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When RuthAnn became a caregiver for her husband, Lance, she quickly realized she didn’t fit the traditional mold. She wasn’t quiet, submissive, or content to follow orders without question. In this episode, RuthAnn opens up about the fierce advocacy required to protect her husband’s well-being, especially when faced with medical professionals who expected compliance rather than questions. Jenna joins the conversation, highlighting the impossible decisions caregivers face: when every choice could be a matter of life or death, how do you know which battles are worth fighting? Together, they explore the reality that, in caregiving, you rarely get to choose your battles — because you never know which one will matter most.

RuthAnn and Jenna encourage listeners to trust their instincts and advocate for themselves and their loved ones, no matter the situation. Their message is clear: nobody knows your loved one better, and nobody will fight harder for their care. You are the expert in your own journey. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. Tune in for an honest discussion about breaking stereotypes, standing up to authority, and finding the courage to speak out when it matters most.

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In this episode, RuthAnn picks up where the previous conversation left off, reflecting on the dehumanizing treatment Lance received from some residents and medical professionals — treatment that often made him feel more like a science experiment than a person. She shares a couple of powerful stories from Lance’s experiences in the hospital and clinic that highlight the emotional toll of being overlooked in the healthcare system. Jenna, coming from a background of limited medical experience, offers her perspective and asks important questions about what people can do when they feel their concerns are being dismissed. RuthAnn emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts and shines a light on the often-overlooked challenges faced by caregivers — especially the pressure to stay quiet and comply, even when advocating for their loved ones.

Key Moments in This Episode:

[00:00:19] Opening: He Wasn't a Science Experiment – Introduction to the episode’s central theme.

[00:03:45] RuthAnn reflects on Lance’s thoughts about feeling like a “guinea pig”.

[00:04:49] RuthAnn recounts an incident involving residents while waiting for hospital admission.

[00:12:01] Jenna poses a poignant question about how common ailments are often dismissed by healthcare providers.

[00:14:36] Life lessons: Jenna asks RuthAnn what insights she’s gained from this journey that she hopes others can take with them.

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37 - Trusting Your Instincts: A Powerful Call to Stand Up for Our Veterans

In this deeply personal and emotional episode, RuthAnn bravely shares a difficult chapter from her life. She recounts an event that took place at the Department of Veterans Affairs hospital, which ultimately led to her husband, Lance, being placed on hospice care. With raw honesty, RuthAnn opens up about the impact of this experience, the emotional toll it took, and the importance of trusting your instincts — especially when faced with a medical system that may not always have your loved one's best interests at heart.

RuthAnn reflects on the critical lesson that, even in moments of vulnerability, it’s essential to question and challenge those in positions of authority. She speaks to the heartbreaking reality that sometimes those in charge may not have all the answers, and it's up to us to advocate for ourselves and our loved ones, no matter the situation.

In addition to sharing her personal story, RuthAnn uses this episode as a call to action for all listeners to advocate for our veterans. She urges us to pay attention to the challenges and shortcomings of the system that is meant to care for those who served our country. RuthAnn’s story is a powerful reminder that we must stand up for those who have given so much, and push for meaningful change within the Veterans Affairs system.

This episode is not only about RuthAnn's heartbreaking journey, but also about sparking a larger conversation on how we can better care for our veterans and ensure they receive the respect, care, and support they deserve.

Key Moments in This Episode:

[00:01:00] Important background details about Lance’s health and their experience with the Department of Veterans Affairs hospital are shared, providing the context needed to understand the gravity of the situation.

[00:04:40] Deep concerns arise over a particular medical procedure, highlighting the internal conflict faced and the strong instincts urging against it.

[00:08:10] The medical procedure that would change everything is revealed, leading to the decision to place Lance on hospice care.

[00:13:40] A harsh reality is discussed about how veterans are treated within the system meant to care for them, with a powerful call to recognize the urgent need for change.

[00:14:21] A call to action: RuthAnn encourages listeners to stand up for veterans and demand change in the system that cares for them.

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In this episode, RuthAnn and Jenna dive into the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone and the growth that comes with facing fear and embracing change. RuthAnn shares her personal journey of life after caring for her disabled husband, Lance. After his death, RuthAnn found herself in an entirely new world -  one that was unfamiliar, uncomfortable, and, at times, terrifying. But by taking small, sometimes seemingly insignificant steps, RuthAnn learned that pushing through her fears opened up new possibilities for growth. Over time, these small steps added up, and there were moments when she took big leaps simply because she was tired of holding back.

As RuthAnn reflects on how far she’s come, she credits her willingness to step out of her comfort zone and the support from those around her. In this conversation, Jenna poses some thought-provoking questions that challenge the way we view fear, reward, momentum, and the people we surround ourselves with.

How do fear and reward influence your actions? Did RuthAnn’s motivations shift as she started to expand her world and take risks?
How does momentum impact your willingness to try new things? How important are the people around you when it comes to growth? Does your circle of support help or hinder your journey, and how can surrounding yourself with the right people propel you forward?

Tune in for an inspiring conversation about the challenges and rewards of growth, and learn how stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to profound change.

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Join RuthAnn and Jenna for an honest and empowering conversation about the power of mindset. RuthAnn opens up about her experience as a caregiver, reflecting on how, during some of the toughest days, the last thing she wanted to hear was advice on being more positive. It often felt impossible to find anything good when life was overwhelming and hard.

But over time, she discovered that practicing gratitude and shifting her mindset on the easier days made it a little easier to face the really hard days. It didn’t change her circumstances, but it did make life a bit more bearable - and it made her more resilient and easier to be around.

In this episode, Jenna shares practical tips for changing your mindset, like replacing or reframing thoughts. Tune in for a conversation that offers insight, hope, and simple tools to help you shift your perspective - no matter where you are in life.

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In this episode, RuthAnn and Jenna dive into the emotional and physical challenges of living with a chronic illness. From Lance’s staggering 70 doctor visits in one year to his ongoing battle with two ultra rare conditions, LCH and ECD, RuthAnn and Jenna reflect on how invisible illness impacts not only the body but also relationships, perspectives, and the way we approach life itself.

Lance’s diagnoses at a young age forced him and RuthAnn to confront the harsh reality that time is precious — and how it feels when the outside world doesn’t understand the invisible battle you’re fighting. With humor, resilience, and a determination to enjoy life no matter the circumstances, RuthAnn shares how they navigated their life of hardship through years of uncertainty.

RuthAnn and Jenna also explore the difficulty of explaining chronic illness to others, the pressure of people’s expectations, and how living authentically became the only choice in an unpredictable world. Tune in for a candid conversation on the power of perspective, finding joy in the smallest moments, and the importance of embracing life on your own terms — no matter what you’re facing.

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In this episode, RuthAnn and Jenna dive into the concept of vulnerability—not just as a perceived weakness, but as a powerful strength. While society often associates vulnerability with fragility, it actually takes immense courage to show up in the world without our armor. RuthAnn and Jenna explore the many benefits of vulnerability, particularly when it comes to building authentic relationships and fostering deeper connections with others.

Through personal stories and honest reflections, they open up about their own struggles with vulnerability and the trust required to embrace it. Tune in to hear practical tips and insights on how being vulnerable can lead to stronger, more meaningful bonds with the people around you.

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In this episode, RuthAnn and Jenna explore the importance of community, especially during times of change. RuthAnn shares her journey of being part of multiple communities while she was married to Lance, and how she has navigated finding new communities since his passing. She discusses why community was vital in both seasons of her life, and how it continues to be an essential part of her healing process. Jenna, offering her perspective as a mom, provides practical advice on how to find your community, especially after going through a life transition like loss, divorce, or moving to a new place. If you're looking to connect with others or rebuild your community after a significant shift, this episode will offer valuable insights.

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In this candid episode, Jenna and RuthAnn share their personal stories of learning to find joy again after facing overwhelming challenges. RuthAnn talks about the difficulties she encountered while supporting her husband Lance through his illness, and how the lack of support from those around them made the journey even harder. Jenna opens up about her experience navigating a divorce and the emotional hurdles that came with it. Though neither of their journeys was easy, both women agree that rediscovering joy was ultimately worth the struggle. Tune in for an honest conversation about resilience, healing, and the importance of finding support when life feels isolating.

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In this heartfelt and humorous episode, Jenna and RuthAnn explore the healing power of laughter in the face of life’s toughest challenges. Jenna opens up about finding humor during her divorce, while RuthAnn shares how laughter kept her grounded while caring for her husband who lived with cancer for over 25 years. Both women discuss how laughter can be a powerful coping mechanism, offering catharsis and perspective when life feels overwhelming. Tune in for personal stories, plenty of laughs, and a reminder that sometimes, a good chuckle is exactly what we need to lighten the load.