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Taking things personally can strain relationships, yet so many of us struggle to step back and give others the space they need. In this episode of After the Tones Drop, Cinnamon and Erin dive into why we internalize others' emotions and reactions—and how to break that habit. Drawing from The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz, they explore why resisting the urge to “fix” someone’s feelings can actually strengthen relationships and prevent unnecessary conflict.

They discuss why we tend to take things personally, how pushing for answers or solutions can backfire, what happens when we try to "fix" our loved ones, and how to give people space to process without making it about our own discomfort. Erin even puts herself on blast, admitting how much this lesson applies in her own marriage, while Cinnamon confesses to rewriting the Laverne & Shirley theme song in her head. It’s real talk, a little tough love, and a lot of laughs.

If you've ever found yourself demanding answers, defending yourself when emotions run high, or assuming someone’s mood is about you, this episode is for you. The challenge of the week is to resist the urge to pry when someone you care about is upset but doesn’t want to talk. Let them come to you, and when they do, just listen. Don’t react, don’t take it personally, and see what happens.

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