This is a slightly different episode than usual as I chat with Sports Scientist, Psychologist and Author, Tim Harkness to talk about several of his theoretical frameworks around staying mentally well within high performance sport. First thing that fascinated me about Tim is his combined role in the areas of psychology and sports science, which is not usually seen in elite sport. Tim credits his success to his fabulous team that works along side him at the club.
Tim shares his motivation behind writing ‘The 10 Rules of Talking’ and how it helped broaden his own conversation skills. The book details techniques to help initiate and deal with difficult conversations. These involve being more invested in understanding the other persons point of view and being void of assumptions. While also trying to still get the message across and press for a certain point of view. It’s important to not sacrifice your own needs/points of view when undertaking a difficult conversation. A very important part of having a difficult conversation is the importance of listening. People tend to go to fully formed opinions from very small amounts of info, making assumptions, jumping to conclusions and trying to fix things straight away. One of my main takeaways from Tim’s advice was to listen more and to gather more information before undergoing a difficult conversation.
Another topic that Tim and I discuss is the theory of the Hedonic treadmill. This is a metaphor for the human tendency to pursue one pleasure after another, being continuously unsatisfied and needing/wanting more. This can be in the form of fame for a celebrity, a new car or suit for a businessman, championships and titles for an athlete, or a job title for a practitioner. Overall, it sparks the question ‘Is this as good as it gets’ once such pleasures/goals have been achieved. This is important to be discussed and Tim raises some very interesting points in this episode.
‘Dream jobs are oversubscribed……There are many elements of luck……. What matters is the work being done and the human interactions’
In his explanation, Tim brings up the concept of P.E.R.M.A, which are 5 things that lead to a positive life (Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning and Accomplishment). This concept highlights the importance of having a sense of meaning and accomplishment in what we do.
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