Fearless Self-Love

This episode, while recorded last summer, is so timely with Amber's reminders of the values of discovery, play, and connecting with ourselves and what we love. Best to you as you navigate all the changes of our world and yourself while prioritizing what matters most!

Favorite Quotes:

• "Wherever you go, there you are." -Anonymous
• "The greatest joy and the greatest inward journey that we can experience is going to come from doing the things that we love." -Amber Sears
• "Secrecy is where all the guilt and shame is." - Amber Sears
• "What cracked my shell was sharing." - Amber Sears
• "Dance is the ultimate freedom and ultimate connection to yourself." -Amber Sears

Links Mentioned:

• Amber's Website, Epic Self
• Amber on Instagram
• Amber's husband, JP Sears - Ultra Spiritual
• Red Ants Pants Music Festival

Meet Amber:

This episode, while recorded last summer, is so timely with Amber's reminders of the values of discovery, play, and connecting with ourselves and what we love. Best to you as you navigate all the changes of our world and yourself while prioritizing what matters most!

Favorite Quotes:

• "Wherever you go, there you are." -Anonymous
• "The greatest joy and the greatest inward journey that we can experience is going to come from doing the things that we love." -Amber Sears
• "Secrecy is where all the guilt and shame is." - Amber Sears
• "What cracked my shell was sharing." - Amber Sears
• "Dance is the ultimate freedom and ultimate connection to yourself." -Amber Sears

Links Mentioned:

• Amber's Website, Epic Self
• Amber on Instagram 
• Amber's husband, JP Sears -  Ultra Spiritual
• Red Ants Pants Music Festival

Meet Amber:

Diana Kirshner has spent a lifetime helping others find love within themselves and with others. Today Diana and I talk about how positive affirmations can change lives by changing our thinking. We also discuss how to free negative thoughts and rewire our brains. Lastly, Diana leads me through the steps of the "5 Minute Manifestation Miracle." She is a joyful and vibrant guest who believes the sky's the limit. Join me.

• How to create a positive affirmation

• How to free negative thoughts
• How to create a positive and fulfilling life

Links Mentioned:

Diana Kirshner: www.lovein90days.com

Free Session for listeners: www.lovein90days.com click on coaching tab put in Andrea sent me

Online University learn how to be a relationship and dating coach: https://www.lovein90daysuniversity.com/

Book Love In 90 Days: https://lovein90days.com/diana-kirschner/ make sure to get the 2019 edition

Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com

Favorite Quotes:

"Make a positive affirmation in the present tense as if there are no limits." -Diana Kirshner

"Growth is rarely linear, it is rocky." -Diana Kirshner

"When negative thoughts surface to sabotage our positive affirmation, embrace and recognize them. Let them be. Free them and then go back to the affirmation." -Diana Kirshner

"If we cling to self sabotage as an idea, then we're not going to free that idea." -Andrea Catherine

"The positive affirmations become sewn into your brain when you don't explore the negative thoughts and instead go back to the affirmation." -Diana Kirshner

"An affirmation can be about anything in your life. It's about creating what you would prefer to experience." -Diana Kirshner

"Affirmations rewire the nervous system as long as we don't dissect the negative thoughts." -Diana Kirshner

"Find confidence, passion and stability in yourself instead of seeking that in another person. Come to the table full." -Andrea Catherine

"The sky's the limit. Decide how you want to experience life. -Diana Kirshner

Meet Diana:

PBS Love expert, psychologist and bestselling author, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has helped tens of thousands of singles and couples to find the relationships of their dreams. Along with her team of expert Love Mentor® and dating coaches, she uses a unique approach to help women and men heal from heartbreak, create high-value self-confidence, and find lasting passionate love. The team has given over 10,000 free sessions to women all over the world. Dr. Diana is the author of the bestseller, Love in 90 Days, now out in its 10th Anniversary edition. She has also authored, the relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love, Find Your Soulmate Online, The Diamond Self Secret and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide.

Love Expert, Psychologist & Bestselling Author, Dr. Diana Kirschner, has handpicked a team of awesome Love Mentor® coaches. And you can talk with one of them for free for 40 minutes by phone or Skype! If you have any pressing dating or love questions just go to http://lovein90days.com/dating-coach/ and you will be talking to a wise helpful Love Mentor® very soon! Say "Andrea sent me" for VIP treatment!

Dr. Diana's new university course:

The New Love in 90 Days Video and Teleconference course

With Dr. Diana Kirschner

Learn how to attract the One and create lasting passionate love, And get trained as a dating and relationship coach!.

Heal heartbreak and rejection. Become irresistibly confident.

And create a life and career you absolutely love!

www.Lovein90DaysUniversity.com

Diana Kirshner has spent a lifetime helping others find love within themselves and with others. Today Diana and I talk about how positive affirmations can change lives by changing our thinking. We also discuss how to free negative thoughts and rewire our brains. Lastly, Diana leads me through the steps of the “5 Minute Manifestation Miracle.” She is a joyful and vibrant guest who believes the sky’s the limit. Join me.

• How to create a positive affirmation

• How to free negative thoughts
• How to create a positive and fulfilling life

Links Mentioned: 

Diana Kirshner: www.lovein90days.com

Free Session for listeners: www.lovein90days.com click on coaching tab put in Andrea sent me

Online University learn how to be a relationship and dating coach: https://www.lovein90daysuniversity.com/

Book Love In 90 Days: https://lovein90days.com/diana-kirschner/ make sure to get the 2019 edition

Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com 

Favorite Quotes:

“Make a positive affirmation in the present tense as if there are no limits.” -Diana Kirshner

“Growth is rarely linear, it is rocky.” -Diana Kirshner

“When negative thoughts surface to sabotage our positive affirmation, embrace and recognize them. Let them be. Free them and then go back to the affirmation.” -Diana Kirshner

“If we cling to self sabotage as an idea, then we’re not going to free that idea.” -Andrea Catherine

“The positive affirmations become sewn into your brain when you don’t explore the negative thoughts and instead go back to the affirmation.” -Diana Kirshner

“An affirmation can be about anything in your life. It’s about creating what you would prefer to experience.” -Diana Kirshner

“Affirmations rewire the nervous system as long as we don’t dissect the negative thoughts.” -Diana Kirshner

“Find confidence, passion and stability in yourself instead of seeking that in another person. Come to the table full.” -Andrea Catherine

“The sky's the limit. Decide how you want to experience life. -Diana Kirshner

Meet Diana:

PBS Love expert, psychologist and bestselling author, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has helped tens of thousands of singles and couples to find the relationships of their dreams.  Along with her team of expert Love Mentor® and dating coaches, she uses a unique approach to help women and men heal from heartbreak, create high-value self-confidence, and find lasting passionate love. The team has given over 10,000 free sessions to women all over the world.  Dr. Diana is the author of the bestseller, Love in 90 Days, now out in its 10th Anniversary edition. She has also authored, the relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love, Find Your Soulmate Online, The Diamond Self Secret and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide.

Love Expert, Psychologist & Bestselling Author, Dr. Diana Kirschner, has handpicked a team of awesome Love Mentor® coaches. And you can talk with one of them for free for 40 minutes by phone or Skype! If you have any pressing dating or love questions just go to http://lovein90days.com/dating-coach/ and you will be talking to a wise helpful Love Mentor® very soon!  Say “Andrea sent me” for VIP treatment!  

Dr. Diana’s new university course:

The New Love in 90 Days Video and Teleconference course

With Dr. Diana Kirschner

Learn how to attract the One and create lasting passionate love,  And get trained as a dating and relationship coach!.

Heal heartbreak and rejection. Become irresistibly confident.

And create a life and career you absolutely love!

www.Lovein90DaysUniversity.com

Quotes:

"So now I'm a therapist, after being a photographer for all these year, and being a man for all these years. Now I'm a therapist that's a woman!" - Kimberly Anderson

"I don't have a lot of time for art that doesn't mean anything, but I do have a lot of time for art that means everything." - Kimberly Anderson

"Letting go of that control, that need to control, that has probably been the biggest lesson for me.It's that I've really had to force myself to relinquish any expectations of how this thing called life is going to go, and really just embrace life in the moment, and not only be ok with that, but celebrate it and cherish it as it unfolds." - Kimberly Anderson

"The greater the distance between where we are and where want to be, the greater the pain...if we can narrow the gap, we can reduce the pain." - Kimberly Anderson

"Don't set yourself on fire in order to keep other people warm." - Kimberly Anderson

Links:

Mama Dragon Project - support for mothers with LGBTQ children

Meet Kimberly:

Kimberly Anderson is a transgender woman embarking on the second half of her life reinventing nearly every aspect of who she is. She was raised in an orthodox Mormon home, living as a boy on a horse-farm in rural Northern Utah. Anderson has both a Bachelor of Arts and a Master of Fine Arts degree from Utah State University. For over twenty-five years she was a practicing documentary and fine-art photographer and was a university lecturer for ten years in Utah. She has worked all over the world with an emphasis in Asia and Scandinavia. She was married for twenty years to a woman and together they have raised two children. Currently Anderson is a recent graduate of the University of San Francisco with an MA in Counseling Psychology. She has been practicing as a Marriage and Family Therapist in the San Francisco and Sacramento areas with concentrations on Native American populations, adolescents, eating disorders, and trauma. Her particular specialty is working with LGBTQ+ youth and their families transitioning through various journeys of faith and spirituality. Anderson is the photographer and author of the Mama Dragon Story Project, an ethnographic study which features portraits and autobiographical essays from over 135 Mormon moms who have decided their love for their LGBTQ+ child is greater than religious dogma. Anderson has pursued a new spiritual path based on truth, science, and love.

Quotes:

"So now I'm a therapist, after being a photographer for all these year, and being a man for all these years. Now I'm a therapist that's a woman!" - Kimberly Anderson

"I don't have a lot of time for art that doesn't mean anything, but I do have a lot of time for art that means everything." - Kimberly Anderson

"Letting go of that control, that need to control, that has probably been the biggest lesson for me.It's that I've really had to force myself to relinquish any expectations of how this thing called life is going to go, and really just embrace life in the moment, and not only be ok with that, but celebrate it and cherish it as it unfolds." - Kimberly Anderson

"The greater the distance between where we are and where want to be, the greater the pain...if we can narrow the gap, we can reduce the pain." - Kimberly Anderson

"Don't set yourself on fire in order to keep other people warm." - Kimberly Anderson

Links:

Mama Dragon Project - support for mothers with LGBTQ children

Meet Kimberly:

Kimberly Anderson is a transgender woman embarking on the second half of her life reinventing nearly every aspect of who she is. She was raised in an orthodox Mormon home, living as a boy on a horse-farm in rural Northern Utah. Anderson has both a Bachelor of Arts and a Master of Fine Arts degree from Utah State University. For over twenty-five years she was a practicing documentary and fine-art photographer and was a university lecturer for ten years in Utah. She has worked all over the world with an emphasis in Asia and Scandinavia. She was married for twenty years to a woman and together they have raised two children. Currently Anderson is a recent graduate of the University of San Francisco with an MA in Counseling Psychology. She has been practicing as a Marriage and Family Therapist in the San Francisco and Sacramento areas with concentrations on Native American populations, adolescents, eating disorders, and trauma. Her particular specialty is working with LGBTQ+ youth and their families transitioning through various journeys of faith and spirituality. Anderson is the photographer and author of the Mama Dragon Story Project, an ethnographic study which features portraits and autobiographical essays from over 135 Mormon moms who have decided their love for their LGBTQ+ child is greater than religious dogma. Anderson has pursued a new spiritual path based on truth, science, and love.

It's been 2 full years since the Fearless Self-Love Podcast Officially launched!!! This episode is all about the thank you's:) .

Featured Sponsors:

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It's been 2 full years since the Fearless Self-Love Podcast Officially launched!!! This episode is all about the thank you's:)
.

Featured Sponsors:

fearlessselflove.com

thegreatbluesongproject.org

kathleenhanagan.com

Are you a workaholic? Do you find your worth in what you do and hope that it will validate who you are? Psychologist Emee Estacio joins me to share her personal battle with imposter syndrome, how she found her way to asking for help and how she works with others to overcome it, too. She offers tools for imposter syndrome management and insight into how to reframe comparison so it doesn't steal our joy.

• How to know whether or not you have imposter syndrome
• How to bounce back when imposter syndrome comes up
• When to offer your inner critic some TLC

Links Mentioned:

Fearless Self Love Retreat: https://www.fearlessselflove.com/

Book with Emee (mention this podcast for 10% off): http://thepamecode.com/

"When I had my child, it felt as if I lost a bit of control and I started doubting if I'm truly capable of becoming an academic and second whether I'm fit as a mother." -- Emee Estacio

"Sometimes I would put in 60 hour work weeks, because I felt that if I didn't that I wasn't good enough." -- Emee Estacio

"One of the characteristics of imposter syndrome, especially if you have this persistent feeling of self-doubt, incompetence and inadequacy, is that [you] tend to overwork and [you] tend to overstretch [yourself], to the point that [you] use every single time that [you] have to dedicate to [your] work. Because you have this false assumption that if you don't work enough, if you don't put that much time into your work, then … your're going to make mistakes and people are going to find out that you're incompentant." -- Emee Estacio

"I had to hit rock bottom before someone nudged me to ask for help." -- Emee Estacio

"We are all human; we get sick." -- Emee Estacio

"Continuing to have these things surface helps me to hone my skills...and to remind myself I'm human and I'm connected to all the people I'm serving." -- Andrea Catherine

"The inner critic is that tiny voice inside your head that tells you all these nasty things about yourself." -- Emee Estacio

"For people who experience very severe cases of imposter syndrome they tend to have a very fixed mindset. If they believe they're not good at something, then they stick to it, as if there is no more room for growth." -- Emee Estacio

"Yes we might have imperfections...but that's OK, it's part of your learning experience, it's part of growth and development." -- Emee Estacio

"Just because you make mistakes sometimes, it doesn't mean you are a fraud...it means you are human." -- Emee Estacio

"Just because they are doing better than you, it doesn't mean you're not doing well." -- Emee Estacio

"Comparison is the thief of joy." -- Theodore Roosevelt

"Celebrate the success of others because it shows you what is possible." -- Emee Estacio

Meet Emee:

Emee is a chartered psychologist and Founder of the PAME Code. Her passion is to help people embrace their true worth, so they can live happy and fulfilling lives. Throughout her academic, coaching, and research career, she has worked closely with individuals and communities to unlock their full potential using simple and easy to apply methods for limitless success in life. She is the #1 best-selling author of the "Psychology in Your Life" book series, including titles such as "The Imposter Syndrome Remedy", "Change Your Life for Good", and "Fear is Not My Enemy". She is also now helping aspiring authors fulfil their lifelong ambition to write and publish their own books with her flagship course, "Self-Publishing Made Simple".

Are you a workaholic? Do you find your worth in what you do and hope that it will validate who you are? Psychologist Emee Estacio joins me to share her personal battle with imposter syndrome, how she found her way to asking for help and how she works with others to overcome it, too. She offers tools for imposter syndrome management and insight into how to reframe comparison so it doesn’t steal our joy.

• How to know whether or not you have imposter syndrome
• How to bounce back when imposter syndrome comes up
• When to offer your inner critic some TLC

Links Mentioned: 

Fearless Self Love Retreat: https://www.fearlessselflove.com/

Book with Emee (mention this podcast for 10% off): http://thepamecode.com/

“When I had my child, it felt as if I lost a bit of control and I started doubting if I’m truly capable of becoming an academic and second whether I’m fit as a mother.” -- Emee Estacio

“Sometimes I would put in 60 hour work weeks, because I felt that if I didn’t that I wasn’t good enough.” -- Emee Estacio

“One of the characteristics of imposter syndrome, especially if you have this persistent feeling of self-doubt,  incompetence and inadequacy, is that [you] tend to overwork and [you] tend to overstretch [yourself], to the point that [you] use every single time that [you] have to dedicate to [your] work. Because you have this false assumption that if you don’t work enough, if you don’t put that much time into your work, then … your’re going to make mistakes and people are going to find out that you’re incompentant.” -- Emee Estacio

“I had to hit rock bottom before someone nudged me to ask for help.” -- Emee Estacio

“We are all human; we get sick.” -- Emee Estacio

“Continuing to have these things surface helps me to hone my skills...and to remind myself I’m human and I’m connected to all the people I’m serving.” -- Andrea Catherine

“The inner critic is that tiny voice inside your head that tells you all these nasty things about yourself.” -- Emee Estacio

“For people who experience very severe cases of imposter syndrome they tend to have a very fixed mindset. If they believe they’re not good at something, then they stick to it, as if there is no more room for growth.” -- Emee Estacio

“Yes we might have imperfections...but that’s OK, it’s part of your learning experience, it’s part of growth and development.” -- Emee Estacio

“Just because you make mistakes sometimes, it doesn’t mean you are a fraud...it means you are human.” -- Emee Estacio

“Just because they are doing better than you, it doesn’t mean you’re not doing well.” -- Emee Estacio

“Comparison is the thief of joy.”  -- Theodore Roosevelt

"Celebrate the success of others because it shows you what is possible." -- Emee Estacio

Meet Emee:

Emee is a chartered psychologist and Founder of the PAME Code. Her passion is to help people embrace their true worth, so they can live happy and fulfilling lives. Throughout her academic, coaching, and research career, she has worked closely with individuals and communities to unlock their full potential using simple and easy to apply methods for limitless success in life. She is the #1 best-selling author of the "Psychology in Your Life" book series, including titles such as "The Imposter Syndrome Remedy", "Change Your Life for Good", and "Fear is Not My Enemy". She is also now helping aspiring authors fulfil their lifelong ambition to write and publish their own books with her flagship course, "Self-Publishing Made Simple".