Fearless Self-Love

Launching a heart-centered, community-oriented business is a cause that requires inner transformation. My guest, Kelsey Bryant Starr, owner of Numi Yoga in College Park, Maryland, seems to be a growth junkie, too. She's on for asking the hard questions, like "am I enough?" and answering them with "'yes I am , I showed up, I'm breathing, and I have something to offer."

In this interview Kelsey and I interview each other about our journeys to starting businesses that reflect our personal desires for growth and learning. Listen as we share our reflections on our pathways to learning, loving and accepting ourselves while growing businesses that help others do the same.

• How to notice abundance amidst the challenge

• Why we need each other for true healing

• How being open allows for what's to come

Links Mentioned:

• Interview with Brett Holmquist (Season 1, Episode 8) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1
• Ravenwood Outdoor Learning Center www.ravenwoodoutdoorlearningcenter.org
• Grace Edison's Yoga of Money http://www.graceedison.com/yoga-of-money/
• Numi Yoga College Park, Maryland http://www.numiyoga.com/schedule/
• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Body Bloom wellness course www.groundedhere.com/courses
• Kylin O'Brien interview (Season 1, Episode 19) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1
• Tim Ferriss Show https://tim.blog/
• A2 Yoga in Ann Arbor, Michigan www.a2yoga.net
• Eat, Taste, Heal http://www.eattasteheal.com/
• Kripalu School of Ayurveda https://kripalu.org/schools/kripalu-school-ayurveda
• Dr. Claudia Welch https://drclaudiawelch.com/
• Cate Stillman https://yogahealer.com/
• Scott Blossom http://www.shunyatayoga.com/
• AmeriCorps VISTA https://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps/americorpsvista
• Pilar's Tamales https://www.pilarstamales.com/

Show Highlights:

03:58 Easeful Living Practice ~ Take advice from your younger self

12:03 Interview begins with Kelsey sharing how she went from studying Yoga for her own learning to opening a Yoga studio in a new city

21:33 Holding challenge and abundance in the same hand (particularly when starting a studio)

26:55 Addressing fears and allowing them to be present; how personal yoga practice informs teaching and starting a business

33;20 Vision of Numi Yoga Studio in College Park, Maryland & the origin of the Numi name

39:53 Kelsey interviews Andrea, starting with Andrea's interest in and study of Ayurveda

48:52 Andrea's lessons learned starting her own business

101:19 Courageous Self-Care tip ~ mantra: I showed up, I'm breathing, and I have something to offer.

Your Favorite Quotes:

"There is nothing less selfless than loving yourself." -- Andrea Catherine

"We all get both be served and be of service." -- Kelsey Starr

"Everyday something is a little bit beyond what I know about...but, everyday there's someone who comes across my path...who is such a valuable resource." -- Kelsey Bryant Starr

"Everyday, when I get on my mat, I get to answer the question, 'am I enough?'...I get to choose to say 'yes I am , I showed up, I'm breathing, and I have something to offer" -- Kelsey Starr

"Even when we're experiencing so many blessings, and gifts and connections, it's very human to wonder, am I even going to get by, can I even make it through?" -- Andrea Catherine

"There's no other journey but to get to know our own self. When we can come to our own selves with loving compassion, we can offer that unconditionally to other people." -- Kelsey Starr

"Those little nudges, for me, mostly come from when I'm able to let go of needing to have it a certain way or needing to let the thing I'm doing work, and rather open up to what could work, and knowing that may not be what I'm doing." --Andrea Catherine

Meet Kelsey:

Kelsey is proud to join the ranks of the mighty Terrapins in College Park, MD. Her yoga training began with Ana Hough in Ann Arbor (200hr), and continued with national teachers Christina Sell and Gioconda Parker at the San Marcos School of Yoga (300hr). Kelsey participates in ongoing online studies with Christina Sell and attends DC-area continuing education.

Kelsey is passionate about exploring. Yoga is her map for the journey to love her body, community, and self. In Kelsey's yoga classes students will playfully explore actions within poses and have opportunities to integrate yoga with life off the mat. She jokingly describes her classes as "offering too many alignment cues while you are trying to flow". Kelsey lives in University Park with her husband, Evan, and goldendoodle, Argo.

Launching a heart-centered, community-oriented business is a cause that requires inner transformation. My guest, Kelsey Bryant Starr, owner of Numi Yoga in College Park, Maryland, seems to be a growth junkie, too. She’s on for asking the hard questions, like “am I enough?” and answering them with “‘yes I am , I showed up, I’m breathing, and I have something to offer.”

In this interview Kelsey and I interview each other about our journeys to starting businesses that reflect our personal desires for growth and learning.  Listen as we share our reflections on our pathways to learning, loving and accepting ourselves while growing businesses that help others do the same.

• How to notice abundance amidst the challenge

• Why we need each other for true healing

• How being open allows for what’s to come

Links Mentioned:

• Interview with Brett Holmquist (Season 1, Episode 8) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1
• Ravenwood Outdoor Learning Center www.ravenwoodoutdoorlearningcenter.org
• Grace Edison’s Yoga of Money http://www.graceedison.com/yoga-of-money/
• Numi Yoga College Park, Maryland http://www.numiyoga.com/schedule/
• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Body Bloom wellness course www.groundedhere.com/courses
• Kylin O’Brien interview (Season 1, Episode 19) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1
• Tim Ferriss Show https://tim.blog/
• A2 Yoga in Ann Arbor, Michigan www.a2yoga.net
• Eat, Taste, Heal http://www.eattasteheal.com/
• Kripalu School of Ayurveda https://kripalu.org/schools/kripalu-school-ayurveda
• Dr. Claudia Welch https://drclaudiawelch.com/
• Cate Stillman https://yogahealer.com/
• Scott Blossom http://www.shunyatayoga.com/
• AmeriCorps VISTA https://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps/americorpsvista
• Pilar’s Tamales https://www.pilarstamales.com/

Show Highlights:

03:58 Easeful Living Practice ~ Take advice from your younger self

12:03 Interview begins with Kelsey sharing how she went from studying Yoga for her own learning to opening a Yoga studio in a new city

21:33 Holding challenge and abundance in the same hand (particularly when starting a studio)

26:55 Addressing fears and allowing them to be present; how personal yoga practice informs teaching and starting a business

33;20 Vision of Numi Yoga Studio in College Park, Maryland & the origin of the Numi name

39:53 Kelsey interviews Andrea, starting with Andrea’s interest in and study of Ayurveda

48:52 Andrea’s lessons learned starting her own business

101:19 Courageous Self-Care tip ~ mantra: I showed up, I’m breathing, and I have something to offer.

Your Favorite Quotes:

“There is nothing less selfless than loving yourself.” -- Andrea Catherine

“We all get both be served and be of service.” -- Kelsey Starr

“Everyday something is a little bit beyond what I know about...but, everyday there’s someone who comes across my path...who is such a valuable resource.” -- Kelsey Bryant Starr

“Everyday, when I get on my mat, I get to answer the question, ‘am I enough?’...I get to choose to say ‘yes I am , I showed up, I’m breathing, and I have something to offer” -- Kelsey Starr

“Even when we’re experiencing so many blessings, and gifts and connections, it’s very human to wonder, am I even going to get by, can I even make it through?” -- Andrea Catherine

“There’s no other journey but to get to know our own self. When we can come to our own selves with loving compassion, we can offer that unconditionally to other people.” -- Kelsey Starr

“Those little nudges, for me, mostly come from when I’m able to let go of needing to have it a certain way or needing to let the thing I’m doing work, and rather open up to what could work, and knowing that may not be what I’m doing.”  --Andrea Catherine

Meet Kelsey:

Kelsey is proud to join the ranks of the mighty Terrapins in College Park, MD.  Her yoga training began with Ana Hough in Ann Arbor (200hr), and continued with national teachers Christina Sell and Gioconda Parker at the San Marcos School of Yoga (300hr).  Kelsey participates in ongoing online studies with Christina Sell and attends DC-area continuing education.

Kelsey is passionate about exploring.  Yoga is her map for the journey to love her body, community, and self.  In Kelsey’s yoga classes students will playfully explore actions within poses and have opportunities to integrate yoga with life off the mat.  She jokingly describes her classes as "offering too many alignment cues while you are trying to flow". Kelsey lives in University Park with her husband, Evan, and goldendoodle, Argo.

Do you notice you have a body when you are not in pain? So much of the time we treat our bodies as if they are simply a vessel to carry around our brains. In this episode, Regina @wolfmedicinemagic dives into her experience of feeling connected to her body and how she supports Yoga, Barre and Ayurveda students to connect to their bodies outside of when they are in pain. Join us to go behind the scenes of the wellness professional's hustle for building clientele, fearless marketing, and utilizing the power to say no, or yes, when it comes to self-care and socialization.

• Why Yoga is about more than the perfect pose

• What it means to be connected to your body

• How to balance saying yes with saying no

Links Mentioned:

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• https://www.instagram.com/wolfmedicinemagic/?hl=en
• https://www.facebook.com/WolfMedicineMagic/
• Regina's favorite Hatha spiritual yoga class http://www.urbanasanas.com/
• Dolores Cannon https://www.dolorescannon.com/

Show Highlights:

02:42 Easeful Living Practice ~ Downward Facing Dog

09:41 Interview begins with Regina @wolfmedicinemagic who came to Yoga through dance and how her view of Yoga transformed from one of resistance to one of love

13:58 Yoga classes Regina loves & why

21:21 Regina's dance background and our riff on the stability or instability of teaching Yoga

28:32 Regina's fearless approach to promoting workshops on Instagram. We get technical about being a solo-prenuer and what it takes

34:04 What Regina's learned about self-care

Favorite Quotes

"What lights me up is the profound learning I experience as a teacher in various modalities. Whether it be yoga, barre fitness, Breathwork or Ayurveda I am constantly learning from students and participants. Through my interactions with others I learn about myself and become a better teacher." -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

"So much of we learn is impacted by who's delivering it or how we're learning it." -- Andrea Catherine

"I like a challenge, but I don't always feel the need to do the most advanced class and be the best in the front row. Because I realize that's...very much an ego thing." -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

"The point of yoga isn't to get the perfect forearm stand...it's very much about being in my body, being in my body, feeling my body, noticing my emotions and sensations as they come up, being a witness to them." -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

"As much as I've danced and as much as I teach, I have to be reminded that not everyone is connected to their body." -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

"Connect with your body outside of when your body's in pain, because that's often the only time when people recognize what's happening in their body." -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

Terminology:

Pitta: the energetic combination of fire & water, the essence of summer, midday and midlife

Ayurveda: East Indian Medicine, meaning "life knowledge"

Meet Regina:

Regina is an Ayurvedic Health Counselor, 500-hr registered Yoga Teacher and Breathwork healer living in Brooklyn, NY since 2004. She received her Ayurveda and yoga teaching certifications from the Kripalu School of Yoga and Ayurveda in 2014 and trained with master Breathwork healer and teacher David Elliot in 2017. @wolfmedicinemagic

Do you notice you have a body when you are not in pain? So much of the time we treat our bodies as if they are simply a vessel to carry around our brains. In this episode, Regina @wolfmedicinemagic dives into her experience of feeling connected to her body and how she supports Yoga, Barre and Ayurveda students to connect to their bodies outside of when they are in pain. Join us to go behind the scenes of the wellness professional’s hustle for building clientele, fearless marketing, and utilizing the power to say no, or yes, when it comes to self-care and socialization.

• Why Yoga is about more than the perfect pose

• What it means to be connected to your body

• How to balance saying yes with saying no

Links Mentioned:

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• https://www.instagram.com/wolfmedicinemagic/?hl=en
• https://www.facebook.com/WolfMedicineMagic/
• Regina’s favorite Hatha spiritual yoga class http://www.urbanasanas.com/
• Dolores Cannon https://www.dolorescannon.com/

Show Highlights:

02:42 Easeful Living Practice ~ Downward Facing Dog

09:41 Interview begins with Regina @wolfmedicinemagic who came to Yoga through dance and how her view of Yoga transformed from one of resistance to one of love

13:58 Yoga classes Regina loves & why

21:21 Regina’s dance background and our riff on the stability or instability of teaching Yoga

28:32 Regina’s fearless approach to promoting workshops on Instagram. We get technical about being a solo-prenuer and what it takes

34:04 What Regina’s learned about self-care

Favorite Quotes

“What lights me up is the profound learning I experience as a teacher in various modalities.  Whether it be yoga, barre fitness, Breathwork or Ayurveda I am constantly learning from students and participants. Through my interactions with others I learn about myself and become a better teacher.” -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

“So much of we learn is impacted by who’s delivering it or how we’re learning it.” -- Andrea Catherine

“I like a challenge, but I don’t always feel the need to do the most advanced class and be the best in the front row. Because I realize that’s...very much an ego thing.” --  Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

“The point of yoga isn’t to get the perfect forearm stand...it’s very much about being in my body, being in my body, feeling my body, noticing my emotions and sensations as they come up, being a witness to them.” --  Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

“As much as I’ve danced and as much as I teach, I have to be reminded that not everyone is connected to their body.” --  Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

“Connect with your body outside of when your body’s in pain, because that’s often the only time when people recognize what’s happening in their body.” -- Regina @wolfmedicinemagic

Terminology:

Pitta: the energetic combination of fire & water, the essence of summer, midday and midlife

Ayurveda:  East Indian Medicine, meaning “life knowledge”

Meet Regina:

Regina is an Ayurvedic Health Counselor, 500-hr registered Yoga Teacher and Breathwork healer living in Brooklyn, NY since 2004. She received her Ayurveda and yoga teaching certifications from the Kripalu School of Yoga and Ayurveda in 2014 and trained with master Breathwork healer and teacher David Elliot in 2017. @wolfmedicinemagic

Are you asking yourself safe or dangerous questions? In this hot off the mic interview with Liam Bowler of The Body Awake podcast we dive deep into the process of curiosity and inquiry and how to know when it's time to act instead of freezing in analysis paralysis. Listen in as I interview a fellow Montanan about his experience with practicing introspection as a pathway to self-love. This interview prompted me , almost immediately, to shift how I approach my reaction to suffering within myself.

• Why it's important to ask the dangerous questions

• Why to sit with suffering instead of trying to relieve it

• How to move from inquiry into action

Links Mentioned:

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• The Body Awake http://www.thebodyawake.com/about/
• Camp Kitchen where Andrea will be cooking www.ravenwoodolc.org
• Liam's interview with Kimberly Ann Johnson http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/kaj/
• Liam's Body Work practice https://dynamicalignmentbodywork.com/
• Stephen Porgus Polyvagal Theory http://stephenporges.com/
• Liam's first interview with Irene Lyon http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/se-irene/
• Banksy http://banksy.co.uk/
• Liam's upcoming workshops http://www.thebodyawake.com/workshops/
• Liam's YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR1pE63MWey2Fq9QMCfiyRQ

Show Highlights:

00:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details

02:48 Easeful Living Practice ~ What questions are you asking yourself?

05:15 Interview with Liam Bowler begins, Liam helps folks understand their body's intelligence as well as their educational needs

10:14 Dangerous Questions are the ones that might change your life. Are you asking them?

22:44 Liam shares about dark days and months in his life and explore how he would interact with his younger self today

31;58 How to ask a dangerous question, the intimacy and the power behind the words

36:31 Liam's invitation to reflect on what is being evoked by dangerous questions -- what is keeping you from being vulnerable?

41:38 Why try to relieve our own suffering? The pain of witnessing suffering and how it causes us to try to wish it away.

45:49 Anatomy of the Autonomic nervous system

49:55 How Liam navigates self-care and self-love as a practitioner and how he supports his clients and students in navigating their own dangerous questions with love and care

Favorite Quotes

"There is a growing interest among us, not just a 'fix me' mentality, but a kind of education, which comes in many forms." --Liam Bowler

"Owning your own experience is infinitely more infinite and ambody and non-checked out." -- Liam Bowler

"You're not doing anything wrong here by suffering." -- Liam Bowler

"Don't wait for yourself to be perfectly healed and integrated before you start trying...to make something better." -- Liam Bowler

"I have so much more to learn about myself." -- Andrea Catherine, as inspired by Paula Greenstein

"Upon awakening, what gets liberated from what?" -- Adyashanti

"I have, lots in my life, used that lack of needing to solve something as a conceptual bunker, with which to hide from taking action." -- Liam Bowler

"Self-hatred is one of the most narcissistic things out there; meanwhile life is happening." -- Liam Bowler

"Do you care who gets the credit?" -- Liam Bowler

"Where are you hiding behind inquiry?" -- Liam Bowler

Meet Liam:

I'm Liam Bowler, a licensed massage therapist, structural bodyworker, musician and rock climbing guide (among other things, of course). Some of my loves lately: these heartbreakingly beautiful Montana sunsets, my weekly "Spotify suggests" playlist, yoga, cutting my own hair, this podcast, learning how my car works, meditation, taking my neighbors' dog for walks in the hills behind my house.

I live in Missoula, Montana, and make regular trips to Seattle—for work and fun—and sometimes other places, too. If you'd like what I do to come near you, please shoot me a line and let me know.

You can learn more about my bodywork practice at my website for that: Dynamic Alignment Bodywork.

Are you asking yourself safe or dangerous questions? In this hot off the mic interview with Liam Bowler of The Body Awake podcast we dive deep into the process of curiosity and inquiry and how to know when it's time to act instead of freezing in analysis paralysis.  Listen in as I interview a fellow Montanan about his experience with practicing introspection as a pathway to self-love. This interview prompted me , almost immediately, to shift how I approach my reaction to suffering within myself.

• Why it’s important to ask the dangerous questions

• Why to sit with suffering instead of trying to relieve it

• How to move from inquiry into action

Links Mentioned:

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• The Body Awake http://www.thebodyawake.com/about/
• Camp Kitchen where Andrea will be cooking www.ravenwoodolc.org  
• Liam’s interview with Kimberly Ann Johnson http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/kaj/
• Liam’s Body Work practice https://dynamicalignmentbodywork.com/
• Stephen Porgus Polyvagal Theory http://stephenporges.com/
• Liam’s first  interview with Irene Lyon http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/se-irene/
• Banksy http://banksy.co.uk/
• Liam’s upcoming workshops http://www.thebodyawake.com/workshops/
• Liam’s YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR1pE63MWey2Fq9QMCfiyRQ

Show Highlights:

00:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details

02:48 Easeful Living Practice ~ What questions are you asking yourself?

05:15 Interview with Liam Bowler begins, Liam helps folks understand their body’s intelligence as well as their educational needs

10:14 Dangerous Questions are the ones that might change your life. Are you asking them?

22:44 Liam shares about dark days and months in his life and explore how he would interact with his younger self today

31;58 How to ask a dangerous question, the intimacy and the power behind the words

36:31 Liam’s invitation to reflect on what is being evoked by dangerous questions -- what is keeping you from being vulnerable?

41:38 Why try to relieve our own suffering? The pain of witnessing suffering and how it causes us to try to wish it away.

45:49 Anatomy of the Autonomic nervous system

49:55 How Liam navigates self-care and self-love as a practitioner and how he supports his clients and students in navigating their own dangerous questions with love and care

Favorite Quotes

“There is a growing interest among us, not just a ‘fix me’ mentality, but a kind of education, which comes in many forms.”  --Liam Bowler

“Owning your own experience is infinitely more infinite and ambody and non-checked out.” -- Liam Bowler

“You’re not doing anything wrong here by suffering.” -- Liam Bowler

“Don’t wait for yourself to be perfectly healed and integrated before you start trying...to make something better.” -- Liam Bowler

“I have so much more to learn about myself.” -- Andrea Catherine, as inspired by Paula Greenstein

“Upon awakening, what gets liberated from what?” -- Adyashanti

“I have, lots in my life, used that lack of needing to solve something as a conceptual bunker, with which to hide from taking action.” -- Liam Bowler

“Self-hatred is one of the most narcissistic things out there; meanwhile life is happening.” -- Liam Bowler

“Do you care who gets the credit?” -- Liam Bowler

“Where are you hiding behind inquiry?” -- Liam Bowler

Meet Liam:

I’m Liam Bowler, a licensed massage therapist, structural bodyworker, musician and rock climbing guide (among other things, of course). Some of my loves lately: these heartbreakingly beautiful Montana sunsets, my weekly "Spotify suggests" playlist, yoga, cutting my own hair, this podcast, learning how my car works, meditation, taking my neighbors' dog for walks in the hills behind my house.

I live in Missoula, Montana, and make regular trips to Seattle—for work and fun—and sometimes other places, too. If you'd like what I do to come near you, please shoot me a line and let me know.

You can learn more about my bodywork practice at my website for that: Dynamic Alignment Bodywork.

This is not about relationship advice, or the mature loving relationship of many years. Nor is it about being in-lust. Rather it is about that in-love place, You can't wait to see that person again, your life is overflowing with feelings and emotions. We explore the connection of being in love with another to loving ourselves, as well as the revolutionary qualities of being in love, both the wonderful and the challenging. People's lives change when they fall in love.

Listen in as Michael and I riff on confidence, taking risks, fantasizing, and the value of throwing out sensibility from time to time. This is not an episode only for those in love or on the verge of it. We also talk about how to access the benefits of being in love when we're not.

• How falling in love changes us for the better and the worse

• Why gaining confidence come from taking risks

• How to dance with your dreams and benefit from fantasizing

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com
• S1 E20: The Humanity of Self-Love with Michael Joseph https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1

Show Highlights:

:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details

03:08 Easeful Living Practice ~ Love note to self

06:48 Interview with Michael Joseph begins -- he's seen over 100 people in that in-love stage & what it has to do with self-love

18:06 What's confidence have to with it? How being in love bolsters our courage to try new things and also our tolerance for unhelpful behavior

24:25 Patterns of falling in love: enlivening of the senses

31:19 How to get connection with ourselves, fearlessness, oxytocin if we're not in love

41:20 Dance with the dream, the benefits of fantasizing

48:18 The value of trusting and, at times, questioning our intuition

56:06 Courageous Self-Care Tip: Take a risk!

Your Favorite Quotes

"When we see someone in love, sometimes we actually think, 'they're crazy, why are they doing that, what's that about, why are they risking everything?'" -- Michael Joseph

"[Being in love] has a bright side, it has a danger to it, but it's very enriching." -- Michael Joseph

"Sometimes we connect with parts of ourselves in loving another person that had been forgotten...or we didn't know was there... we actually not only fall in love with the person, but we may fall in love with a part of ourselves that have been lost." -- Michael Joseph

"How am I allowing my connections with others to inform my connection with myself?" --Andrea Catherine

"We often attribute to another, a power that was already in ourselves." -- Michael Joseph

"Sometimes that in-love feeling is really kind of a need we're speaking to--I need some stimulation, I need some novelty, I need something to test myself against." -- Michael Joseph

"Falling in love is sort of like an emotional extreme sport." -- Michael Joseph

"Andrea, you need to go inside yourself, and find what makes you strong." -- Paras Moghtader, Andrea's friend (S1 E7 Fearless Abundance of Yoga & Ayurveda) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1

"Tapping into the dream of yourself, and taking a step in the direction of that dream, that's self-love." -- Michael Joseph

"You get confidence by risking being told no." -- Michael Joseph

Meet Michael:

I'm a therapist, musician, rock climber, basketball player. I've spent the last 30+ years of my life exploring in my own life and with my clients the nature of love, life, emotional suffering and emotional joy. I feel privileged to be in a profession where I have the opportunity learn something everyday about life in conversation with the people who come to me.

This is not about relationship advice, or the mature loving relationship of many years. Nor is it about being in-lust. Rather it is about that in-love place, You can’t wait to see that person again, your life is overflowing with feelings and emotions. We explore the connection of being in love with another to loving ourselves, as well as the revolutionary qualities of being in love, both the wonderful and the challenging. People’s lives change when they fall in love.

Listen in as Michael and I riff on confidence, taking risks, fantasizing, and the value of throwing out sensibility from time to time. This is not an episode only for those in love or on the verge of it. We also talk about how to access the benefits of being in love when we’re not.

• How falling in love changes us for the better and the worse

• Why gaining confidence come from taking risks

• How to dance with your dreams and benefit from fantasizing

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea to sign up for the retreat bonus: [email protected]
• Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com
• S1 E20: The Humanity of Self-Love with Michael Joseph https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1

Show Highlights:

:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details

03:08 Easeful Living Practice ~ Love note to self

06:48 Interview with Michael Joseph begins -- he’s seen over 100 people in that in-love stage & what it has to do with self-love

18:06 What’s confidence have to with it? How being in love bolsters our courage to try new things and also our tolerance for unhelpful behavior

24:25 Patterns of falling in love: enlivening of the senses

31:19 How to get connection with ourselves, fearlessness, oxytocin if we’re not in love

41:20 Dance with the dream, the benefits of fantasizing

48:18 The value of trusting and, at times, questioning our intuition

56:06 Courageous Self-Care Tip: Take a risk!

Your Favorite Quotes

“When we see someone in love, sometimes we actually think, ‘they’re crazy, why are they doing that, what’s that about, why are they risking everything?’” -- Michael Joseph

“[Being in love] has a bright side, it has a danger to it, but it’s very enriching.” -- Michael Joseph

“Sometimes we connect with parts of ourselves in loving another person that had been forgotten...or we didn’t know was there... we actually not only fall in love with the person, but we may fall in love with a part of ourselves that have been lost.” -- Michael Joseph

“How am I allowing my connections with others to inform my connection with myself?” --Andrea Catherine

“We often attribute to another, a power that was already in ourselves.” -- Michael Joseph

“Sometimes that in-love feeling is really kind of a need we’re speaking to--I need some stimulation, I need some novelty, I need something to test myself against.” -- Michael Joseph

“Falling in love is sort of like an emotional extreme sport.” -- Michael Joseph

“Andrea, you need to go inside yourself, and find what makes you strong.” -- Paras Moghtader, Andrea’s friend (S1 E7 Fearless Abundance of Yoga & Ayurveda) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1

“Tapping into the dream of yourself, and taking a step in the direction of that dream, that’s self-love.” -- Michael Joseph

“You get confidence by risking being told no.” -- Michael Joseph

Meet Michael:

I'm a therapist, musician, rock climber, basketball player.  I've spent the last 30+ years of my life exploring in my own life and with my clients the nature of love, life, emotional suffering and emotional joy.  I feel privileged to be in a profession where I have the opportunity learn something everyday about life in conversation with the people who come to me.