If you've ever been told you take too long to make decisions, this episode will change everything. Today we're diving into emotional decision making (also called emotional authority in Human Design)—the style that roughly 50% of the population has.

If you need time to process big decisions, if you've learned the hard way what happens when you decide from an emotional high or low, or if you've been pressured to "just decide already" when you know you're not ready—this episode is for you.

I share the core principle of emotional decision making: riding the highs and lows of your emotions until you reach neutrality. I break down what neutrality actually feels like, why 80% clarity is enough, and how to navigate pressure from others who want faster answers.

Key Takeaways:

1. Ride the waves, wait for neutral

You must ride the highs and lows of your emotions before making a decision. Don't decide when you're feeling on top of the world OR in the depths. Wait until you feel neutral—a felt sense of detachment in your body.

2. Neutrality is a felt sense, not a thought

Neutrality means you don't feel polarized in either direction. It's like having an observer lens—you can step back and say, "Okay, I can decide on that now." This happens in your BODY, not your mind.

3. Clarity comes over time, not in the moment

If you have emotional authority, you are not meant to make decisions in the moment. Anyone pushing you to decide right now is asking you to decide against your design. Permission to take the time you need. 

4. 80% certainty is your green light

You won't ever feel 100% sure, even when you reach neutrality. If you feel 80% or more that this is a yes, then it's a yes. Waiting for 100% certainty will keep you stuck forever.

5. Not all decisions need this process

Use emotional authority for "tattoo-level" decisions—big life choices like career changes, major moves, business decisions, significant relationships. For everyday "outfit" decisions, you can move faster.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is?

Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart 

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

Want the full mind-body connection journey?

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

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Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Welcome to the Decision Making Series! If you're tired of overthinking, decision fatigue, or making choices you later regret, this episode is for you. I'm kicking off a 7-part series on how to make clear, confident decisions using your body's wisdom—not just your mind.

In this kickoff episode, I share why we all make decisions differently, how conditioning affects the way we choose, and why your body knows before your mind does. You'll learn about the seven different decision-making styles and how to discover yours using Human Design as a practical tool.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your body knows before your mind does

If you've ever had a gut feeling that something was off, even when you couldn't explain why... that was your body speaking. Our bodies have always been tools for instinct and intuition.

2. Conditioning shapes how we decide

From the families we're born into to the workplaces we navigate, we've been conditioned to make decisions in certain ways. Understanding this conditioning is the first step to reclaiming your authentic decision-making style.

3. There are seven different decision-making styles

Some people are meant to decide in the moment. Others need time to ride emotional waves. Some need to talk it out. There's no "right" way... only YOUR way.

4. Big decisions deserve body-based wisdom

Career changes, new roles, starting a business, major moves—these "tattoo-level" decisions are where body-based decision making truly changes the game.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is?

Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart 

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

Want the full mind-body connection journey?

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

In this episode of the Find Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast, Mary Clavieres dives deep into the power and importance of embracing yourself as you set your direction for 2026. She shares insightful reflections on letting go of who you thought you had to be, embracing where you are now, and trusting your own timing.

You'll discover practical ways to start embracing yourself, including honoring your natural decision-making style and making space for rest and self-care. Mary emphasizes how embracing yourself can shift your mindset and bring more peace, clarity, and opportunity into your life.

Highlights from this episode include:
Why embracing yourself means letting go of outdated expectations
The value of gratitude, journaling, and turning inward to truly embrace where you are
How to trust your timing and see every experience as a lesson
Embracing yourself by tuning into your body, understanding your decision-making process, and honoring your limits

Join Mary as she guides you through an empowering process of embracing yourself, supporting your personal growth, and welcoming spaciousness and possibility in the year ahead.



**Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?**

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

**Want the full mind-body connection journey?**

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

**Let's connect:**
  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Happy 2026! In this week’s episode, Mary invites you to explore the power of setting your intention as you step into 2026. Rather than simply checking off boxes and chasing goals, she encourages a deeper reflection on who you want to be and how you want to show up in your life.

Mary shares her own experiences from the past year and offers practical tips for setting your intention, from reflecting on the lessons and celebrations of the previous year, to identifying the feelings and personal growth you want to cultivate. Discover why setting your intention can make your goals more meaningful and support decisions in moments of change, whether in your career, relationships, or personal life.

Ready to start your year with more alignment and authenticity? Listen in for a fresh perspective on how simply setting your intention can transform your approach to change, goal-setting, and daily living.

If you'd like support with setting your intention or decision-making for the year ahead, check out the special offerings and resources below. Reach out to Mary with your questions, ideas, or just to say hello!

Let’s make 2026 a year of purpose, connection, and true personal growth… starting with setting your intention.

Want to learn how to make clearer, more confident decisions?

Book a reading to learn your unique decision making style using Human Design

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

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In today’s episode of Find Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast, Mary explores the transformative power of staying true to yourself through the lens of Julia Cameron’s wisdom from The Artist’s Way. Reflecting on her years with the Morning Pages journal, Mary shares how reconnecting with creativity is often a journey back to authenticity and originality.

The centerpiece of today’s episode is a Julia Cameron quote:

"It is the accurate mapping of our own creative interests that invites the term original. We are the origin of our art, its homeland. Viewed this way, originality is the process of remaining true to ourselves."

Mary invites listeners to reflect on the importance of staying true to yourself, not just in big, memorable moments but also in the small, everyday choices that shape our lives. She discusses how easy it is to lose touch with our uniqueness in the noise of daily life and social media, emphasizing the value of checking in with yourself and allowing your originality to shine through.

Whether you feel connected to your creativity or a bit lost, this episode provides inspiration and practical insights for anyone seeking to deepen their commitment to staying true to yourself.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In today’s episode of Find Yourself, Change Your Life, Mary dives deep into the topic of understanding your soul. She explores what it truly means to connect with the deeper wisdom within ourselves, a space that holds our unique purpose, passions, and the essence of who we are meant to be in this lifetime.

Key highlights include:

• The six-part process from her book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, with a focus on the soul’s role
• The importance of reconnecting with joy and excitement, echoing the innate curiosity we experience as children
• Practical ways to discover the things that light you up and how following these passions is a key part of understanding your soul
• Why it’s normal not to have everything figured out and how surrendering to the journey can bring surprising growth and fulfillment
• Permission to honor what you love and guidance for balancing self-expression with the demands of everyday life

Whether you’re feeling off track or simply craving a deeper sense of alignment, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to reflect, reignite your passions, and show up for yourself. Tune in for gentle guidance, tangible suggestions, and encouragement to trust your unique soul path.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In today’s episode, Mary dives deep into the importance of understanding your body and listening to what it’s telling you. Mary explains why reconnecting with and truly understanding your body is foundational to rediscovering yourself and becoming the leader of your life.

Key themes from understanding your body in this episode include:

• The Importance of Mind-Body Connection: Mary emphasizes that understanding and listening to our bodies is essential for reconnecting with ourselves and our purpose.
• Awareness and Practice: Developing a connection with your body is a process and a practice. It starts with conscious awareness and regular check-ins throughout your day.
• Listening to Your Body’s Signals: Many of us tend to let our minds override the signals coming from our bodies. However, the body has innate intelligence and often knows what’s best for us, especially in decision-making.
• Human Design and Decision Making: Mary discusses how Human Design offers frameworks for understanding your unique decision-making style, highlighting the differences between individuals and families. She shares personal stories illustrating how responses from the body can guide choices.
• Building a Relationship with Your Body: It’s important to not only listen but also speak to your body… thanking it, appreciating it, and asking what it needs, which helps build a deeper connection and living in alignment with yourself.

These themes run throughout the episode and offer a foundation for understanding your body’s signals, honoring those messages, and integrating the physical, mental, and emotional dimensions of well-being.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In today’s episode, Mary dives deep into the importance of understanding your mind and the patterns that shape your daily thoughts. Through relatable examples and practical advice, she explores how the majority of our thousands of daily thoughts are both repetitive and negative, often keeping us stuck in unhelpful cycles.

Key themes from understanding your mind in this episode include:

• Why understanding your mind is key to breaking free of limiting patterns
• How common themes like self-doubt and comparison can keep you stuck
• Simple steps for building awareness and starting to shift your thoughts

This episode is packed with compassionate guidance and an invitation to start observing and shifting your inner dialogue. Whether you’re looking to break free from self-criticism, understand patterns of comparison, or just begin the journey toward understanding your mind, this episode offers valuable insights and practical takeaways.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

My new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In this episode of the Find Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast, host Mary invites listeners to explore "The 5 Pillars of Self Care" as a powerful framework for personal well-being and holistic support. This episode is a gentle, shame-free invitation to get curious about your own self-care practices, offering both practical insights and personal reflections.

The 5 Pillars of Self Care covered in this episode include:

1. Sleep: Are you getting enough rest, and how does your sleep routine support your energy and mood each day?
2. Hydration: Are you keeping your body hydrated, and what simple shifts could help you drink more water?
3. Nutrition: Are you eating foods that nourish you and paying attention to how you feel after meals, without guilt or restriction?
4. Movement: Are you moving your body regularly in ways that fit your lifestyle and energy?
5. Eliminating Unhealthy Habits: Are there troublesome habits—like excess screen time—that you’d like to reduce or release in gentle, sustainable ways?

You are encouraged to assess where they stand with each of the 5 pillars, choose just one area to gently improve, and remember that even "simple" self-care is key to being 

well-resourced and present for themselves, their loved ones, and their work.

If you’re looking for practical ideas and a compassionate approach to "The 5 Pillars of Self Care," this episode is a supportive guide with tangible takeaways for nurturing your body, mind, and daily rhythm.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

My new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In this episode, Mary offers a practical introduction to human design explained in everyday language. She breaks down what human design is, focusing especially on how it helps you reconnect with your unique energy and your mind-body connection.

What is Human Design?

Human design is explained as a powerful mapping tool that helps you discover how your energy flows and how you’re naturally meant to make decisions and move through the world. Mary emphasizes that everyone has their own blueprint, and human design explained in this way can be a supportive resource for self-leadership and authenticity.

Key Topics Covered:

• Five Energy Types: 

Human design explained through the five types: Generator, Manifesting Generator, Manifestor, Projector, and Reflector. Each type’s core traits, needs, and energy patterns are covered, along with helping you see what alignment looks like for each.

• Strategy & Authority:
  Mary demystifies two more pillars of human design so you can start observing and become aware of these in your daily life
  • Your strategy (how you interact with the world) 
  • Your authority (your ideal decision-making style)

• Signs of Alignment and Misalignment: The episode shares ways that each type can better understand if they are in alignment or not in alignment helping you recognize when you’re aligned with your design.

Want to learn more about your unique Human Design blueprint?

Get your free chart here.

Book a Human Design reading with Mary here.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

My new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

Connect with Mary here:

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