It is my oldest daughter's birthday today. 21! A huge milestone. One that I cannot share with her. So, I am sending memories, thoughts, and love on this momentus day.

Pictures are worth a thousand words. My shrine for my estranged girls brings meaning to me every day. I hope they can feel the love that I pour through my candles, poems, memories, and hopes. A few minutes with them, everyday keeps me going day after day.

The third year of estrangement has arrived, today, September 19th 2026. How am I dealing with this? Im diving deep within myself, looking for support from astrology and numerology! Here is a discussion of what parts of that have helped me anchor myself and find peace during this difficult anniversary.

When you learn that alienation is negatively impacting your kids in ways that are totally unnecessary, it hurts. Here is my story...and how I am trying to integrate a reality that I find so sad and unnecessary.

Today I happened across my daughter for the first time in 3 years. I did not get to talk with her....She did not even see me. But I got the opportunity to lay eyes on her for the first time in 1090 days.

It took all of my training, and a heavy dose of "sense" to pull away, without yelling out her name.

I know, it is up to her to initiate contact. She has made that abundantly clear, and I will listen.

But, oh, it was so so so so hard.

Here is how I have processed it so far. I hope my experience can resonate with other estranged parents too.

Finding peace by connecting with my kids - even at a Phish show. Reflections of how they are present with me at all times, in all ways, despite alienation.

Some alienated parents feel like its not ok to have a good day. Like they don't miss their kids enough if they let down their guard and enjoy. Today I explore how we get to grow - even when we are having a good day. Join me in discovering the little gem of understanding that emerged for me today - during a truly good day.

A glimpse into the practice of working with Anger, and turning it into an empowered state of understanding.

As school starts up, I don't know where my younger child is going to school. That feels terrible. How do you deal with this grief?

Feeling blue? Me too! Here is the technique I use to manage the times when I just can't make sense of my situation. I hope it helps.