Finding Joy in Your Home

We spent the first 10 episodes of our 25 Foundational Episode series chatting about routines, habits, and how we can find joy in our homes all for God's Glory. The last part of what we want to focus on in our homes, is serving! Today we are going to talk about what it looks like to serve within our homes and then we will jump into a 2 part mini series on hospitality. After that, we will kick off a series on PLANNING out all of these habits and routines in our homes. Let's jump in: Listen to the Podcast: You can find all the links and notes for this episode below! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. I did a deep dive into this topic in my new book, She Laughs Without Fear. So as I was planning out the notes for this episode, I started pulling stuff from that chapter but realized I basically just wanted to give you everything from that episode. So instead of reinventing the wheel, today's episode is just going to be the audiobook Chapter 7 of my new book! If you are loving this topic, you can hop over to FindingJoyShop.com to purchase the full eBook or Audiobook on the Proverbs 31 woman! "She opens her hands to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy." - Proverbs 31:20 Often in seasons where we are home a lot (like being a stay at home mom and/or having lots of little kids), it can feel like our ability to serve within our homes isn't much. But in this episode, I hope to show that while God has us all in unique seasons, we are still called to serve. In fact, we can use our homes as a powerful form of ministry...it might just look different from season to season. Some ways we can serve that we discuss in this episode: Through hospitality Tithes & offerings And other forms of ministry Ministry to our own families So I will leave you here on that note. What season does God have you in right now? What are some ways you can serve in the season you are in? Empty nesters, you might find yourself with more time on your hands and the ability to serve outside the home more, but lack the energy to do so. Pray that God would direct where you should serve and use the restrictions and freedom that God has given you in this season. Likewise, young moms, you might feel so squeezed for time, yet you are home a lot. Use what God has given you in this season to serve! Don't discount the small ways you can serve the Lord right now. Take this lesson from the wise woman and plan and prepare for ways you can serve the Lord while serving your family. Links & Resources: Get my full book, She Laughs Without Fear here Get TWO full weeks of meal plans and learn how to prep ahead with PrepDish.com/Homemaking Join our new community to discuss this epiosde and so much more! --> FindingJoyCommunity.com

We've been really working on routines around here. It's been one of those seasons where I need to tighten up our routines and habits for the whole family. In episode 9, we discussed a solid morning routine which will make your day go so much smoother. But the KEY to a solid morning routine is a very practical evening routine. That's what we are going to discuss today, let's dive in: Listen to the Podcast: You can find all the links and notes for this episode below! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. A practical evening routine for my house: Helps me to close out today and prepare well for tomorrow. If I can successfully do my evening routine, it's so much more likely that tomorrow will start without a hitch. It's kind of like a vicious circle in my household. When I stay up too late and am not intentional, my morning is rocky which throws off my whole day. Then we get to bedtime and I stay up too late again trying to either capture a little productivity or finally sneak in some rest time. Which of course, means TOMORROW is rocky or messed up. Thus the circle. But in a positive way, if you can get on a rhythm of good routines: closing out your day well, getting a good nights sleep and getting up and getting productive: a very good circle can start. That's our aim with a practical evening routine. A Practical Evening Routine for Me Includes: Shut down the house and my day: Create a routine that you step into each evening Set the coffee make to start Make sure kitchen is clear & I know what's for breakfast Review my dinner plan for tomorrow: does anything need to go in the crockpot or pull out of freezer Review my plans for tomorrow: school plans, doctors appointments, etc. The most important part: Get to bed on time I have a brain that likes to never stop. I have the tendency to get into bed exhausted but my brain is wide awake. So in some stressful seasons, it's very important for me to intentionally wind down before bed. If I try to go straight from working on a work project, watching tv with Jason, or scrolling IG on my phone to sleep, it just doesn't work. So I like to: Take a detox bath: Epsom salt + essential oil Take Mary Ruth's nighttime multi mineral (magnesium) Read a book before bed to relax Links & Resources: Our Sponsor: MoinkBox.com/HOME for a FREE year of bacon!! Our Sponsor: HookedOnPhonics.comHOME, and receive your first month for just one dollar Join our amazing free online community app (you can access it from anywhere): FindingJoyCommunity.com Sign up for the Finding Joy in Your Kitchen Collective. Our first month we will be breaking down BREAKFAST! Come join us Titus 2 Minute Podcast Season 2 is LAUNCHING TODAY!! Go listen.

I have become very passionate about establishing a solid morning routine in my day because it makes such a huge difference in the work I can get done in a day but also attitudes! Tune into this episode to hear about my morning routine and how I use it to really set the tone for my day. Listen in: Listen to the Podcast: You can find all the links and notes for this episode below! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. We've been talking a lot about priorities and a solid morning routine helps to make sure your 1-2 top priorities for each day happens. A good morning routine to me: Start off with: Bible reading & prayer Then: Get Ready This helps with: Making sure my own attitude is prepared for the day Make sure to: Review dinner Also: Review days plans This all: Kicks off our work and school day well In the next episode we are going to dive into a solid evening routine and how this is actually the key to a good morning routine and that is when things really start clicking! Links & Resources: Our Sponsor: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code home50

In the past episode, we discussed redeeming our time for God's Glory. Next we are going to dive into developing good morning and evening routines. But before we do, I want to pause and take a little look at the Proverbs 31 woman and something she can teach us about using our time well. And don't worry, I'm not going to leave you with a massive to do list that includes learning how to make your own clothes or grow a giant vineyard. Listen to the Podcast: You can find all the links and notes for this episode below! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. We are celebrating this month because my brand new book: She Laughs Without Fear: Wise & Joyful Living with the Proverbs 31 Woman launches this week. Preorders for the physical copy of the book already closed, but keep an eye out for future bookstore openings when we may offer it for print again. In the mean time, you can get the eBook and Audiobook version in our digital store. You'll get access to both versions! eBook launches Wednesday and audiobook is coming Friday! Order here. "What we are going to see throughout this book is a woman who is filled with joy. A woman who laughs, works hard unto the Lord, and personifies wisdom. All of this leads to a rich, full, and joyful life. And the heart of all of this is not how much she does, or what she accomplishes. It's not about her worth, or her output, or her social media account where people can follow how beautiful and perfect her home is. The heart of it all is her relationship with God. We will see things we do want to emulate from the Proverbs 31 woman. We might be convicted and see places we can work harder. We might even start a little to do list of things to work on after reading this book. But all of it will be under the umbrella of knowing God more and serving Him with joy." - Introduction from my new book There are two parts of Proverbs 31 that are very relevant to our discussion today. The question is, how do we use our time well? The heading to the Proverbs 31 passage is titled "The Woman Who Fears the Lord" and then the chapter is concluded with these final 2 verses: "Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." We also see up in verses 25, "Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come." So how do we learn from this wise woman? In my book, we go into the concept of wisdom, what it is and how we can attain it. And then verse by verse we go through the final chapter of the book of Proverbs to see what the real lessons are there in it. But today I want to just look at these few verses. We are on a journey with these 25 foundational episodes to discover how to use our time well in the pursuit of finding joy in our home. And so many of us are plagued by stress and anxiety in our homes. Not a lot of extra room for joy or peace when you are plagued by anxiety. But we see that the wise woman of Proverbs laughs without fear of the future. How could this possible be? How can she be so secure in the Lord that she takes delight in what is to come? This speaks of a woman who has found joy and purpose in her day. Well we see the entire reason for it in verse 30, "but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." What does that fear of the Lord possible mean? The point of the book of Proverbs is to help us understand what God considers wise and righteous living. It helps us take the Law and apply it to daily life. Through the book of Proverbs, we see some powerful glimpses into the heart of God, and it helps us to learn His character more. One such powerful lesson is earlier in the book: "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight." - Proverbs 9:10 he book of Proverbs is all about this concept - the wise person versus the fool.

As we kick off our next mini series on productivity and routines, we first need to start with the concept of our time. How do we use our time to serve the Lord? How can we redeem our time all for His glory and in finding joy in our homes? Let's dive into this episode to find out! Listen to the Podcast: You can find all the links and notes for this episode below! And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes. Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. Redeeming our time for God's Glory We can view the time we have as a gift - or we can grumble and complain that we don't have enough of it. Do we thank God for the time we have? Or do we constantly grumble and complain about what seemingly little time I have? God gave us 24 hours in a day and of those hours, we are not meant to be productive 24 hours a day. In fact, we "waste" roughly 1/3 of those hours every single day in sleep! God has given you the right amount of hours to accomplish all that he has for you. You won't get to the end of your life and God is like whoops! So with that in mind, are we scheduling in the big priorities that God has given me? Am I making sure that HIS priorities are #1 and that I'm not filling my time with my priorities. We glorify busy and productive. And often, God's big priorities are not often the ones that we feel good sharing on social media or checking off a list. Our big priorities in our life: God Marriage Kids Business Other important things: homeschool, eating healthy, my own health, reading, etc. What do you need to say not to right now in order to use your time well? I think for many of us, it's getting more wise with our technology use. Tim Challies shares "They are questions I receive often: "Do you ever sleep? Do you work all the time? Do you ever stop?" There seems to be this impression among certain people that either I am an unrepentant workaholic or that I am remorselessly neglectful toward life's other responsibilities. The truth is far less sordid: I have invested a lot of effort over many years in learning how to simplify life and how to maximize productivity. I love to make the best use of my time and energy, and I am constantly fine-tuning the systems that allow me to remain that way." His very helpful article: https://www.challies.com/articles/how-to-get-things-done/ Links & Resources: Our sponsor: Get free shipping on the kid play sets at Lovevery.com/homemaking Our sponsor: Get 12 free meals and free shipping with HelloFresh.com/homemaking12 and coupon: homemaking12

Ever year, I do a recap of our homeschool year to share what has been working well and sharing all the resources we used. Listen to to a fun homeschooling convo today. Listen to the Podcast: We also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. If you want to listen in instead of reading, click play below or do a combination of both And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes. Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. This year we had 2 2nd graders, 2 kindergartners, and a 4 year old who wanted to be in Kindergarten and do everything her big brothers were doing. So it was our first year really with 5 kids in school. Our biggest focus this year: READING. I had a big focus with all 5 kids on getting everyone to the next reading level. Which I am so glad because I feel like my 2nd graders are really walking into 3rd grade with good reading under their belt now. And the two kindergarteners are doing fantastic. They will be reading early readers on their own by 1st grade. The 4 year old in betweener will be there soon as well. We spent a lot of time reading this year and the pay off has been so worth it! I've taught all 5 of my kids so far to read using Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons. Best $14 investment for all 5 of my readers. Our Main Curriculum this Year: The Good and the Beautiful Math We used their level 2 and level K this year. This is our 2nd year using TGATB for math and we love it. They are releasing an all new math program August 2nd and we are very excited about it. I'll update you when we start using it. Gather Round Homeschool for all other subjects We switched to Gather Round in July 2020 after 2 months of heavy research into it (I did NOT want to switch curriculum again lol). But I am so glad that I did!! You can read all about why we love Gather Round in this blog post. Units we've done so far: Oceans Asia North American Birds Europe Space Africa Earth Science Artists - Year 2 Mini unit: Christmas mini unit: Government We will finish up: Human Body & South America by September. Extras we added in: Notgrass - Our 50 States Random lesson pages from TGATB language arts (they are free to print grades 1-5) Lots of books & art crafts Some books we read this year: Boxcar children Looots of magic tree house books Growly series I survived Series Star Wars Jedi Academy Wingfeather Saga Next year I will have 2 3rd graders, 2 1st graders, and a Kindergartener. So it'll be a full year. I will share exactly what we are using and studying as we get closer to September and I've had a chance to actually plan and order all my stuff! ;) Links & Resources: Our Sponsor: Check out storyworth.com/homemaking for $10 off your first purchase. PERFECT gift for Father's Day! Our Sponsor: Get 50% off your first order of supplements and herbs! Go to TakeCareOf.com and use code home50 at checkout!

In the last episode, we talked about the Biblical idea and encouragement behind Biblical REST. God wants us to rest and in fact, we need to rest in Him. Resting in Him will produce more rest in our life overall. What how do we go about cultivating true rest in our busy too full lives? That's what we are diving into today! Listen to the Podcast: We also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. If you want to listen in instead of reading, click play below or do a combination of both And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes. Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. Build better routines for your life. This might not happen overnight, in fact, it might be a long road to setting better habits in your life. We are so use to living at break neck speeds in our society, it can be SO hard to reframe our concepts of what a productive life looks like. Today we are going to chat about a few things: Getting more sleep, getting OFF social media, being intentional with your rest time, and MAKING the time for rest. Get MORE sleep. "One study highlighted that we are sleeping between one and two hours fewer per night than people did sixty years ago, and two and a half hours fewer than a hundred years ago. However, ultimately the practice of getting a good night's sleep is rooted in the outworking of our theology. We believe God has made sleep an integral part of our humanity (Ps. 127:2), but as with all good gifts from God, we have a sinful tendency to refuse or misuse it. While some may struggle with wanting too much sleep, many of us struggle with wanting to make do with too little. In our productivity-mad society, we idolize activity and minimize the need for sleep. We can even pride ourselves in how little sleep we seem to need. Stories of famous Christians throughout history who reported getting by on very little sleep fuel the idea that less sleep is more godly and an example of great faith. What is often forgotten is that many of these Christians also suffered terribly ill health, and others dies young. That's why I want to make the case that adequate sleep is a far better example of great faith." - Refreshed, page 52. I have struggled deeply with this concept. I feel like I need to constantly worry about the next step and pushing myself harder. As Ive grown in my journey, I've learned that often, I need to just go to sleep and be wise with my time. God will meet our needs. "I believe God will look after my family, my work, or my studies. I refuse to believe the lie that everything depends on me. I believe in God's sovereignty and trust that he does not need me to overwork and under sleep to get all of the work done (Ps. 127:1-2). I believe God created my humanity, and I need to follow his guide for maintaining it. I refuse to believe the lie that I'm unique. I'm no stronger than others and therefor equally in need of his gift of sleep (Ps 3:5, 4:8). I believe my body and soul are so closely bound together that each impacts the other. I refuse to believe the lie that if I neglect my body, my soul and mind will still flourish. I believe my sleep is one of the best illustrations of my rest in Christ. I refuse to believe the lie that I must be known for my sacrificial service to Christ rather than by my resting on him. I believe in God alone and refuse to worship idols. I refuse to idolize work success and belittle sleep. I refuse to idolize late night entertainment and neglect sleep. I refuse to idolize service at the expense of sleep. I refuse to make impressing my boss more important than sleep. I refuse to idolize a perfect home at the cost of damaging the temple of my body. Our sleep patters reveal our idols." - Refreshed, pages 53-54. How do we get more sleep? Discipline "We need God's help to translate this conviction into action. Ask him for the willpower to make the necessary schedule adjustments and lifestyles changes."

Rest is a topic that Christian women are not talking enough about. In fact, we tend to glorify busy. We glorify perfection, and doing more, and sometimes we even glorify a too full messy life over a more restful life. Today we are going to dive into what rest means from a Biblical perspective and why it's so important for the Christian women today. Listen to the Podcast: We also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. If you want to listen in instead of reading, click play below or do a combination of both And don't forget to subscribe to the podcast in iTunes. Right click here and save-as to download this episode to your computer. Physical Warning Signs of Lack of Rest "Just as running too fast round the track will eventually result in physical problems, so running the race of life at too fast a pace will have physical consequences. Over 70 percent of Americans experience stress-induced symptoms such as headaches, stomach cramps, sore joints, back pain, ulcers, breathlessness, bad skin, an irritable bowel, chest pain, and palpitations. I certainly had some of these symptoms, and I also remember many female patients who came to me with multiple and varied bodily pains for which no physical explantation could be found, no matter how many tests and scans they had. Their lives were simply too fast and full for their bodies and minds. It's called "burnout" for a reason: All the stress causes chronic inflammation, a sort of fire in our cells that burns all the hotter, further, and longer the more fuel we add to it with our hectic lifestyles. Feeling tired, exhausted, and lethargic all the time are early warning signs that should be heeded." - Refreshed, page 26 PUSHING ourselves too hard: "We are not only creatures; we are complicated creatures. We have not only incredibly complex bodies but also remarkably intricate souls. And when you put these together in one person, you have multiplied complications as each part interacts with the others. That was one of the key areas I forgot. I was pushing myself physically in many different ways. God has blessed me with a strong will, and when I decided to get something done, I just kept pushing until it was accomplished. "Yes, at times I could tell that such determined pushing was taking a toll on my body but I ailed to see that it was also taking a toll on my mind and my soul. I seemed to think that I could push and exhaust the physical part of me, and the mental, emotional and spiritual parts would be unaffected. I was not seeing myself as God has made me - a limited creature and complex creature. I was not only underestimating my limitations but underestimating the impact of an exhausted body on my mind and my soul. And I'm not talking here about exceptional times in life when we have to push ourselves much harder, such as when facing exams, work deadlines, or nursing babies. I'm talking about this becoming the norm, the default, for extended periods of time. Verses such as Phil 4:13 - "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" - do not override our basic need to eat, drink, and sleep." - Refreshed, page 39. I've found in my life, that knowing I need to rest more, isn't the same as truly believing it. And I've found that my inability to rest was very much tied up in feeling like I needed to do ALL THE THINGS all of the time. This is still something I can struggle with time to time, but by God's Grace I've come a long way. Here are some truths to keep in mind when we are struggling with this Biblical concept of REST: Stop striving - your worth is in Christ "A grace-paced life? What's this? It's a pace of life that's constantly refreshed by five different wells of divine grace. First, there's the motivating well of grace. We used to be driven by money, family perfection, beauty, careers, or earning God's favor. But instead of filling and fulfilling us, these motivations drained and dried us. Now though,