We humans have an amazing capacity to imagine a future and then create it.  How often does our imagination run amok?  Imagining the worst-case scenario.  One that’s hardly likely to happen.  Is there a way to channel that creative imagination for good?  Yes.  That’s what we’re talking about on this episode.

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Rhythm of Life – Door or Doormat?

I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. -Michelangelo

In an online forum about creativity, some of us had a discussion about generosity.  The premise was that if you share your creative work from a place of generosity, you don’t attach so much expectation to it.  It won’t be as scary.

Your creative work can be a door for someone who engages with it.  It can open a door to their heart.  A new way of thinking.  Maybe even a new life.

And…you can be a doormat.

Listen to the episode to hear about the key difference between a creative door and doormat.

Give and Take – Adam Grant

You know how in Episode 136 we talked about grief – that we’re experiencing shared grief right now, even if our experience isn’t the same?  We talked about comparative suffering, and how not to fall into that trap?  And then I promised to share some strategies for living while you’re experiencing grief?  Today’s the first of those episodes.

We humans are amazing.  We can imagine a future – that’s dangerous, scary, fun, or exciting. And not only that: we’re able to create it for ourselves.  Unfortunately, we often spend that imagination on the worst-case scenario.  Whether we’re conscious of it or not.

Because of the coronavirus, we’re on heightened alert.  Stress response kicking in big time.  And that includes imagining all kinds of disaster.  Not only that, but the media is adding fuel to that fire.

“The virus will come back in the fall, and be worse than ever.”  –Do they know that for sure?

In one way, this pandemic is already the worst-case scenario.  And here’s the thing: when actually faced with our worst nightmare becoming reality, we’re better able to face it than we imagine we will.

How can we focus our imagination on an amazing future, instead of a living hell?  How can we develop emotional intelligence in this situation?

Listen to the episode for specific strategies for focusing your imagination.

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Nothing’s the same as it was.  Things won’t be the same later either.  It will take new practices and habits to carry you forward into the unknown new world.  A world that only exists in your imagination right now.  Why not turn it into one you want to live in?  Something amazing.  Leave a comment if you'd like to share what you'd like to create with your imagination.

Your fertile imagination can picture a positive future or worst-case scenario. Why not choose to imagine the positive?
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132 – The New Success Superpower

134 – Communicating in Crisis

135 –Living in Uncertainty

136 – Let's Call This What it Is

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How big is your emotional vocabulary? The average is 3 words: mad, sad, and glad. One hallmark of Emotional Intelligence is the ability to identify and handle a wide range of human emotions in yourself and others.  On this episode we talk about that, and specifically relating to how we’re feeling right now in the midst of a pandemic.

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Rhythm of Life – Is Rest a 4-letter Word?

No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.  –C.S. Lewis

Rest.  You know that thing we do when we’re tired?  Whether it’s mentally, emotionally, physically?  Why is rest a 4-letter word?  It feels like it my house.  And yet rest is as important as air and water.  Even though less urgent.

Do we make time for rest?  Do we make time for the other important non-urgent things in our life?  Often not.  We often go from fire to fire, never taking the time we need for what we say is so important.

It’s time to change that.  It’s time to make time for what’s important.

I’m on summer break in college, singing in a club.  I just finished Joni Mitchell’s “Big Yellow Taxi” on my acoustic guitar,   and a guy comes up to me and asks if I can play “Stairway to Heaven”.

What about singing Joni Mitchell made him think I could possibly sing Stairway to Heaven?  Nothing.  Because he didn’t hear what I actually sounded like.  He heard what he wanted to hear.

We often hear what we think we hear; not what’s actually said.  We see what we think we see; not what’s actually there.

According to two researchers into human emotions and behavior, Brene Brown and Marc Brackett, many of us have a three-word emotion vocabulary:  mad, sad, and glad.  When there are actually something like 39 different emotions you or I could be feeling at any one time.

A hallmark of Emotional Intelligence is the ability to identify and name emotions with precision.  Then express and regulate them in ourselves and others.

Brene Brown’s Podcast – Unlocking Us with Marc Brackett

Marc Brackett’s book – “Permission to Feel”.

One with emotional intelligence understands this and trains just as you’d train for anything else.  With this training, you develop your Emotional Intelligence.  Become a more successful and empathetic leader.  Make better decisions.  Unleash your creativity.

It’s especially important right now.  We’re experiencing collective grief.  For some, it’s mild.  For others, it’s profound.  And yet we often don’t have a language for grief any more than we have a language for other emotions.  On this episode we talk about a language for grief.  So you can

In Episode 135, we talked about how dangerous comparative suffering is.  Dr. Marc tells us to give ourselves permission to feel.  Whatever it is.

Acknowledging emotion is an act of strength, not weakness.  Then you get to decide what comes next.

What language can we use for grief?  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler wrote a book called “On Grief and Grieving”.  In it they defined 5 stages of grief.  These are not sequential, and yet calling them stages feels like that’s what they are.  So I’m calling them the 5 manifestations of grief.  You could feel more than one at a time, and could alternate between them on any given day or week.

Denial – this can’t be my life.

Remember:  this is not a roadmap.  It’s a language to describe how you feel.  So if you’re feeling it now, call it what it is.  Recognize which emotion you’re feeling.  Understand it.  Label it.  That way you can express it and begin to regulate it.

Grief can be your companion, instead of your controller.

Understanding grief is an important piece of the Emotional Intelligence puzzle.  Especially now.  You, someone in your family, or someone on your team may be acting out of grief and not see it.

Don’t tighten against the pain.  Feel it and breathe into it.  Because emotions are a beautiful thing.  They are what allow us to experience beauty.  Love.  Kindness.  Color.  If you try and cut off the bad, you’ll also cut off the good.  Instead, why not use them strategically?

No matter what you’re feeling right now, it is certain to change.  So, know what you’re feeling.  Learn to channel it.  And you’ll develop greater Emotional Intelligence.   What are you feeling right now?  Leave a comment.

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132 – The New Success Superpower

134 – Communicating in Crisis

135 –Living in Uncertainty

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The world has turned upside down.  Some of us are fighting a very real battle every day.  And some are practicing social distancing to help in the cause.  We’re all feeling it in one way or other.  The world looks very different from how it did a few short months or weeks ago.  So now what?  Is it okay to grieve?  And if we do, then what?  That’s what we’re talking about on this episode – how to live and lead with uncertainty.

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Music resources to help encourage and lift you up.

Keith Urban Underground

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David Foster Eleven Words 

Andrea Bocelli

COVID-19 Quarantine Spotify Playlist

Kathleen’s Facebook Lives

We're all feeling it.  That sense that the world has just turned upside down.  And also maybe feeling guilty for feeling this way, if we’re not on the battlefield or immediate support team.  It’s kind of like survivor’s guilt.  They sacrifice every day and we’re on the couch?  All we have to do is stay home?  What’s big deal?

Brene Brown and mental health professionals call is Comparative Suffering.  Brene talks about it in one of her recent podcasts.

Comparative suffering doesn’t do you any good.  And let’s face it.  There are undoubtedly people suffering more than you right now.  And less than you too.

Now that we’ve acknowledged that, let’s get on to the real point of this episode.  This is a big deal.  To all of us.  Here’s why:

We often live as though that isn’t true.  We live as if we’ll never die.  When faced with the truth, it’s easy to collapse or harden ourselves.

Once you see this truth, you can’t unsee it.  Once you know, can’t unknow.  Your innocence is gone.  So now what?

To live and lead with emotional intelligence right now in time of worldwide uncertainty, the most important thing to do is to hold two apparently contradictory truths simultaneously:

Actions you can take today:

Let yourself feel what you feel.  Don’t fall prey to comparative suffering.  Grieve the loss of freedom and also innocence.  And then decide you want to thrive in uncertainty.  Start by building foundation on what is true and unchanging.  Like God’s love.

Is there any music you're listening to right now that encourages you?  Leave a comment.

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What happens when things change, are challenging, or even become a crisis?  We often hunker down, avoiding each other.  Yet, it’s exactly in these times that someone with emotional intelligence will communicate more rather than less.  Here’s how to navigate the times of difficulty and communicate with honesty and empathy.

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Rhythm of Life – Opportunity Often Comes in a Problem Package

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said.  –Peter Drucker

It’s almost midnight.  I’m working on computer.  I just can’t seem to get caught up.  And now this:  an email comes in from my voice teacher’s assistant with a message from him.  The gist was this:

We’re going to have a TedX-type event at our workshop at month end.  I’m SURE you have a topic, outline, or even a talk you’ve prepared.  We’ll help you flesh it out to a killer talk.  Have it submitted by Sunday.

Uh. No.  I don’t have any of that.  So I start to panic.  Listen to the episode to hear what I did.

It’s been a strange winter in New England.  We’ve had almost no snow.  We’ve had some days that are more typical of mid-April than February or March.

And some of us couldn’t simply enjoy the day.  No, instead we had to worry that the other shoe was going to drop.  That somehow this great weather would be offset by a disaster of monumental proportions.  What does that say about our worldview?  Listen to hear what else I have to say about that.

P.S., I created a Spotify Playlist to listen to while you're at home practicing Social Distancing.  Here's the link if you want to listen.  Email or leave a comment if you have any suggestions for additions.

An article in Inc. Magazine has this as the headline:  “Bill Gates and Elon Musk Just Issued Very Different Responses to the Coronavirus.  It’s a Lesson in Emotional Intelligence.”  It’s written by Justin Bariso.

Elon Musk tweeted:  “The coronavirus panic is dumb.”  His comment was literally correct, and yet doesn’t display emotional intelligence.

Bill Gates wrote a blog post that included this:  “In the past week, COVID-19 has started to behave a lot like the once-in-a-century pathogen we’ve been worried about.  I hope it’s not that bad, but we should assume that it will be until we know otherwise.”

Gates’ comment displays emotional intelligence because he shows the ability to balance emotion and rational thought.

Communicating in Times of Change

We’re all wired for stories.  What you may not realize is that if someone doesn’t tell us what’s going on, we’ll actually make something up.  Speculate.  And that takes on a life of its own.

I’ve seen it all the time in my own career.

Emotional Intelligence compels leaders to communicate even when there’s not much to say.  Or even when there’s nothing to say.

It’s also important to note that whatever you say must be true.

Communicating in Times of Crisis or Challenge

Now how you communicate matters at least as much as what you communicate.  Here’s where empathy matters.  Don’t minimize how they feel.  Bill Gates didn’t.

One thing that doesn’t work is to tell people to calm down.  You have to help calm them without saying it.

What if you’re not a leader?

It doesn’t matter.  These principles apply with your family, friends, or team.  In a conversation about the COVID-19 virus.  Or any other challenge.

An excellent example of emotional intelligence in crisis communication is Walter Cronkite announcing that President Kennedy has been shot.  Click here to see it.

So talk, even when you don’t want to.  Listen and understand.  Choose empathetic and rational words.  Watch how you talk.  Could make all the difference.

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Have you ever tried positive affirmations, thinking they would help you think your way to a new life?  And it didn’t work?  On this episode, we’re talking about what’s more powerful than affirmations to make change happen.  How to use what our mind naturally does to help us succeed at what’s most important to us.

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Rhythm of Life – It’s Perfect.  NOT.

Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.  –Zig Ziglar

I’m standing in my voice teacher’s studio, playing the recording of one of my latest songs.  We worked like crazy on this at the previous lesson, and I want him to hear what I did with it.

“Hmmmmm. Good.  A little too much vibrato there.  Oh and there.  Can you try to get rid of the vibrato on some of those held out low notes?”

Uh no.  I can’t.

“It’s done,” I say.  Final production, mixing.  Everything.  It’s done.  No more changes.”

“Well then, it’s perfect,” he says.

It’s not perfect.  We both know it.  But he told me a while back that I’ll have to call it done at some point.  That no singer is ever satisfied with their performance.  They always want one more take.

I’m making the best art I can right now.  Writing the best songs, singing the best, doing the best podcast I can.  Right now.  That won’t be my best 3 months from now.  Or 6 or 12 months from now.

It won’t be your best work either.  So, get used to it.

I was thinking today about cynicism.  How we hear something great, and immediately look for the dirty secret just under the surface.

And you know what? None of us has 100% pure motives.  That’s okay.  It doesn’t mean we’re evil or wrong, or what there’s a dirty secret under the rocks.  It just means we’re human.

Because we CAN commit to a cause bigger than us.  We can sacrifice ourselves for the greater good.  We can.  Even when we want to be seen, noticed, respected, or even loved.

It’s better to do good with mixed motives than to do  nothing until you make sure your motives are completely pure.

Positive affirmations.  They’re often touted as a way to make massive change happen.  Because if you change your mind, you change your life.  If you change your script, you change your life.

The change looks like this:  Speak -> Change Your Mind -> Change Actions -> Change Results.  As you can see, the affirmations start the process, according to this line of thinking.

Your life becomes a reflection of the thoughts you consistently think.

But here’s the thing.  They don’t always work.  Sometimes they don’t even work at all.

According to St. John, there’s a Belief Gap between where you are now and where you want to be.  If you can’t believe you can get there, you won’t.  Until you bridge the belief gap for the outcomes you want, it will be difficult to make the leap to reach the new life and create your new reality.  (Remember The Big Leap?  –Gay Hendricks even goes so far to say that we’ll subconsciously do things to undermine our desired result.)

When we use positive affirmations, our minds often say, “Yeah, right!”  And that does nothing to bridge the belief gap.

If statements don’t work, then what does?  Questions.  So Noah St. John uses the power of questions to make change happen.  He calls these questions Afformations, and uses them  to bridge the gap.

Listen to the episode to hear just what type of questions these are, what questions not to ask, and how to use these questions in your life.

Keep this in mind though – the questions aren’t what changes your life.  Action is what changes your life.  Afformations prime the pump so you are ready and willing to take action.

How did the Action Steps work?  -I’m not sure yet. It’s going to take time to internalize my new Afformations.  I did find that doing them was powerful already.  They built on each other throughout the book.

I’m going to combine the conclusions from Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figureoutable and this book to create one big plan.  And use Afformations and prayer to help me move forward with my plan.  I think the two books together are more powerful than either was alone.  And combined with The Big Leap for context?  Amazing.

Let me know in the comments what you're choosing to do as a result of listening or reading.

What does a 3 year-old do that we can learn from? They keep asking WHY.
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P.S., The other day I wrote a song based on a poem written by a friend.  It's dedicated to those who lost loved ones in the Milwaukee shooting last week.  We must make a stand against violence and choose love.  Here's the song on YouTube.  Please share it with your friends.

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Financial acumen, programming, storytelling, empathy.  All traits people tell us are or were a success superpower.  On today’s episode, we explore a superpower that is stronger and more comprehensive than all of them put together: Emotional Intelligence.

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Rhythm of Life – The First Big Test of my 2020 Word “Believe”

The artist is a receptacle for emotions that come from all over the place: from the sky, from the earth, from a scrap of paper, from a passing shape, from a spider's web. –Pablo Picasso

It’s Sunday morning, and I’m praying.  I have a mental picture of me worshiping God in the midst of millions or billions of people.  I feel completely invisible.

Except that God tells me I’m not.  He sees me and loves me just as I am.  I believe it in my head.  It doesn’t seem to reach my body.

So here’s the first big test of my 2020 word – believe.  Can my belief extend all the way to my heart?  My full body?  The answer to that has physical and emotional implications.

Have you already been tested with your 2020 word?  I guess we should expect it, right?  Growth means stretching beyond where we’ve been before.  Testing is part of the process.

We just had Groundhog Day in the US.  That day just happened to also be the Super Bowl.  And Jeep aired a commercial that redid parts of the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray and others.  And THAT got me thinking….if I could repeat any one day over and over, what would it be?

I thought of a few possibilities and settled on one that might surprise you a bit.  Listen to the episode to find out more.

If you could repeat any one day again and again, what would you choose?  Leave a comment.

We’ve all seen them – articles about “the one thing Warren Buffett looks for that determines success”.  “Crack the success code with this one thing.” “Do this for massive success.”

Over the years, people have touted different skills as the new superpower for success:  financial acumen, programming, collaboration, agile, grit, abundance, empathy.  All are great.  I think ever greater, is this – Emotional Intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence, or EI, includes more than empathy.  That’s what makes it a superpower.  And we’ll discuss different facets of Emotional Intelligence in a series alternating with our Self-Improvement Experiment Series.

Six dimensions of EI are discussed in Richard Davidson and Sharon Begley’s book “The Emotional Life of Your Brain”.  Because we can have unique combinations of these 6 dimensions, they call it our Emotional Style.

Is EI really that important?  And if so, why?  Well, work has been evolving over time.  We’ve had 3 different models thus far:

Model 1.0:  Command and control.  Army, Nobles vs. Serfs, Dictator, Factory model.  It’s all  about compliance and order.

Model 2.0: Carrots and sticks.  It seems to give people a choice.  But when you look at it, it’s rewarding the worker if they do what those in power want, and punishes them if they don’t.  It’s really a disguised version of command and control.  Dan Pink talks about this in his book Drive.

Model 3.0: Internal motivation – autonomy and interdependence.  An entrepreneurial way of operating.  Creativity, working together, agile teams.  This model depends on enough people exercising emotional intelligence.   Those who do will be more successful in Model 3.0.

This hasn’t come natural to me.  It’s a skill we each can and should learn.  I keep working on it.  Because Emotional Intelligence is the new success superpower.  What do you think about Emotional Intelligence?  Do you think it's the new superpower, or not?  Leave a comment.

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Is everything really figureoutable?  And haven’t we already talked about it?  Yes and yes.  This book by Marie Forleo was so good that I wanted to share what I learned in the second half.  After you listen, why not buy the book and try this yourself?  No matter where you are in life, if you’ve got something you’re trying to figure out, or can’t seem to get done, practicing the Everything is Figureoutable principles can help you get and keep moving.

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Rhythm of Life – Where’s the Song?

There is a wisdom of the head, and a wisdom of the heart.  – Charles Dickens

“Why not make some 5-minute art about that?”  That’s something my friend Sam Bennett says a lot.  She explained it in her book “Get it Done – From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day”

So now I’m on a group call with Sam and 5 other women.  Describing the frustration of my creative work not working.

This time she didn’t suggest making 5-minute art.  This time, she asked “Where’s the song?”  She wanted me to practice the thing that was frustrating me to express how I felt.  Get back on the horse, so to speak.

You can hear what I wrote and what I learned by listening to the episode.

So, where’s your song?  Or whatever you make?  The world needs more of it.

You know how on Episode 130 I talked about how I batched my cooking, and that you could use this method to get more done with any project?

Well, this segment isn’t called Random Riffs for nothing.  Because sometimes random thoughts just pop into my head.  Like the song that you can hear when you listen to the episode.

It’s good to find the humor in almost anything.  And, I guess I have a lot of dishes to wash.

It’s all about love.  That’s the letter my 100-year-old self wrote to my present self as part of an exercise in Marie Forleo’s book Everything is Figureoutable.  Marie asked me to go to a quiet place, get comfortable, set the timer for 15 minutes, and allow my hand to move on the paper without thinking, editing, or stopping.

Now I’ve done this before.  It’s similar to Morning Pages, an exercise taught by Julia Cameron in The Artist’s Way.

Marie’s exercise is similar but not exactly the same.  Listen to the episode to hear what Marie recommends and how it turned out when I tried it.  And if you want to hear my commentary on the first half of Marie’s book, listen to Episode 128.

Anyway, what my 100-year-old self wrote to my present self was all about love.  I really had no idea what was going to come out.  I prayed before I started.  And that’s what materialized on the paper as I wrote without thinking, editing, or stopping.

I can’t even begin to describe how powerful this was for me.  To see these words and read them back out loud.  I know I said this about the last episode with another exercise, but this one alone was worth the price of the book.

So was this one, called “What I really want is…”  It's meant to be done over 5-7 days, I did it for 9.  And had some interesting observations after completing it.

After reviewing the primary themes, I wrote a summary with an analysis of my conclusions.  Listen to the episode to hear what they are.

My analysis of this exercise:

If you’re willing to do the hard work, using both your mind and heart, get Everything Is Figureoutable.  Don’t just read it.  Do the “Insight to Action” challenges.  Because power isn’t in knowing.  Power is in doing.

Now, you and I are still limited by our own beliefs.  We can’t simply chant positive affirmations to get ourselves to believe a different truth.  That’s where next book comes in: Afformations.

I’m just about to start reading it now.  When I get far enough along to evaluate it for you, I’ll include it in an episode.  In the meantime, if you have a book recommendation, send an email to  [email protected], or leave a comment.

Everything Is Figureoutable.  It’s a great attitude to have in 2020, and beyond..

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Can you actually summarize the year with one word?  Not really, but you can have a theme for the year that’s one word.  That’s what we’re talking about on today’s episode.  How my 2019 One Word impacted my life in ways I never would have imagined.  And how you can do it yourself.

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Rhythm of Life – Batch It

I do not have one theme for each season, I just try to make beautiful clothes all year round. – Oscar de la Renta

I had a ton of food in the fridge just waiting to be turned into something delicious.  And, on Monday morning, I made 2 kinds of muffins, Irish stew, butternut squash soup, and chicken.  Whew!

(c) Kathleen Thompson

What’s so great about making all this at once?  It’s batching.  It’s a great way to get more accomplished.  Listen to the episode to hear the benefits and some tips on how to do it.

How might batching your work benefit you?  Leave a comment.

So many people say, “Let’s think outside the box.”  They think that’s where all the creative thinking lies – outside the box.  But what if that isn’t actually true?  In this segment I talk about a study that was done with children on a playground, and comments by a famous music producer, Bob Clearmountin.  Here’s a link to his interview if you want to listen to the whole thing.  The part I’m referring to is about halfway through.

Bob gives an example of a song that used the technique he described.  Here’s the link to that song.  .

Do you have any examples of your own inside-the-box creativity?  If so, please share in the comments or on my Facebook page.  I might even share them in an uoming episode.

At the beginning of every year, I do the One Word exercise that comes from Jon Gordon’s book called “One Word That Will Change Your Life”.

That One Word is my theme for the year.  Something I want to focus on.  Embody.

For 2019, my word was SING.  I talked about it in Episode 107.

I had no idea what would happen when I chose this word.  That’s the beauty of One Word.  It gives guidance and doesn’t try and control the results.  Not only that, but it’s easy to remember.

So what happened in 2019?

There’s a lot more to the story, which I describe on the episode.  And there’s still plenty of room for growth in every one of these areas.  But it’s time to celebrate just how much my word SING changed my life.

Heard some of story in pieces throughout 2019.  Pull together in one cohesive view of 2019 through the lens of SING.

In a sense, much of this was a complete surprise.  I didn’t plan to write this many songs, or professionally record them.  I was just writing to see if I could do it, and to worship.  So what happened was a surprise.

At the same time, it wasn’t.  Because I was prepared for something to happen.  My mind and heart were open.  Ready.  Watching for opportunity.  And taking action when it appeared.  All because I had my word in my mind.

Imagine what this practice could do in your life!  Something amazing, I’m sure.  You might want to get the book and try it for yourself.  I’ve been doing it since 2013.  It’s so powerful, that I’ve already chosen my word for 2020:

Did you do One Word for 2019?  If so, why not look back on the year and see what happened as a result of focusing on that theme?  If didn’t do this, no worries.  You can do it for 2020.  .

Pick a word.  Meditate on it.  Watch what happens.

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You know, I always hated the end of year performance evaluations I did on myself and my team.  The format was so restrictive.  It didn’t really tell the whole story.  So this year, I turned the annual review on its head.  I tried it on myself, and thought I'd ’hare it with you.  You might want to try it yourself.

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Rhythm of Life – Do You Wanna Dance?

Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, ‘It will be happier.’ –Alfred Lord Tennyson

Drew and I needed a dance song to round out the album we’re working on.  I tried writing it a few times, and came up empty.  Then on the plane I had an inspiration, or so I thought.  It turned out the words were better for a ballad because they told a story.  (I’ll probably save them for another song.)

So now we start over.  Thinking about the type of person we want to dance with.  Now it started to flow.  Listen to the episode to hear a sample of our writing session.  And imagine what it might sound like when it’s done!

I love traveling, especially when I get to go somewhere warmer in the winter.  But, it can be hard when we get a winter storm while I’m gone.  The last storm left a sheet of solid ice covering the driveway.

I couldn’t wait for it to melt on its own.  I had to chop it. As I worked, I found myself singing the song Jerry used to when he did it.  Listen to the episode to hear Jerry’s song, and then my new one.  You could sing it too.

As the teens came to a close, I found myself thinking about what I had learned and done in 2019.  I decided to do a year-end review of my year.  And share it with you in case you want to do one too.

These reviews are usually boring and tedious.  They don’t get to the heart of what happened.  They don’t tell the whole story.  Or even a story at all.  So I took it on myself to do a different type of review.  To ask myself some important questions and see how I’d answer them.

Here are the questions:

Now let’s talk about you.  Why not do your own review, starting with some good questions?  You can use mine ro come up with your own.  You can share your findings in the comments, on my Facebook page, or keep it to yourself.  It’s up to you.

Whatever you do in 2020 and beyond, focus on who you are becoming.  You take yourself with you everywhere you go.  So you might as well be someone you’d want to hang out with every day.  So find your groove and make your life sing.  I can’t wait to hear your song.

Why not let your year-end review tell the story of your year?
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What if you could figure out everything you wanted?  Like how to create a business and life you love?  Make the best of a bad situation?  Deal with something you can’t change and move on?  Well, according to Marie Forleo, you can.  On today’s episode, I’m giving you the low-down on Marie’s book “Everything is Figureoutable”. You’ll hear what Marie has to say, and how I made out when I did what she recommends.

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Rhythm of Life – A Motorcycle Manta

What came up at age 49 is I realized that of all the things I'm interested in, the thing I'm most interested in is figuring out what makes people tick, why people think the way they do, why they act the way they do. And I realized that music is such a great way to investigate why people do what they do.  –Yo-Yo-Ma

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”  I chanted that under my breath as I practiced driving skills at a motorcycle safety course.  I was struggling with executing hairpin turns in a small box.

It seemed to help.  I passed the test, even though I struggled a bit on that one skill.

But what does that really mean, anyway?  That I literally can do ANYTHING?  Listen to the episode to hear what I have to say about that.

As I watched a friend’s children making their Christmas lists, I began thinking:  how many children ask for things they shouldn’t have to be worried about?  Like:

I have some things like that I want too.  Listen to hear what they are.

Santa can’t bring those things and put them under the tree.  But we can.  It takes each one of us working together to get started.  We won’t finish in our lifetime.  It’s still worth trying.  Because the world will be better for us having done what we can.  Together.  Merry Christmas.  And may the deepest wishes of your heart come true.

Marie Forleo released a book titled Everything is Figureoutable.  I’ve been waiting for this to come out, so chose it as the first in my Self-Improvement Experiment.  Marie says you can retrain your brain to think more creatively and positively in face of setbacks.  And that will make you unstoppable.

Marie doesn’t tell us that everything can be the way we want.  Or changed.  But she does believe that at the very least we can figure out our next move – our response to what has happened.

We should take action in our life not just for ourselves, but also for others.  This is refreshing, and not always discussed in books of this type.

The way Marie talks about fear and how to discern the role fear is playing in the situation.  Whether it’s protecting or preventing you from doing what you’re called to do.  This alone was worth the price of the book.

Marie’s story-telling is great.  It helps the reader to better understand the principles, and keeps it lively.

The beginning of book was stuff I’d heard many times before:

Some of the recommended actions didn’t have the effect Marie intended.  Sometimes the approach was either/or.  I found that my answers were more like yes/and.  Other of her recommendations were golden.  Again, worth the prices of the book.

I’m just over 50% through this book right now.  But I didn’t want to wait to talk about it.  I may extend this to a second podcast, depending on whether what comes next is different enough from the first half.  If not, I’ll move on to the next book – The Book of Afformations by Noah St. John.

Did you read Everything is Figureoutable?  If so, please leave a comment to tell me what you learned, or didn’t.

Now go figure out what you’re going to do next.

To get the most out a book, test the ideas on yourself. And then teach someone else.
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127: Introduction to the Self-Improvement Experiment

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