Today I discussed different ways that we can serve. I quoted Sharon Eubank when she was interviewed on the All In Podcast. She talks about serving those within our neighborhoods. I talk about the epidemic of loneliness and how having conversations with love and showing dignity to others is one of the greatest gifts we can give.

Today I discussed how this time of year can get so busy and stressful, we don't enjoy it. It can be helpful to intentionally slow down and be in the present moment. Pay attention to each of your five senses and that will allow you to be grateful for things around you.

I also discussed how one small change in the way we think about something can completely transform things for us. Small shifts in the way we are thinking can create huge results for us. 

 As the holiday season approaches, are you feeling the pressure to make sure every gift is perfectly equal? Stressing over spreadsheets to track fairness? Worrying that someone might feel less loved if their gift isn't exactly the same as everyone else's? 

In this episode, we dive deep into the anxiety and emotional exhaustion that comes from trying to achieve "perfect fairness" in gift-giving. Inspired by a viral Instagram post about keeping gifts equal for adult children, we explore why so many people carry decades-old hurt about gifts they received—or didn't receive—and what's really going on beneath the surface. 

Here's the uncomfortable truth we unpack: The hurt feelings about unequal gifts aren't actually about the gifts themselves. They're about something much deeper—our own questions about whether we're loved, valued, and worthy. And when we look to external validation to answer those questions, we'll always find evidence of our unworthiness. 

In this episode, you'll discover: 

• Why trying to control how others feel through "fair" gift-giving is impossible and exhausting
• How we give away our emotional power when we believe others "make us feel" certain ways
• The difference between genuine favoritism and normal human imperfection
• How to stop keeping score and receive gifts with grace
• The freedom that comes from anchoring your sense of worth internally rather than in what you receive

This isn't about dismissing real pain or being careless with people's feelings. It's about recognizing that no amount of perfect gift-giving can make someone feel valued if they haven't learned to validate themselves. And for those doing the giving, it's permission to release the impossible burden of managing everyone else's emotions through your gifts.
 
If you've ever felt hurt by unequal gifts, or if you're exhausted trying to make everything perfectly fair, this episode offers a different perspective: What if the healing you're looking for can't come from someone finally getting the gift-giving right? What if it has to come from within?
 
Give thoughtfully. Give generously. But then release control over how it's received. Your worth isn't measured by what you receive, and you can't gift-give your way into making everyone feel equally loved.
 
Perfect for anyone navigating family gift-giving dynamics, feeling holiday stress, or ready to let go of the exhausting pursuit of perfect fairness.
 

Today I discussed the power of gratitude. As we focus on gratitude this weekend, I hope you can find ways to thank yourself for all the ways you have showed up in the world. This is a powerful tool in improving your sense of self. 

What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was backwards? In this episode, we explore a powerful reframe: a relationship isn't something that exists between two people—it's the culmination of thoughts you have about another person. This shift changes everything. 

Discover why you can have a meaningful relationship with someone who doesn't even know your name, how your thoughts about others reveal more about you than them, and why taking ownership of your thoughts is the key to reclaiming power in all your relationships. Whether you're navigating difficult family dynamics, struggling with resentment, or simply wanting to show up better in your connections, this episode offers a liberating perspective that puts you back in the driver's seat of your emotional life. 

Learn why changing your thoughts isn't about letting others off the hook—it's about setting yourself free. 

Today I start with an exercise to help you learn what you are good at and what you might not be good at. I discuss how we come up with these lists and what these lists really mean. I also discuss how the people around us influence our thoughts about what gifts and talents we have. We have a huge influence on our children in helping them develop their own gifts. I also share a couple quotes from President Uchtdorf's talk from October general conference titled, "Do Your Part With All Your Heart." 

 What if five simple thoughts could transform the way you experience life? 

In this podcast, I share five principles that have shaped my perspective and brought more peace, joy, and clarity into my daily life: 

• Gratitude wins.
• I am responsible for my own happiness...and no one else's.
• Nothing has gone wrong here.
• Life is 50/50.
• Every single person is 100% loveable.

These aren't just feel-good mantras—they're powerful reframes that change how you show up in relationships, handle challenges, and create the life you want. Join me as I explore each thought in depth, share real-life examples of how they work, and invite you to discover what becomes possible when you truly believe them.
 

Today's episode is based off the 2025 October General Conference talk by Elder Gong titled, "No One Sits Alone." In order to be someone who can reach out to others who are lonely, those who are new, those who are different, we need confidence. Today I discussed five ways to help us develop that confidence.

1. Know who you are - especially your identity as a child of God 

2. Be more Christlike - developing genuine charity for yourself and others 

3. Judge less - learning the difference between discernment and harmful judgment 

4. Worry less - letting go of constant concern about others' opinions 

5. Repent - the ongoing process of growth and course-correction 

When we do this internal work we learn to love ourselves—not in a self-absorbed way, but in a way that creates space to truly love others. We become secure enough to be the person who reaches out, who makes room, who includes others as Christ did. 

Do you carry regret about things from your past? Does it feel heavy, painful, like something you just have to live with? In this episode, I explore a powerful idea: regret is always a choice.

We'll talk about what regret actually is, why it feels so terrible, and what actions we tend to take when we're stuck in it. But more importantly, we'll explore what emotions can serve us better - emotions that acknowledge our mistakes, motivate real change, and actually help us become better people without keeping us trapped in suffering.

I'll break down the difference between regret and remorse, and why one keeps you stuck while the other can move you forward. We'll also look at alternatives like commitment, resolve, and compassionate self-awareness - emotions that honor what happened while freeing you to grow.

Here's the truth: recognizing that you did something wrong is essential for growth. But perpetual suffering about your past doesn't make you a better person. Learning does. Changed behavior does. Amends do. And you can have all of that without living in constant pain.

If you've been carrying regret that feels unbearable, this episode might change how you think about your past - and open up possibilities for your future.

Fresh off a two-week adventure in Switzerland, today I reflect on the beautiful paradox of life's 50-50 nature. From breathtaking mountain gondola rides and picturesque countryside drives to flight delays, jet lag struggles, and worrying about kids back home, this trip had it all—the amazing and the challenging in equal measure. 

In this episode, discover how a sleepless night in Switzerland sparked a profound realization about the stories we tell ourselves and others. When someone asks "How was your trip?" or "How did you sleep?" what do we choose to focus on? Inspired by President Nelson's famous quote about joy having everything to do with the focus of our lives, this conversation explores the tipping point between "good" and "bad" in our daily narratives. 

Through relatable examples—from answering "How are you?" to checking in on a missionary son—learn how our thoughts shape our emotions and experiences. This episode is a gentle reminder that while life will always be 50-50, we get to decide where we place our focus, and that choice makes all the difference. 

Perfect for anyone seeking perspective on finding joy amid life's inevitable challenges.