Fathering Our Future

The topic of discipline is one parents are uneasy about. Just think about how many times you’ve seen a parent pull their kid close or off to the side and whisper in their ear and immediately the demeanor of the child changed. You know they whispered something along the lines of, “when we get home (fill in the blank).” And you know that because you have probably done something similar. Usually one of the reasons parents do this is to avoid criticism for how they choose to discipline.

Now the underlying reason for this is we do not hear a lot taught about discipline. Sadly, nearly every time the topic comes up among parents a debate about spanking breaks out. That is sad because that is not what discipline is about.

I am going to share six things that I have learned about discipline that will:

1. Help you think about it correctly

Discipline no longer needs to be a hush hush topic. Dads need to talk about it, share what they’ve learned, and join together to more faithfully father our future.

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As we start the New Year, we set resolutions for ourselves to improve ourselves. However, before we pursue growth or attempt to build ourselves into better men, husbands, and fathers, it is crucial that we actually know who we are.

I want to share a test with you so you can check yourself and see if you are truly the man you claim to be. Without an understanding of your identity, all resolutions for growth and improvement will ultimately be in vain. Check yourself, know yourself, and then pursue your resolutions.

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Our mission as dads is to make disciples of our children. When we look at Jesus, our example, we see that he constantly told stories to teach His followers. We need to do the same with our kids.

I may not be an expert but I have learned a thing or two through telling my kids stories. I have four tips I want to share with you to help you with becoming a great storyteller for your children. You are fully qualified to do this and I want to prove it to you.

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When caught in the hustle of life, we miss all of the incredible things happening around us and right in front of us. We end days feeling tired, unfulfilled, and like our life is lacking in so many ways. The issue is not a lack in our lives. The issue is we are not present enough to catch all of the wonderful moments.

Randy Hain, executive coach, leadership consultant, and author of the book "Being Fully Present" joins me to talk about doing just that; being fully present. Randy shares several personal encounters and experiences that were packed full of beautiful lessons that have enriched his life and how he was able to capture them.

If you want to know how to capture the blessings of each moment, how to incorporate reflection, and how to be fully present throughout each day, just listen in.

I also highly recommend you get a copy of Randy's book, "Being Full Present." You can get it here: https://amzn.to/41naOwh

To learn more about Randy Hain you can follow him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/randyhain/ and check out his company site: www.serveiampartners.com.

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There is a high probability that you have heard someone say, "you are in control of your life," or "you control the outcome." They may mean well when they say those things, but those expressions are not true.

As Christian men, it is so important that we have correct understanding when it comes to the control of our lives. I want to help you see the biblical perspective on this topic and how you should live in light of it.

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I’m not sure I’ve ever met anyone who enjoys being called out. That usually implies a mistake was made in secret and then exposed publicly. Most people generally don’t approve of this gesture, especially when it comes from one of their kids.

Should we tolerate that from our kids? While I’ve seen plenty of mouths popped for calling a parent out (and I’m not talking about disrespectful back talk), I think there is a much better way for us to respond to that.

My 6 year old son called me out the other day. I heard what he said and he was not wrong. I’ll share how I responded and what I believe dads should think about when it comes to these confrontations with their kids.

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As dads of faith, we are on a mission. It is not an easy mission and it requires a lot of work. Thankfully, there are tools that we can grab to help us succeed.

Kent Evans, co-founder of Manhood Journey, joins me today to talk about his book, “Bring Your Hammer - 28 tools you can grab from the book of Nehemiah.”

You’ll get an inside look at the book as we discuss topics like prayer, community, and the types of things we allow in our homes.

www.manhoodjourney.org

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Other books by Kent:

The Manhood Journey - https://amzn.to/47gm5B2

Wise Guys - https://amzn.to/3slz8C0

Information referenced in episode: https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf

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There is a good chance you say “thank you” a lot. If you are honest with yourself, you probably say it a lot out of obligation or just to be polite to someone. Sadly, it is very easy for us to do this with our kids instead of expressing genuine gratitude.

I want to help you be genuinely thankful for your kids by giving you a formula on how to actually tell them you are thankful for them. If you will take the time to use this formula, you’ll find that you truly have a great appreciation for your children.

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While it is never the desired outcome, families get broken by divorce. Brokenness is a huge challenge but it is not the end. 

I am joined by Ryan Shorthill, founder of Dads Organization. Ryan devotes himself to bringing dads together and to creating groups dads can join to talk about fatherhood. Ryan is divorced and on the journey of co-parenting, but this week he shares his experience and insight.

Ryan's insight benefits dads who are divorced but it also helps those who are still married to understand what divorced dads are dealing with. No matter what your situation is, this conversation will be useful.

You can learn more about Ryan and Dads Organization here:

www.dadsorg.com

https://www.instagram.com/dadsorganization/

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There are a lot of opinionated people of social media platforms. You can ask a question or seek help, and end up reading why you’re a horrible person. Luckily, those who follow Fathering Our Future are true gems.

I asked my Facebook community for their best advice for dads and received a number of great responses. I condensed the answers down to nine main tips and discuss them on this week’s episode.

If you don’t follow Fathering Our Future on Facebook or Instagram, do it today. https://www.facebook.com/FatheringOurFuture

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