In this episode Ryan and Lauren discuss how to resolve conflicts the right way. The way that leads to repair and connection not anger and resentment.

Main Talking Points

1. What is the intention of the other person / Assume the Best in Each Other
2. Mirror Back Emotions
3. Ask to Share Context instead of being defensive
4. Repair Quickly — Don’t Let Things Fester
6. Ban the Word “But” AND Never Cuss During an Argument
7. Say Thank You for Everything!!!!!
8. Set Expectations Early
9. Use “I” Statements Instead of “You”
10. Critique Behavior, Not Character
11. 🧱 Avoid the Four Relationship Killers (Gottman Institute)

• Criticism → Attacking character instead of behavior.
• Contempt → Sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolling — most destructive.
• Defensiveness → Denying responsibility instead of owning your part.
• Stonewalling → Shutting down or leaving without repair.