Most people meet a family business with a raised eyebrow, assuming nepotism, dysfunction, and the kind of dinner-table drama that makes for good television. Mark Abbott sits down with family business expert Sara Stern to make the opposite case: family businesses are among the most enduring and value-creating institutions on the planet, and the very thing critics mock is often the reason they last. Sara walks through the three-circle model of family, business, and ownership, the underrated role of the "chief emotional officer" who protects a family's traditions, and why holding relatives to the same standard is an act of love rather than favoritism. Mark connects it to his own work on rituals, artifacts, and the long game, including a simple framework for the four kinds of conversations every leader has and why mixing them up is where things break down. It adds up to a wide-ranging talk about culture, leadership, and playing a hundred-year game in a world obsessed with the next quarter.
Why family businesses endure, and why the stigma gets it backwardsThe three-circle model and the "chief emotional officer"Rituals, traditions, and artifacts as the real fabric of cultureHolding family members to the same standard as everyone elseThe four types of conversations: coaching, managing, training, and socialPlaying the long game: 100-year thinking and legacySara Stern is a family business expert and EOS Implementer who has built her career helping family enterprises thrive. Before becoming an implementer she spent roughly a decade with a family business institute, and she is known in the EOS community as the person who champions family businesses rather than groaning about them. Find her at sarahbstern.com and on LinkedIn.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Three Circle Model of the Family Business System (Tagiuri & Davis, Harvard, 1978): johndavis.comElliott Jaques, time span of discretion, from "Requisite Organization": AmazonThe Drama Triangle (victim, persecutor, rescuer) and The Empowerment Dynamic (creator, challenger, coach), from "The Power of TED*" by David Emerald: AmazonRadio Flyer (a multi-generational family business example)LVMH and Warren Buffett (durable, enduring-asset examples)Follow Mark on LinkedIn
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Sara's website: sarahbstern.com
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