If you, or someone you know, is waiting to feel “back to normal” and wondering why it’s taking so long, this Parent Pause is for you.

I want to talk about the getting-back part of a wobble - rather than the wobble itself. Resilience isn’t a personality trait you either have or don’t have, and it’s also not about how quickly you can snap back or pull yourself together.

Resilience is about noticing the small, quiet signs that you’re returning to yourself. Laughing a little more. Sleeping slightly better. Wanting to cook again. Finding the ordinary less heavy. The kind of progress that doesn’t announce itself and doesn’t move in a straight line.

So rather than asking, “When will I feel better?” we can start asking a gentler question: “What are the tiny signs that I already am?” Because resilience often lives in these small movements, not the big breakthroughs.

If you’re in a wobbly patch, this Pause is a reminder that you don’t need to rush, force, or fix yourself. You’re allowed to come back slowly, quietly, and in your own time.

Thank you for pausing with me. Take care.

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