In this episode of Fostering Conversations, we welcome Laura, the force behind the popular Instagram account @FosterParenting! Laura shares her journey into foster care, from a spark of interest as a teenager to becoming a foster parent and content creator. We discuss the realities of foster parenting, the importance of trauma-informed care, and the many ways people can support the foster care system—even if they’re not ready to foster themselves.

This episode is also a bittersweet one, as we say farewell (but not goodbye!) to our longtime co-host Liz Rivera. She reflects on her time with the podcast and the exciting direction Fostering Conversations is heading with Amy at the helm.

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If you loved this episode, be sure to follow Laura on Instagram at @Foster.Parenting for more insights and real-life experiences from the foster care world.

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Angela also offers valuable insights into racial identity in transracial adoption and the importance of building inclusive family networks. Whether you’re an adoptee, an adoptive parent, or just curious about the adoptee experience, this conversation is a must-listen.

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Angela Tucker is a Black transracial adoptee. She is the author of “You Should Be Grateful:” Stories of Race, Identity and Transracial Adoption. Her book was published in April 2023 by Beacon Press. Angela’s search for her biological family is featured in the documentary CLOSURE which premiered on Netflix in 2015. In 2022, Angela founded the non-profit, the Adoptee Mentoring Society to provide virtual mentorship for adoptees world-wide. With 15 years in child welfare, she has appeared on CNN, The Red Table Talk, The New Yorker, and more, advocating for adoptees.

Angela lives in Seattle with her Emmy-award-winning spouse, Bryan Tucker.

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Daniela is a self-identified birth kid. Her parents fostered when she was a child, and eventually adopted her youngest sibling. Having grown up in a home that fostered and adopted, Daniela was a temporary sibling to many children. Now, Daniela and her husband have children by both birth and adoption. 

While Daniela has a variety of experience in social work contexts, she has spent most of her career working in foster care and adoption. Daniela Coats is a Licensed Master Social Worker in the state of Texas. She is currently a therapist under supervision at Be Still Counseling and Consulting in Texas.  She has contributed to professional writings on the subject, and is the author of The Day Lily Turned (un)Invisible, a children’s book written specifically for biological kids in foster families.”

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In this episode of Fostering Conversations, Amy and Liz are joined by Peter Mutabazi, also known as “Foster Dad Flipper” on Instagram. Peter shares his inspiring journey from being a street child in Uganda to becoming a foster parent in the United States. Over the past nine years, Peter has fostered 45 children, adopted three, and is currently fostering three more. He discusses the joys and challenges of being a single foster dad, the importance of community support, and how his experiences have shaped his approach to co-parenting with biological families.

Peter also highlights his foundation, Now I Am Known, which creates personalized room makeovers for teenagers in foster care, giving them a sense of belonging and ownership. Throughout the conversation, Peter emphasizes the value of empathy, the power of community, and the many ways people can support foster families, even if they aren’t fostering themselves. Tune in to be inspired by Peter’s story and his commitment to making a difference in the lives of children and families.

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Peter Mutabazi is the founder of Now I Am Known, an organization that supplies resources to support vulnerable children. Originally from Uganda, Peter ran away from an abusive home at age ten and lived as a street kid for nearly five years. Today Peter is a single dad to countless foster children and his adopted son, Anthony. For the past twenty years Peter has worked as a child advocate within the U.S. and globally to promote wellness and child development. He believes every child deserves to be seen, heard, and known. Peter has appeared on international media outlets and is a passionate speaker who resides in North Carolina.

For more information visit: www.nowiamknown.com and follow Peter @fosterdadflipper

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*This episode was originally aired in December 2020

Fostering Conversations with Utah Foster Care delves into the unique challenges foster families face during the holiday season. Hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera are joined by Dan Kammerlohr and Hope Nichols, counselors from Hope and Healing Counseling, to explore strategies for navigating the season’s complexities.

The episode highlights the emotional dynamics for children in foster care, including grief, excitement, and stress that may arise from being separated from biological families or adapting to new traditions. The guests discuss practical approaches for managing expectations, setting boundaries, and helping children regulate their emotions. They also touch on the added impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, which has reshaped how families celebrate together.

Key takeaways include the importance of lowering expectations to reduce stress, preparing children for changes in routines, and acknowledging their unique holiday experiences. Listeners are encouraged to incorporate traditions from the children’s biological families, fostering a sense of connection and respect for their past.

This episode offers a thoughtful guide for foster families aiming to create a holiday season filled with healing and hope, despite the inevitable challenges.

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In this episode of Fostering Conversations, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera sit down with 15-year-old Freedom, a foster youth with a remarkable story of resilience, hope, and self-discovery. Freedom opens up about her experiences growing up in the foster care system, finding her forever family, and the challenges of fitting in as the only Black person in her adoptive family.

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Tune in to hear Freedom’s inspiring story and how she’s paving the way for other foster youth to find their voice and shape their future!

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In this episode of *Fostering Conversations*, hosts Deborah Lindner and Liz Rivera introduce a new initiative within Utah Foster Care: Care Communities. The program, a two-year pilot spearheaded by First Lady Abby Cox, aims to provide foster families with support teams comprised of community members, businesses, and religious organizations.

The discussion highlights the unique challenges foster parents face, including the emotional and logistical complexities of raising children who have experienced trauma. As Tami Carson, Director of Care Communities, explains, foster parents often need extra support in managing everyday tasks, from carpools to handling difficult behaviors. The Care Communities program addresses this by forming teams of eight to ten people to provide practical and emotional support for foster families. These teams help with a wide variety of tasks, from babysitting to running errands, which helps foster parents focus on their children’s needs.

Tami emphasizes that this program is more than just volunteerism; it is about forming lasting connections between foster families and their communities. The initiative began with participation from several religious organizations and businesses, but Utah Foster Care is looking to expand its reach by recruiting more community and business partners across the state. Carson notes that while many similar programs are faith-based, Utah’s version seeks to involve businesses and secular organizations as well, to ensure diversity and wider support for foster families.

The hosts also discuss the impact of the program on foster families. Tami shares several stories from the pilot phase, illustrating how Care Communities have made a difference in the lives of foster children and parents. For example, a care team helped a foster teen in a rural area build social skills by teaching him to play guitar and taking him on outings. Another team supported a single foster mother by helping her organize her home and providing practical assistance, such as grocery shopping and running errands.

A key point of the conversation is the importance of retaining foster families, as many leave after only one year due to burnout. Care Communities aims to provide the consistent support needed to keep experienced families in the system longer. Liz notes that one foster parent shared how the program allowed her to move out of “survival mode” and focus on thriving as a family.

The hosts encourage listeners to get involved by reaching out to their employers, faith communities, or social groups to form care teams. They emphasize that the program is still in its pilot phase, but they are optimistic about its potential to grow and help foster families across Utah.

In closing, Tami reminds foster parents that while not everyone can participate in Care Communities yet, there are still resources and support available through Utah Foster Care. The episode wraps up with a reminder to visit Utah Foster Care for more information about becoming a foster parent or joining a care team.

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During a typical school day, our children can spend as much time in class as they do at home, which makes success at school all the more important. Tyler Bastian is director at Utah’s first farm-based charter high school and McKay Esplin is an LCSW and Utah Foster Care trainer.

In our latest episode, they offer insight on how parents and students can build and foster positive school relationships.

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What began as a bold experiment in Utah now celebrates 25 years of nurturing families and transforming lives. As we reflect on a quarter-century of dedicated service in foster care, we take a moment to appreciate the profound impact that Utah Foster Care has had on countless children, families, and communities

Building on Bold Beginnings

Twenty-five years ago, a visionary idea took root in Utah—to create an organization solely focused on recruiting, training, and supporting foster families. Through the leadership of Governor Mike Leavitt and partnerships with community and state agencies, Utah Foster Care emerged as a unique entity dedicated to serving the needs of foster children and the families who care for them.

Commitment to Children First

At the heart of Utah Foster Care’s mission is an unwavering commitment to putting children’s needs first. As shared by Brian Young, a regional trainer, the primary goal is to ensure that every child in foster care feels safe, understood, and supported. Brian’s moving recollection of a time when the reality of a child’s loss deeply resonated with him emphasizes the importance of empathy and awareness in foster care.

Supporting Foster Families

The organization’s success also lies in its continuous support for foster families. Debra Lindner and Liz Rivera, co-hosts of the podcast, illustrate how Utah Foster Care goes beyond initial training by maintaining long-term relationships with foster parents. This ongoing support helps equip families with the skills needed to provide nurturing and stable environments for children who have experienced trauma.

Recognizing and Addressing Challenges

Utah Foster Care has always been proactive in addressing systemic challenges. From embracing cultural diversity to implementing inclusive practices, the organization has made significant strides. Mike, a clinical consultant, and Les, a trainer, discussed efforts to understand and honor the cultural backgrounds of children in care, particularly those from Native American and Latino communities.

The Evolution of Training and Understanding

In the early years, foster training was more behavior-focused. Over time, it has evolved into a trauma-informed approach grounded in brain science. Understanding the brain’s development and the impact of trauma has revolutionized the training provided to foster parents, emphasizing the need for compassion and tailored support.

A Vision for the Future

Looking ahead, Utah Foster Care aspires to have families waiting for children, not the other way around. The organization remains committed to adapting based on continuous learning and the evolving needs of children and families. The involvement of Governor Cox and First Lady Abby Cox has brought unprecedented attention and resources to the cause, promising even greater progress in the years to come.

Conclusion

As we commemorate 25 years of Utah Foster Care, we celebrate the resilience of the children, the dedication of foster families, and the passion of the staff. With over 16,000 families trained since 1999, Utah Foster Care stands as a beacon of hope and compassion. For those inspired to join this journey, remember that you don’t need to know everything to become a foster parent—you just need to be willing to learn. To find out more about foster parenting and other ways to get involved, visit utahfostercare.org. Here’s to another 25 years of making a difference, one child at a time.

In this podcast episode, hosts Deborah Linder and Liz Rivera discuss the challenges and support systems for families with LGBTQ children, particularly focusing on the organization Mama Dragons. The episode begins with a brief introduction and proceeds to explore how Mama Dragons evolved from a small group of mothers to a significant support network. Special guest Jen Blair, host of the Mama Dragons podcast ‘In the Den,’ shares insights about reassuring parents when their child comes out and the importance of creating an inclusive and supportive environment at home.

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