Has your partner ever done a task so poorly or asked you so many questions that you finally just said “fine, I’ll do it myself!”? This is called weaponized incompetence, and while your partner may not mean for it to be, it can be harmful in a relationship. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to identify weaponized incompetence, how it shows up in OUR relationship, and what to do if you or your partner are doing this.
  
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Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

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When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.
But is libido actually the problem?
In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”
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Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
Art of Initiation
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Episode 158: Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…

Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
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Episode 157: Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)

What do you do when it’s been a while…
When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
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Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)

We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.

We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.

If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the asshole when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.

Links & Resources:
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Episode 155: Am I The Asshole? In-Laws Edition

A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!

Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.

We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.

Links & Resources:
Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)
Visit our Homepage (http://vmtherapy.com/)

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence

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