Merry Christmas to everybody. It's a fabulous time of the year especially if you have young kids or in my case, a young excited four year old and 16 month grandchildren.

It's also a time of year where I get some reflective opportunities and hope you can as well. My main reflection is to be more and more aware of how well people can solve their own problems and hope that my nuggets come across as suggestion’s and never prescriptive.

My suggestion is to find a groove that works for you. This groove will evolve as your needs change with age and self awareness but keep in mind that no one knows you better than yourself, so trust yourself to find your happiness. Listen, read and watch not to follow another person’s way of life but to see what can be added, subtracted or altered to enhance your groove. Ultimately we all know what’s best for us and then it is usually a case of having the discipline to do what we know is good for us. It can be the case that for some things in life there are no solutions just finding a way to accept and endure.

There is so much good information out there and a lot of bad information. I take exception to the growing number of books, podcasts, videos on YouTube and any medium where people tell you what to do, like they know for sure that their way or whatever path they are peddling is the right way. There is categorically no best way to live because each and every life and each person is unique so at best we can make suggestions that offers the gift of altering a perception which could alter a path in a positive way. There are no guarantees and what is good for some is not necessarily good for others. 

Sure there are common areas where it is clear that there is best practice and one way that works like driving on opposite sides of the road but as for living a life there is very little where we as humans can be totally confident that we have the answer and even if it we find a path, an answer for ourselves it is rarely the answer for other people.

So in conclusion, I think it's important to find your own groove, something that you're comfortable with. There's hardly a person I've ever met who feels that they are fully organised or that they would like to accomplish more with things in their life that they feel they could do a lot better.

The reality is we only have a certain amount of energy and when we focus that energy in certain areas other areas will suffer. This is just mathematics and as I get older it becomes all about making choices without worrying about what others think because if you try to do it all you get unstuck. The pressure to satisfy all the demands on your time and energy is unbearable if you feel like you are failing when you fall short trying the impossible. 

Choose your groove and be satisfied with it and when it no longer makes you happy alter your groove. The key is it being your groove!

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