Do you ever make decisions because you think you should... not because you actually want to?

This episode is for you.

Today we're diving into heart decision-making (also called ego authority in Human Design), the style that's all about one question: Is my heart in this?

Not "Is this the smart choice?" Not "What will people think?" But... do I actually want this?

If you've ever:
• Said yes to something because it seemed responsible, not because you wanted it
• Felt guilty for wanting things for yourself
• Struggled to separate what you want from what you think you should want

This episode will help you understand how to tune into your heart's desires and make decisions that actually feel aligned.

Key Takeaways:

1. Heart authority operates on "hell yes or no": if your heart's in it, it's a yes

2. Watch for the word "should": it's a red flag that you're overriding what you want

3. Guilt often shows up: give yourself permission to put yourself first

4. Following your heart isn't selfish: it's aligned, and that benefits everyone

5. Tune into your body: where does a "yes" feel like? What about a "no"?


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
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Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Do you ever get a split-second knowing about something and then talk yourself out of it?
 
Or have you ever ignored that quiet inner voice and later thought, "I should have listened"?
 
This episode is for you.
 
Today we're diving into splenic decision-making (also called splenic authority in Human Design)—the style that's all about real-time intuition and split-second instinct.
 
If you've ever dismissed a gut feeling in the moment, or you're someone who needs to trust your body's immediate wisdom, you'll want to hear this.
 
I share how splenic authority works, why the spleen "whispers" only once, and a powerful story from my dad about honoring that split-second knowing—even when it doesn't make logical sense.


Key Takeaways:

1. It operates in real-time—split-second instinct for safety
Splenic authority is about in-the-moment intuition. Your spleen is constantly scanning: what's safe for me right now? What's healthy for me? It's your body's real-time protection system.
 
2. The spleen whispers—don't dismiss it
You might hear a voice, get a flash of knowing, or feel a subtle nudge. It's quiet. It won't shout. And if you ignore it, it can go silent. But you can bring it back through presence.
 
3. You won't always know why in the moment
The reason usually reveals itself later. Trust the information even when your mind can't explain it. That's how the spleen works.
 
4. Everyone's signals are different
Some hear it as a voice outside themselves. Some hear it as their own voice. Some get a flash or image. Discover how YOUR spleen communicates with you.
 
5. Practice presence to strengthen the connection
The more you slow down, tune in, and honor those subtle nudges in daily life, the stronger your connection becomes. Build the muscle with small decisions so you trust it for big ones.


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Do you ever say "yes" when your body is screaming "no"? Or feel like you're overthinking every decision because you don't trust your gut? This episode is for you.

Today we're diving into sacral decision making (also called sacral authority in Human Design), the style that's all about trusting your body's immediate gut response. If you've been told to "think it through" when your body already knows the answer, or if you've ignored your gut and regretted it later, you'll want to hear this.

I share how sacral authority works, why it's not about what you SAY but how your body responds before you speak, and how to discover your unique body signals. Plus, I tell the story of how I was unknowingly asking my daughter to respond twice—and what changed when I learned about her decision-making style.

Key Takeaways:

1. It's not about what you say—it's how your body responds first
Sacral decision making is about your body's response BEFORE you speak it out loud. If you're explaining or reasoning, you've already moved into your mind. Your body knows immediately.

2. Ask specific, time-bound yes/no questions
Not "Do you want to travel?" but "Do you want to travel this summer for two weeks?" The more specific the question, the clearer your body's response. Vague questions create vague answers.

3. Your body speaks its own language
Some people lean forward (yes) or backward (no). Others make sounds like "uh-huh" or "mm-mm." Some nod or shake their heads before they realize they're doing it. Everyone's signals are different—discover yours.

4. Follow what lights you up
This decision-making style is about joy and energy. What makes you feel expansive and alive? That's your yes. What makes you contract or feel heavy? That's your no. Trust it.

5. You can practice this all the time

While sacral authority is powerful for big decisions, you can practice it daily. The more you tune into your body's responses, the stronger your connection becomes. It's a game changer.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

If you've ever been told you take too long to make decisions, this episode will change everything. Today we're diving into emotional decision making (also called emotional authority in Human Design)—the style that roughly 50% of the population has.

If you need time to process big decisions, if you've learned the hard way what happens when you decide from an emotional high or low, or if you've been pressured to "just decide already" when you know you're not ready—this episode is for you.

I share the core principle of emotional decision making: riding the highs and lows of your emotions until you reach neutrality. I break down what neutrality actually feels like, why 80% clarity is enough, and how to navigate pressure from others who want faster answers.

Key Takeaways:

1. Ride the waves, wait for neutral

You must ride the highs and lows of your emotions before making a decision. Don't decide when you're feeling on top of the world OR in the depths. Wait until you feel neutral—a felt sense of detachment in your body.

2. Neutrality is a felt sense, not a thought

Neutrality means you don't feel polarized in either direction. It's like having an observer lens—you can step back and say, "Okay, I can decide on that now." This happens in your BODY, not your mind.

3. Clarity comes over time, not in the moment

If you have emotional authority, you are not meant to make decisions in the moment. Anyone pushing you to decide right now is asking you to decide against your design. Permission to take the time you need. 

4. 80% certainty is your green light

You won't ever feel 100% sure, even when you reach neutrality. If you feel 80% or more that this is a yes, then it's a yes. Waiting for 100% certainty will keep you stuck forever.

5. Not all decisions need this process

Use emotional authority for "tattoo-level" decisions—big life choices like career changes, major moves, business decisions, significant relationships. For everyday "outfit" decisions, you can move faster.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is?

Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart 

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

Want the full mind-body connection journey?

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Welcome to the Decision Making Series! If you're tired of overthinking, decision fatigue, or making choices you later regret, this episode is for you. I'm kicking off a 7-part series on how to make clear, confident decisions using your body's wisdom—not just your mind.

In this kickoff episode, I share why we all make decisions differently, how conditioning affects the way we choose, and why your body knows before your mind does. You'll learn about the seven different decision-making styles and how to discover yours using Human Design as a practical tool.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your body knows before your mind does

If you've ever had a gut feeling that something was off, even when you couldn't explain why... that was your body speaking. Our bodies have always been tools for instinct and intuition.

2. Conditioning shapes how we decide

From the families we're born into to the workplaces we navigate, we've been conditioned to make decisions in certain ways. Understanding this conditioning is the first step to reclaiming your authentic decision-making style.

3. There are seven different decision-making styles

Some people are meant to decide in the moment. Others need time to ride emotional waves. Some need to talk it out. There's no "right" way... only YOUR way.

4. Big decisions deserve body-based wisdom

Career changes, new roles, starting a business, major moves—these "tattoo-level" decisions are where body-based decision making truly changes the game.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is?

Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart 

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

Want the full mind-body connection journey?

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

In this episode of the Find Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast, Mary Clavieres dives deep into the power and importance of embracing yourself as you set your direction for 2026. She shares insightful reflections on letting go of who you thought you had to be, embracing where you are now, and trusting your own timing.

You'll discover practical ways to start embracing yourself, including honoring your natural decision-making style and making space for rest and self-care. Mary emphasizes how embracing yourself can shift your mindset and bring more peace, clarity, and opportunity into your life.

Highlights from this episode include:
Why embracing yourself means letting go of outdated expectations
The value of gratitude, journaling, and turning inward to truly embrace where you are
How to trust your timing and see every experience as a lesson
Embracing yourself by tuning into your body, understanding your decision-making process, and honoring your limits

Join Mary as she guides you through an empowering process of embracing yourself, supporting your personal growth, and welcoming spaciousness and possibility in the year ahead.



**Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?**

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator 

**Want the full mind-body connection journey?**

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book 

**Let's connect:**
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Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Happy 2026! In this week’s episode, Mary invites you to explore the power of setting your intention as you step into 2026. Rather than simply checking off boxes and chasing goals, she encourages a deeper reflection on who you want to be and how you want to show up in your life.

Mary shares her own experiences from the past year and offers practical tips for setting your intention, from reflecting on the lessons and celebrations of the previous year, to identifying the feelings and personal growth you want to cultivate. Discover why setting your intention can make your goals more meaningful and support decisions in moments of change, whether in your career, relationships, or personal life.

Ready to start your year with more alignment and authenticity? Listen in for a fresh perspective on how simply setting your intention can transform your approach to change, goal-setting, and daily living.

If you'd like support with setting your intention or decision-making for the year ahead, check out the special offerings and resources below. Reach out to Mary with your questions, ideas, or just to say hello!

Let’s make 2026 a year of purpose, connection, and true personal growth… starting with setting your intention.

Want to learn how to make clearer, more confident decisions?

Book a reading to learn your unique decision making style using Human Design

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

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In today’s episode of Find Yourself, Change Your Life Podcast, Mary explores the transformative power of staying true to yourself through the lens of Julia Cameron’s wisdom from The Artist’s Way. Reflecting on her years with the Morning Pages journal, Mary shares how reconnecting with creativity is often a journey back to authenticity and originality.

The centerpiece of today’s episode is a Julia Cameron quote:

"It is the accurate mapping of our own creative interests that invites the term original. We are the origin of our art, its homeland. Viewed this way, originality is the process of remaining true to ourselves."

Mary invites listeners to reflect on the importance of staying true to yourself, not just in big, memorable moments but also in the small, everyday choices that shape our lives. She discusses how easy it is to lose touch with our uniqueness in the noise of daily life and social media, emphasizing the value of checking in with yourself and allowing your originality to shine through.

Whether you feel connected to your creativity or a bit lost, this episode provides inspiration and practical insights for anyone seeking to deepen their commitment to staying true to yourself.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In today’s episode of Find Yourself, Change Your Life, Mary dives deep into the topic of understanding your soul. She explores what it truly means to connect with the deeper wisdom within ourselves, a space that holds our unique purpose, passions, and the essence of who we are meant to be in this lifetime.

Key highlights include:

• The six-part process from her book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, with a focus on the soul’s role
• The importance of reconnecting with joy and excitement, echoing the innate curiosity we experience as children
• Practical ways to discover the things that light you up and how following these passions is a key part of understanding your soul
• Why it’s normal not to have everything figured out and how surrendering to the journey can bring surprising growth and fulfillment
• Permission to honor what you love and guidance for balancing self-expression with the demands of everyday life

Whether you’re feeling off track or simply craving a deeper sense of alignment, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to reflect, reignite your passions, and show up for yourself. Tune in for gentle guidance, tangible suggestions, and encouragement to trust your unique soul path.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

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In today’s episode, Mary dives deep into the importance of understanding your body and listening to what it’s telling you. Mary explains why reconnecting with and truly understanding your body is foundational to rediscovering yourself and becoming the leader of your life.

Key themes from understanding your body in this episode include:

• The Importance of Mind-Body Connection: Mary emphasizes that understanding and listening to our bodies is essential for reconnecting with ourselves and our purpose.
• Awareness and Practice: Developing a connection with your body is a process and a practice. It starts with conscious awareness and regular check-ins throughout your day.
• Listening to Your Body’s Signals: Many of us tend to let our minds override the signals coming from our bodies. However, the body has innate intelligence and often knows what’s best for us, especially in decision-making.
• Human Design and Decision Making: Mary discusses how Human Design offers frameworks for understanding your unique decision-making style, highlighting the differences between individuals and families. She shares personal stories illustrating how responses from the body can guide choices.
• Building a Relationship with Your Body: It’s important to not only listen but also speak to your body… thanking it, appreciating it, and asking what it needs, which helps build a deeper connection and living in alignment with yourself.

These themes run throughout the episode and offer a foundation for understanding your body’s signals, honoring those messages, and integrating the physical, mental, and emotional dimensions of well-being.

Mind-Body Connection Unlocked Book:

Mary’s new book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, is now officially out in the world! Order your copy and dive into how mind and body alignment can support lasting change in your life.

Get Your Copy of Mind Body-Connection Unlocked

Connect with Mary here:

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/

Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres

Voxer: @ maryclavieres