Fixing feelings was my mission for so many years! It was exhausting! First manipulating the outside world then manipulating me! I tried every tool and technique but the feelings couldn't be fixed.

But now I know that you cannot pin down a state of mind and I see that I would not want to do that anyway. You see, our feelings are a gauge; a warning system to let us know about our state of mind. They inform us what is going on in out thinking. When we know that and we know that our self-righting system will reset everything if we wait, it makes less sense to try to fix our feelings. I mean, why would you want to turn off any alert system. It just doesn't make sense.

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