In this episode of "The Life Shift Podcast," Dena Rueb Romero shares her experiences growing up as the child of German Jewish refugees in Hanover, New Hampshire, and the impact of her family's past on her sense of identity and belonging. The conversation delves into themes of loss, resilience, and the search for a sense of rootedness, offering listeners a deeply moving narrative that explores the interplay between personal and collective histories.

The Impact of Family History on Personal Identity

Dena's narrative illustrates how the traumatic experiences of her parents, both German Jewish refugees, deeply influenced her sense of identity. Growing up, she felt isolated and different from her peers, burdened with the unspoken losses her family endured during the Holocaust. Her parents' resilience and their efforts to shield her from their painful past shaped her understanding of herself and her place in the world. This theme underscores the lasting effects of historical trauma and how personal histories are interwoven with larger historical contexts.

The Challenges and Rewards of Writing a Personal Memoir

One of the significant aspects of Dena's journey is her experience writing a book about her family's story. She compares the process to having a baby, acknowledging the immense effort and emotional labor involved. Despite the challenges, Dena found immense joy and catharsis in completing her memoir. It serves not only as a tribute to her family's resilience but also as a means of preserving their legacy. This takeaway highlights the therapeutic potential of writing and the importance of storytelling in processing and honoring one's past.

Finding Roots and Connection to Ancestral Heritage

A pivotal moment in Dena's story is her visit to the Jewish cemetery in her father's hometown, where she discovers the graves of her great-grandparents. This experience provides her with a profound connection to her ancestors and a deeper understanding of her family's roots. It symbolizes her journey towards finding a sense of belonging and anchoring herself in her heritage. This theme underscores the importance of acknowledging and honoring one's ancestry to ground oneself in the present and foster a sense of connection.

Guest Bio

Retired social worker Dena Rueb Romero grew up in Hanover, New Hampshire. She graduated from Brandeis University, received an MA in English from the University of Virginia, and received an MSW from Boston College Graduate School of Social Work. Her essay about German citizenship was published in a book about reclaiming German citizenship. All for You is her first full-length book. Dena still lives in Hanover, singing in a women’s chorus, volunteering at a daycare center, and working with an organization supporting refugees and asylum seekers.

• Dena Rueb Romero's Book

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