
 

Find out more about building together here:  https://www.familylife.nz/donate/bricks/

Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/umzNCTYkxUI

For more info about FamilyLife NZ go to: familylife.nz
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