Fathering Our Future

Why don’t my kids listen? If you’ve ever asked that question as a dad, you’re not alone. Every father reaches a point where he wonders how to get his kids to listen, obey, and follow direction without constant frustration.

In this episode, I break down what actually works when it comes to getting your kids to listen. This is not about yelling louder or repeating yourself more. It is about learning how to lead your children in a way that builds trust, respect, and long-term obedience.

I walk through the two things that make the biggest difference in Christian fatherhood: modeling the behavior you expect and having the patience to teach it over time.

In this episode you will learn

• How to get your kids to listen without yelling
• Why children follow your actions more than your words
• The mistake many dads make when trying to discipline
• How to lead your home with patience and consistency
• Biblical principles for raising obedient and respectful children

If you want to grow as a father, strengthen your relationship with your kids, and lead your family well, this episode will give you practical fatherhood advice you can start using today.

A couple of weeks ago I shared the best idea for Mother’s Day, but some moms did not agree. So I found out what the issue was.

The problem was not with the moms or with my idea. The problem was with their husbands.

This week on the podcast, I am addressing something Christian dads seem to miss when it comes to parenting. We are quick to define ourselves as protectors and providers, but we miss the fact that we are partners.

I want to help you understand what it looks like for you to be a partner in parenting and provide tips for you to faithful serve your wife as Ephesians 5 instructs.

If you are ready to dedicate yourself to your identity as a dad and better serve your home, grab a digital copy of my devotional (discounted) here: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Many fathers want to help their children succeed, but sometimes our help can quietly become control. If we are not careful, we can do so much for our kids that we never teach them how to do things for themselves.

In this episode, I talk about why healthy fatherhood includes preparing our children for independence. I share how dads can raise capable, confident kids by giving them responsibility, teaching practical life skills, and allowing them to grow through mistakes. From cooking in the kitchen to packing lunches to handling chores, small daily moments can become powerful discipleship opportunities.

As Christian fathers, our goal is not to create children who always depend on us. Our goal is to raise children who can walk with wisdom, responsibility, and faith long after they leave our home. This is biblical parenting that builds strength, maturity, and confidence.

Items mentioned in the podcast that help you empower your child’s autonomy:

Kitchen Knife Set for Kids - https://amzn.to/4vAEfdj (Amazon)

Clothes Folding Board - https://amzn.to/3ODK20K (Amazon)

Most dads think the key to leading their home is having the right answers. But sometimes what we really need is to ask better questions and listen.

In this episode, I share a simple conversation I had with my five-year-old daughter (thanks to my digital question cards - link below) that caught me off guard. I asked what she thought was most important to our family. Her answer was not what I expected, and it challenged me in the best way.

That moment reminded me that our kids do not always see things the way we do. If we slow down and listen, they can reveal what matters to them, where they feel safe, and where we may need to grow as fathers.

If you want help having conversation with your young kids, grab my digital deck of question cards that you can access on your mobile device anytime, anywhere. Get yours here: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/talk-time-dads-kids-50-simple-quest?step=checkout

When it comes to being a great husband, there are a few days we need to remember: her birthday, Valentine’s Day, your wedding anniversary, and of course, Mother’s Day.

I grew up watching my dad spend lots of money on purses, perfumes, and other luxuries for my mom on Mother’s Day, while simply sharing the credit with me and my sister. That’s what I thought I was supposed to do… until I cracked the code.

Mother’s Day will be here sooner than you realize, and I want you to be ready. This week, I’m sharing the formula for giving your wife the perfect Mother’s Day gift every year. I’ll keep it simple and walk you through exactly what I did last year with my three oldest kids, who were between 4 and 8 years old.

Being a great dad is tied to being a great husband. Now you’ll be able to show your kids just how much their mom means to you by working together with them to give her the perfect Mother’s Day gift.

Some dads think being present means just being around but your kids can feel the difference between being there and being close.

In this episode, I talk about something simple that has a massive impact on your relationship with your children. Proximity. Not just physical presence, but intentional closeness. As fathers, we are called to model our lives after our Heavenly Father, and one of the most powerful things He offers us is nearness. He draws close to us, and we should be doing the same with our kids.

I break down three practical ways you can pursue proximity in your everyday life. These are not complicated strategies. They are simple, intentional choices that can change how your kids experience you as their dad.

In this episode you will learn

• Why proximity matters more than you think in fatherhood
• How doing what your kids love builds connection
• The power of bringing your kids into your everyday life
• How physical touch creates lasting emotional security

If you want to be a father your kids feel close to, not just one who provides from a distance, this episode will challenge you and give you clear direction on how to start.

Ready to be like our Heavenly Father? Get Following Our Father today. https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

If our kids don’t take our words seriously, it’s not because they’re stubborn. It’s because something is broken in how we communicate as dads.

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to be a father of your word. Not just saying the right things, but actually following through in a way that builds trust, respect, and strong relationships with your children. I walk through a real story with my son and how one simple opportunity revealed a powerful lesson about discipline, consistency, and grace.

Too many dads either enforce rules without compassion or offer grace without structure. Neither works. Your kids need both.

In this episode you will learn:

• How to enforce discipline without damaging your relationship
• What it looks like to include a “window of grace” in parenting
• Why consistency matters more than intensity in discipline

If you want to lead your family well, you must value your words. This episode will challenge you to slow down, think before you speak, and become the kind of dad your kids can trust.

Every father has faced it. The meltdown in public. The tears. The frustration. The moment when you feel your patience slipping and you just want the behavior to stop.

In this episode, I share a moment I witnessed between a dad and his little daughter at Chick-fil-A that stuck with me. Watching that interaction reminded me how easy it is for fathers to react out of frustration instead of leading with patience, wisdom, and relationship.

Tantrums are part of childhood. They are not solved with threats, labels, or intimidation. As fathers, our job is not simply to control behavior. Our job is to guide our children, build trust, and help them grow through those difficult moments.

I talk about the mistakes many dads make when emotions run high and the simple but powerful approach that has helped me walk my own children through those difficult moments.

In this episode you will learn

• Why threatening your kids damages trust and rarely works

• The danger of labeling children as “good” or “bad”

• Why tantrums take time and patience to tame• How relationship always matters more than control

• Why a simple hug can completely change a meltdown

• How fathers build long-term trust during emotional moments

If you are a dad trying to lead your children with wisdom, patience, and faith, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you respond in the hardest parenting moments.

Every dad would say, "I would die for my kid."

It sounds powerful. It sounds noble. And in many ways it is true. Most dads would step in front of danger without hesitation.

But what about the everyday moments?

The challenge is not simply being willing to die for our kids in one dramatic moment. The real challenge is choosing to live for them every single day.

In this episode you will learn:

• The difference between dying for your kids and living for them

• Why personal success alone does not automatically benefit your children

• How intentional sacrifice builds generational impact

• What it truly means to give yourself for your children

If you are ready to live for your kids, take a good step forward and get a copy of Following Our Father: https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa

Have you ever poured yourself out for your family and wondered if anyone even noticed?

As fathers, we work hard. We sacrifice. We provide. We protect. And if we are honest, there are days when we wish someone would simply say thank you. In this episode, I talk about what I believe is the true heart of fatherhood, and it is not easy.

A comment on one of my reels inspired this episode. A dad shared how he had given over 20 years to his family and felt like there was no appreciation in return. That struck something deep. Because many Christian fathers wrestle with the same thing. We want respect. We want gratitude. But what if biblical fatherhood calls us to something deeper?

I walk through what Scripture teaches about love, respect, sacrifice, and what it really means to follow Jesus as a dad. This episode is about fatherhood advice rooted in the character of God, not in our feelings. It is about trusting Him when appreciation is absent. It is about leading your home the way Christ leads us.

In this episode you will learn

• Why respect from your children is earned, not demanded

• How biblical love gives without seeking something in return

• What Jesus models for fathers through sacrifice

• How to respond when you feel unappreciated at home

• Why trusting God matters more than trusting your emotions

If you are a Christian father trying to lead well, grow spiritually, and raise children with integrity and strength, this conversation will challenge and steady you. Keep following Jesus. Even when it feels unnoticed.

If you feel and believe this is a step you need to take and are ready to take, start by getting a copy of Following Our Father today. https://fathering-our-future.kit.com/products/digital-devotional-following-our-fa