Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner.Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh.Hosted by Schuyler. Educational and non-explicit. Get notified of new episodes: <a href="https://bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html">https://bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html</a>

Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too. In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner. Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh. Hosted by Schuyler. Educational and non-explicit. Get notified of new episodes: https://bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html

Nobody is born good at intimacy. The people who seem effortless just practiced — and you can too.In this episode: where the "secret handbook" myth comes from; skill vs. talent; permission to be a beginner.Your practice: Retire one thing you "should already know" and let yourself learn it fresh.Hosted by Schuyler. Educational and non-explicit. Get notified of new episodes: <a href="https://bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html</a>

FND-03 — The Myth of "Just Knowing"

The Intimacy Series is a warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness, hosted by Schuyler. Short, self-contained 12–15 minute episodes on the actual skills of connection — communication, trust, desire, presence, and more — written for listeners of every orientation and relationship. Educational, sex-positive, and non-explicit. New episodes weekly. Start with Episode 1.

Want to go further? The free Foundations episodes drop here every week — and our adults-only members series (18+) lives at bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html, free to join.

About the host — Schuyler was born in the 1960s, a child of the flower-child generation, raised by liberal parents who taught him that openness beats judgment. He went to art school, found his way into finance, came out as gay in the 1980s, and in 1990 settled into a quiet suburban life in Florida. Then September 11th shook everything loose — life's too short — and he started actually living it: bolder, more curious, more himself. The gatherings he hosted grew into something bigger — sex-positive parties built on consent, warmth, and zero shame. A friendship with a longtime patron of Bob's Adult Books in Salem, Oregon deepened into a business partnership, and when his friend passed, Schuyler stepped into ownership of the shop. He's always been the type to ask — over the years he's built a deep bench of trusted advisors and experts, and he leans on them heavily to make this show, because he's the first to admit he doesn't know it all. As his father, a librarian, taught him: you don't need to know everything, you just need to know the people who do. The Intimacy Series is the sum of that whole journey — generous, grounded, and unafraid to talk about what most people won't.

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The Intimacy Series is a warm, plain-spoken guide to real closeness, hosted by Schuyler. Short, self-contained 12–15 minute episodes on the actual skills of connection — communication, trust, desire, presence, and more — written for listeners of every orientation and relationship. Educational, sex-positive, and non-explicit. New episodes weekly. Start with Episode 1. Want to go further? The free Foundations episodes drop here every week — and our adults-only members series (18+) lives at bobsadultbookstore.com/intimacy.html, free to join. About the host — Schuyler was born in the 1960s, a child of the flower-child generation, raised by liberal parents who taught him that openness beats judgment. He went to art school, found his way into finance, came out as gay in the 1980s, and in 1990 settled into a quiet suburban life in Florida. Then September 11th shook everything loose — life's too short — and he started actually living it: bolder, more curious, more himself. The gatherings he hosted grew into something bigger — sex-positive parties built on consent, warmth, and zero shame. A friendship with a longtime patron of Bob's Adult Books in Salem, Oregon deepened into a business partnership, and when his friend passed, Schuyler stepped into ownership of the shop. He's always been the type to ask — over the years he's built a deep bench of trusted advisors and experts, and he leans on them heavily to make this show, because he's the first to admit he doesn't know it all. As his father, a librarian, taught him: you don't need to know everything, you just need to know the people who do. The Intimacy Series is the sum of that whole journey — generous, grounded, and unafraid to talk about what most people won't.

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