Finding Proof with Dr Tess Crawley

Apparently Evan Carmichael is a comedian! 😂  

In all seriousness though, I LOVED this conversation. We pick apart the difference between fear-driven work and procrastination and doing what you need to do to be professional.  

Speaking of being professional, in case it needs clarifying, I don’t advocate for punching anyone in the face! (Just don’t call me Tessa! 😂) . 

p.s. It’s your last chance THIS DECADE to get your business in order with my help. Firestarters, my 30-Day mentoring program with DAILY accountability kicks off for the final time this year on 18th November. ONLY SIX PLACES. Find out more here … https://findingproof.com/firestarters.... . 

p.p.s. You’re welcome to download my latest free resource, How to Slay Your Own Bullshit!  . Here’s the link: http://www.tesscrawleyglobal.com/bssl.... . . 

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I’ve got a question for you: Who’s business are you actually minding?

If you are overly focussed on what others are doing, you can’t possibly have enough attention for what is going on right in front of your face ... i.e., in your own business.

It is fine to keep an eye on the market.

But really? Is that what you’re doing?

Or are you just being a nosy parker? Or a gossip? Or jealous? Or judgmental?

I ask you this because it is something I have wrestled with from time to time.

So these days I try to remember to ask myself ... Tess, (I said love, I said pet), what is your motivation here?

I love a good chat as much as the next person. But I know when I’m not acting within my values (Dignity First, Last, and Always), so if I catch myself being a Mrs Sharples (google it if you’re not as old as me!) I back off and give myself a reminder of where my focus (and my nose) should be.

In my own business.

Besides, it’s not funny and it’s not clever ... I’ve been the subject of gossipy scrutiny many times. Just remember, after a while it because obvious to a seasoned business owner when someone is sniffing around pretending to pose a genuine enquiry. And as with most things, it says more about the nosy parker than it does about the subject parkee.

So let’s all promise ourselves this one thing.

We will not descend to the level of the gutter sniping nosy parkers of this world.

We are not perfect. I’m certainly not, and I’m the first to admit it. But we will try.

And in the trying, we will rise above.

Much love to you my perfectly imperfect friend,

p.s. If you’d like my support to create the kind of confidence and focus you need to reach new heights, check out the mentoring options on my website - www.tesscrawley.com.au

It was my great pleasure to recently interview Jim Sheils about the unique challenges of juggling parenting with entrepreneurship. His program for entrepreneurial parents, 18 Summers, supports entrepreneurs to succeed at home as well as in business. I truly loved this conversation with Jim, as it explored two areas I am most passionate about - family and business.

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Do you find yourself posting to social media wondering “Is anyone even out there??”

On a logical level, you know it doesn’t really matter how many followers or views or likes your posts get, right?

You know who it matters to?

One person.

Well, okay two.

Most importantly it matters to the ONE person today who identified with your message. The ONE person who no longer felt alone in their experience. The ONE person you helped today.

And they might not even let you know.

They might be lurking shyly in the background, absorbing everything you post. Or they might have stumbled across your content for the first time. It doesn’t matter.

And that brings me to the second person who matters in this equation.

You.

If you’re passionate about your message, if you’re proud of the content you produce (give or take a healthy dose of imperfect action), if you stand by your content ... then you can stand proud my friend.

Stay consistent. Stay authentic. Keep putting your message out there.

Building an audience takes time. But it’s worth it to build your tribe of loyal followers (whether you know they’re there or not!).

Much love,

Tess x

p.s. If you’d like my support to create the kind of confidence and focus you need to reach new heights, check out the mentoring options on my website - www.tesscrawley.com.au 

p.p.s. You’re welcome to download my latest free resource, How to Slay Your Own Bullshit! 

Here’s the link: http://www.tesscrawleyglobal.com/bsslayer

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Do these three things if you want to overcome overwhelm in your business.   

🔥STOP holding everything so close to your chest  

🔥You need to trust that others will do the job. They may not do it the SAME way as you, or as completely as you, or as quickly as you. But who knows, they may just do it BETTER than you, or they might innovate in a a way you’d never thought of. But it doesn’t matter. You can’t do ALL the things AND survive in the long term. Free up some time by delegating. And then TRUST. (You can always teach and then expand upon that teaching by correcting or shaping later.)  

💥TAKE CHARGE of your diary 

💥Effect a “static diary” approach to your schedule … Block out certain times of your week/day for certain activities. For me, Mondays are my CEO day where I meet with my team and plan ahead for my business. Tuesdays are Mentoring day where I meet with my mentoring clients. Wednesdays are my Clinic day where I provide therapy to my clinic clients … you get the idea. I also portion certain parts of my day for certain things - I get up early for a walk and early meetings with people in the US, etc - Late afternoons are for live-streamed videos - and so on.  

💥 Make sure you are allocating “untouchable time” to allow yourself the freedom to think, plan, and strategise for your business without all the day-to-day interruptions. Spend an hour in a cafe with your phone turned off and just scribble down ideas and plans, and then map them out. You can’t explore these thoughts with constant interruptions from team members, phone calls, and email notifications!  

💥 Quarantine time each week for family and time for yourself (you deserve it!)

🚀 USE TECHNOLOGY to your advantage.  

🚀 There are so many ways you can use technology to your advantage to help reduce the nagging interruptions to your day, the persistent pinging of notifications, and to increase your capacity to concentrate.  

🚀 Remove your email app from your phone, and make email a dedicated part of your static diary. A job to be done only on your laptop at certain times of day. If you have a PA, have them be the first filter that your email inbox has to pass through.  

🚀 Use the Focus app (or a similar Pomodoro-style app) that helps you stay focussed on a particular task for a set period of time before taking a designated break. This helps you (a) stay focussed and (b) promotes self-care by ensuring regular mini breaks and longer breaks. You know how you work most efficiently close to a deadline? This kind of app gives you that same time-pressure focus to stay on task one block at a time.  

🚀 Use a voice-messaging app like Voxer to allow free-flowing communication with key members of your team - avoiding inbox clutter and speeding up solution-focussed communication.   

Prioritise the things that lighten your load so that you can focus on what is strategic and what energises you. You’ll be better for it and so will your business.

Much love, Tess x

Here’s how I handle nerves when preparing to appear in court as an expert witness. We’re all human, right? 

 p.s. If you’d like my support to create the kind of confidence and focus you need to reach new heights, check out the mentoring options on my website - www.tesscrawley.com.au 

 p.p.s. You’re welcome to download my latest free resource, How to Slay Your Own Bullshit! Here’s the link: http://www.tesscrawleyglobal.com/bssl... 

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This is a question I was asked before dawn this morning during an interview with European motivational speaker, Daniel Weinstock, for his podcast.  My immediate answer was yes.  

Partly because I have mentors, and I’ve grown significantly as a business owner through the work I’ve done since I started working with them.  Partly because of the growth journey I’ve observed my clients travel along as I sit in the privileged position of being their mentor.  

But mostly it’s because I believe so whole-heartedly in the dangers of remaining isolated as business owners and entrepreneurs.  

We surround ourselves with those who love us, but not necessarily with those who get what we deal with on a daily basis as business owners.  

It’s a tough and sometimes lonely road, if you let it be. If you stay stuck in isolation. And it is for this reason that I believe finding a mentor who you can resonate with and who you can trust is vital. Someone who’s been there, done that, got the battle scars to prove it.  

If we stay isolated, we risk internalising blame for any business troubles. We begin to believe that we suck at this gig. We start to think it’s our fault. Over time this can lead to burnout and even mental health concerns.  

But with the right mentor, we quickly realise that ALL businesses hit rough patches. ALL business owners have these doubts about their capabilities sometimes. We ALL want to run off hide some days.  I have absolutely experienced this myself.  

I have felt that I was utterly alone. That no-one in the world understood what I was facing during the darkest days of my business. 

I felt it was all my fault. If only I was a better business owner I would have avoided staffing issues, financial stress, revenue dramas, marketing dilemmas, and that mountain of bills and avalanche of unanswered emails.

But I was wrong.  If we step into business ownership, this is the gig. It is up and down, and frequently sideways. It will not be smooth sailing.  

But be honest. If you wanted smooth sailing you’d still be in that safe government job, right?  So, embrace the thrill of the ride, but take a buddy with you.  Find a mentor who can keep you honest, help you steer straight, and laugh at your bad business jokes.  

Otherwise, you just might drown.  And we don’t want that!  It is through the support, normalization, and validation that comes with working with an experienced mentor that we build a pressure release valve. And that right there is expert self-care!  

Much love, Tess x

And how do you tell a difference?

p.s. If you’d like my support to create the kind of confidence and focus you need to reach new heights, check out the mentoring options on my website - www.tesscrawley.com.au

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p.p.s. You’re welcome to download my latest free resource, How to Slay Your Own Bullshit!

Here’s the link: http://www.tesscrawleyglobal.com/bsslayer

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I had a fabulous chat with one of my mentor clients this morning about their decision to take a slower approach to building their business, in the meantime adding more strings to their bow through other means.  

We talked about the fear that this meant failing in their business endeavors. We talked about the fear that their business might falter.  And then we talked about alignment.  

If you decide to do something different to what you’d planned - and it’s aligned to your big-picture vision - it’s not a failure, it’s a new goal If you decide to slow things down - and it’s aligned to your big-picture vision - it’s not a failure, it’s a change in pace If you decide to take time to consolidate new learning and seek more of the same - and it’s aligned to your big-picture vision - it’s not a failure, it’s a sign of wisdom.  

Just because your goals have changed, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you’ve incorporated new information into your thinking and have shifted your goals accordingly.  

This is where consistently revisiting of your big-picture view is important. This is why adding CEO Time (strategic thinking time) to your diary is important. This is why having support in your business owning journey is important.

If you are clear on your big-picture goals, and how you aim to get there, you will be better able to see whether or not the decisions you make today are strategically aligned to that vision.  

And if they aren’t, then it is absolutely time to call yourself out on fear and scarcity if that’s what’s driving you.  

Take some time today to revisit your big-picture goals. Sit in the sun with a cup of tea and think about where you’re heading, how you’re going to get there, and whether or not your recent decisions are aligned with that vision.  

As long as you’re still moving forward towards your longer-term destination, a detour isn’t failure. It’s just a detour.  

Don’t be too hard on yourself.  

Much love, Tess. x

I’m always grateful to the posse of incredible minds that I have built over the last few years. No matter what issue, what question, what drama, or what celebration - I have someone I can turn to who will “get” that particular conversation.  

I don’t need to tell you how important it is to talk through the tough stuff. It’s what keeps us afloat.  

But did you know it can be utterly debilitating to not have anyone in your corner who can wholeheartedly cheer when you’re winning?  

Our partners try, but don’t always fully get it.  

Our family members love us, warts and all, but don’t really get it.  

Our friends might give us a kick up the bum when we need it, but they don’t get it either.  

You need a posse.  

You need a squad.  

You need a tribe. 

You need a band of like-minded souls, crazy and wise and savvy enough to absolutely GET IT.

Because then you will truly be unstoppable. You will have truth talkers who will tell you when you’re barking up the wrong tree. You will have wise ones who’ve been there, done that, and don’t want you to make the same mistakes. You will have risk-takers willing to jump in right alongside you.  Best of all, they’ll hold you accountable to your goals, they’ll keep you honest with yourself, and they’ll absolutely let you brag about all the good stuff.  

Where’s your posse? Where’s your tribe?  

What are you doing to invest in this special and precious area of your business owner role?  

#NoPrizesForDoingItAlone 

Much love, Tess x

p.s. If you’d like a jumpstart to building your support posse, with me on deck to help you create the kind of confidence and focus you need to reach new heights, THERE IS ONE SPOT LEFT in my NO QUARTER 90-Day mentoring program. Yes. ONE SPOT LEFT! And we start next week! Check out the mentoring options on my website to find out more - www.tesscrawley.com.au - or simply send me a message. 

p.p.s. You’re welcome to download my latest free resource, How to Slay Your Own Bullshit! Here’s the link: http://www.tesscrawleyglobal.com/bsslay…

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