Most of the time when we think of forgiveness, we think about other people. But this applies directly to you.

Forgiveness is stopping feeling angry or resentful toward yourself for something that happened.

When you don’t forgive yourself, you stay in that resentment. And that makes it harder to move forward.

The truth is, you will make mistakes. You will have flaws. That’s part of being human.

So instead of using those moments to judge yourself, you can use them as data.

There is so much value in what didn’t go as planned. That’s where the growth is.

But we often avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we judge it, we replay it, and we make it mean something about our future.

That’s what keeps you stuck.

So first—remove the resentment.

You can say: this happened. I can let it go. This moment is brand new.

That’s forgiveness.

Then comes evaluation.

What were the facts?
What went right?
What didn’t go the way you wanted?
What would you do differently?

That’s where the next step comes from.

There’s no downside to forgiving yourself. The only reasons we don’t are because we think we don’t deserve it, we don’t have permission, or we’re afraid we won’t change.

But forgiveness is what allows change.

You don’t need to stay mad at yourself to grow.

When you forgive yourself, your mind is clear. You can actually see what you want to do next.

And that changes everything.

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