In past podcasts, I’ve discussed boundaries as beneficial to put God first. But have you ever thought about how boundaries prevent others from trying to make YOU their god? 

Relationships can contain a hidden, unhealthy power struggle, producing unhealthy worship on both ends. 

Walking on eggshells to keep abuse at bay, prevent rejection, or maintain the peace, has the potential to position YOU as their god – holding you responsible for their emotions, actions, and comfort. 

Falsely believing you must never let others down by always being there for them, rescuing or fixing them, steps into God’s shoes. 

Has someone blamed you for their ugly words or actions towards you? Did you shoulder unnecessary shame because you mistakenly thought it was your responsibility? 

While we can appreciate and admire, only the Almighty is worthy of worship.

This spiritual boundary set by God is a vital reason to set boundaries with others. When you don’t communicate limits, others could see you as limitless and lean on you in a way that only God is worthy to bear. 

In today’s teaching message, we are diving into how the blood of Jesus provides spiritual boundaries, inviting us to trust God and lead others to do the same.

ONWARD!

Aliene

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Codependency led me to live in captivity.  

While no physical prison bars confined me, my controlling tendencies and self-sufficiency robbed me of real freedom and prevented me from walking in God’s power.

All in the name of survival, fear and oppression drove me to develop the faulty defense mechanisms of control and self-sufficiency, instead of walking in God’s power under His protection.

Can you relate? 

One of the enemy’s greatest calling cards is using lies to trigger you to function out of fear, rather than faith – to use your armor to fight and fend for yourself.  

Discovering how to discern God’s voice to set boundaries was a vital part of releasing my armor. I was able to take hold of one of the most powerful parts of God’s spiritual armor – the belt of truth.

God’s discernment will give you guidance to set boundaries His way. 

In today’s message, discover how to grow in your discernment, secure the belt of truth, set boundaries with God’s guidance and confidently live out your calling. 

ONWARD!

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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There are all kinds of battlefields. 

What is or was your warzone? Where did the enemy of your soul lob his unfair, ferocious, fiery darts relentlessly, one after another – so much so that the crazy became comfortable? 

Perhaps you left your battlefield long ago, but you notice that the battle has not left you.

You still feel anxiety, anger, insecurity, hopelessness, or fear. Often, after a cease-fire, the greatest battle lies ahead – the battle of setting boundaries in your thinking. 

How has the enemy normalized dysfunction so that you settle, instead of setting boundaries to soar? 

Now hear this treasured one – your past doesn’t have to dictate your future. 

In today’s message, see how God can shift your paradigm by painting a new picture of what could be. It’s time to see faith beyond your familiar… with new steps to live in freedom as God intended! 

I am always cheering you on!

ONWARD,

Aliene 

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God is NOT calling you to be a doormat. 

In a perfect world, people respect boundaries. But we all know that life doesn’t work out neat and tidy. 

People are messy.

Just because we set a boundary does not necessarily mean people will respect that boundary. 

Boundary pushers show up in different ways. They display traits like narcissism, immaturity, entitlement, selfishness, privilege, desperation, cluelessness, or a toxic mix of any of these. 

For the love of Pete! These people pursue their desires regardless of your boundaries, often disregarding them completely!

Has someone blown off a boundary you set and you’re looking for how to navigate the situation with wisdom?  In today’s teaching message, discover Biblical strategies to deal with boundary disrespect, God’s Way. 

Much Love,

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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You know I am your biggest cheerleader when it comes to setting boundaries. YOU GO GIRL! 

But… have you ever taken a courageous step to set boundaries and experienced frustration instead of freedom, leading to these doubtful thoughts? 

Now, hear this brave soul. Your desire to protect your heart, mind, body, time, and other sacred trusts from the Lord is NOT selfish, wrong, or shameful. 

Sometimes when we set boundaries, the right motive is combined with the wrong methodology, and we wind up wounded instead of free.

The real peace your heart craves comes from setting boundaries, God’s way. 

In our teaching message today, discover and gain the skills you need to set boundaries God’s way and live in freedom as he intended.

ONWARD!

Aliene

To watch today’s teaching message, click HERE.

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You matter. Your life matters.

And when you own that truth, you can live treasured and walk in the light, to be a light, so that others can live cherished too (Exodus 19:4-5, Peter 2:9).  

God has a perfect boundary system designed to protect what is precious to his heart and this includes YOU! But what is precious to God, Satan loves to attack with his destructive lies.

Do you ever hear thoughts like: 

I have heard all of these lies…and they reinforced my codependency!  Why would I want to depend on God if I believed these lies deep in my heart?  

When I started spending time in God’s Word for myself, I saw everything differently….. because I was looking through the lens of truth with eyes of faith. Here’s what the Holy Spirit has written and sealed so strongly in my heart is that I can live in confidence, security and best of all GOD-DEPENDENCY!

God’s boundary system puts me in the security of his care and protection but most of all, it LIBERATES me to live a fulfilled life and become the woman he created me to be. 

Do you want to live in this freedom too?  

Listen to today’s teaching message and open the gift of God’s boundary system to live in freedom as God intended.

ONWARD!

Aliene

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We do not have to live our lives stuck in patterns we may not even fully understand. We aren’t alone in the search for the root of our pain, and we don’t have to go into what can be a painful experience alone. 

Christ is before us, behind us, and with us. Ask Him to lead you to the pain of your past to allow for genuine and real healing. As we seek Him, we can understand our own hearts and the triggers they have.

We have a lot to relearn, a lifetime of lies and deep-rooted pain, but the power of the cross transcends through time to right those wrongs and confront those lies. 

God’s love is not afraid of where you’ve come from. 

No matter how toxic, He does not see you as too far gone… 

You are simply and wonderfully HIS. 

In today’s teaching message, discover how to let God’s love reclaim your heart and mind to break generational patterns. One day at a time, one step at a time, you can leave blessings in your wake for generations to come. 

ONWARD!

Aliene

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As we are all made in God’s image, we are called to love as He loves, and boundaries are a part of loving others. 

Beware, treasured one, of Satan’s scripture-twisted lie that boundaries are unkind. 

“If God is not only loving, but He is love, He cannot act otherwise.” 1 John 4:8 

He does not sin or lie. Therefore, limits are not loveless. When prompted by the Holy Spirit, they are love.

Since the beginning of time, God has set sacred boundaries to guard what He values. Placing a protective limit out of love was God’s first post-creation action in the Garden of Eden; when He instructed Adam and Eve not to eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil (Genesis 2:16-17). This caring command was the first of many agape-driven limits God gave to His people.

Who better to teach us and talk to us about boundaries than our Creator? 

In today’s teaching message from Exodus 19, we will look to the author and originator of boundaries – the One True God – and uncover timeless truths about Biblical boundaries that you can begin to set today.  

Boundary guidance from the Holy Spirit builds healthy relationships. So, let’s seek God with all we have and love others, His way, as we discover boundaries that are Biblical, beneficial, and built on love. 

You’ve got this! 

ONWARD,

Aliene

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Hello , 

Emotional abuse is often diminished or dismissed for many reasons – even in the church. When this happens, the lack of validation can feel confusing and powerless for the victim, but this is not God’s way. 

At Treasured Ministries, we believe God calls the church to be a resource, not a roadblock, for victims of emotional abuse. Our vision is to see a world where every woman is free to live the life that God intended for her.

After all, every woman is precious and holds immeasurable value in the eyes of the Lord.

Today, we welcome Leslie Vernick, author of “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” and “The Emotionally Destructive Relationship,” to discuss emotional abuse. Listen to today’s message and discover the answers to these questions. 

What is emotional abuse?

How does emotional abuse impact our lives physically, spiritually, and mentally?

How can abuse lead to codependency?

What are the first steps to heal? 

God does not condone any form of abuse. 

Listen to today’s teaching lesson, pass it on to others to bring awareness to emotional abuse and let’s see freedom for every woman. 

With Love,

Aliene

To watch today’s message, click here.

How can I know if I am experiencing or have experienced emotional abuse in my marriage? It can be confusing and if the first step is awareness – Leslie has designed a free resource to bring clarity to this question – is my marriage difficult, disappointing or destructive.

 Click here to get her quick start guide.

Who is Leslie Vernick?

Leslie is a popular speaker, author, licensed clinical social worker and relationship coach.  She has over 35 years of experience helping individuals, couples and families heal, rebuild or grow their relationships.

Leslie is the author of seven books, including the bestselling, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and The Emotionally Destructive Relationship. 

To listen to her podcast episode “Is Your Relationship Abusive?” Click here.

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