Financial Abuse/Control are real! It is an action that makes the abusee feel disrespected, controlled, demeaned and pathetic.  Money is an easy tool for the Narcissist to control. We are made to feel that if we don't contribute monetarily than we are worthless and therefore do not deserve the hard earned money of the abuser. If you have children and take care of a home and the agreement is that you stay home then you do work hard each and every day, 24/7 non stop. It should be a partnership, equal.  Making the money doesn't make a person more powerful or give them the right to make another inferior.