Forget People Pleasing

It's scary to consider feeling our feelings.  We may believe they will over take us.  And how will be get out of our BIG FEELS????  This episode helps us learn how to feel those feelings without getting lost in them.  

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Our self trust erodes like death by a thousand paper cuts as we chronically abandon ourselves to chase the approval and inclusion of others.  This episode offers a 4 part framework to help build self trust and integrity with God's help.

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Why do I have to TELL them?

Can’t they SEE the overflowing trash, the dishes in the sink, the dog-hair tumbleweeds?

Here’s the problem: you’re expecting them to notice what YOU notice.

And that expectation may be creating more resentment than the mess.

Listen to learn how we get stuck in this dysfunctional pattern and what to do about it.

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As PEOPLE PLEASERS we tend to chase people that don't express much interest in us.  This episode covers why we chase people, what we could be looking for and what to do instead.

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We can tell ourselves some pretty scary stories BUT, are they based on FEAR or is it a PATTERN??  This episode talks about -- not confusing a scary story with a pattern and how to discern the difference. 

Also discussed is the negative habit of catastrophizing which participates in creating the fear stories.

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We can FEEL each other's emotions, but we don't need to take them on.

This Episode teaches a 4 step framework on what to do when you're around intense emotions and how NOT to absorb them.

Remember, the more grounded you become in who you are and who you are becoming in Christ, the less likely you are to let somebody else's EMOTIONAL STORM decide how you show up.

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Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean.  That's how we practice being honest and how we develop meaningful relationships.  When we are authentically seen and known, then we won't feel lonely and we can leave our fake version of ourselves behind.

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It's built in you to want to be known and understood.  But, you can crave to be included so much that you present your fake self.  

The only way you feel seen, known, and understood is by connecting with others that learn who you really are.  Otherwise, the question lingers ... I wonder if they'd like me if they knew who I really am? 

It's a people pleaser trap to play a role, lose yourself to be included only to feel lonely.  

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New behaviors feel awkward and you may feel guilty, anxious, or fearful ... but could it be vulnerable instead?  Just because our honest choices conjure up uncomfortable feelings, doesn't mean we have made a wrong choice.

Learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings is the new skill we are learning and practicing so we can become the women God has created us to be instead of people pleasers.

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This episode talks about how comparison leads to jealousy and resentment.  

It also talks about how to love who God created you to be and live in His plan for your life instead of envying someone else's life. 

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