Fr. Steve Borello's Homilies

Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the Ignatian style of prayer, in which God meets our story through an encounter in Scripture. St. Ignatius suggests a simple model of "be aware, understand, act" as a means to help us in our prayer with the Lord.  

Go to www.wordonfire.org/ignatius to watch Bishop Barron's full-length feature film for free during the 500th anniversary of St. Ignatius' conversion.
 
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Recommended Resource: An Ignatian Introduction to Prayer by Fr. Timothy M. Gallagher, OMV 

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about emotions, including emotional attunement, emotional regulation, and the six things every child needs from their parents. How are emotions relevant to our prayer life? Does the Church have anything to say on emotions? Take a listen to find out!

Resources: 

• The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young
• adamyoungcounseling.com/free-documents
• Catechism of the Catholic Church

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Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the different types of friendship, focusing primarily on virtuous Christian friendship. In this type of friendship, we have our eyes set on the same horizon, the same goal: heaven. How do we begin to cultivate holy, Christian friendship? 

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Fr. Steve and Ashley end this series on Attachment Theory by discussing, where do we go from here? How do we move from an experience of an insecure attachment style to a posture of a secure attachment style? 

Freedom is possible, growth is real. Something that’s central to growth in our journey here from the perspective of the attachment styles is finding the freedom to love and be loved.
 
Satan wants our story to have a certain meaning for us. He wants us to focus on the miserable, horrible pain, the regret, the shame, he wants us to be discouraged and despair, to be angry with the Lord and avoid him. God wants to reframe the meaning of our story in truth, He wants us to see where He was in the story and for us to see the difference between what happened to us and what He desires for us.

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Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the disorganized attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. People who have a disorganized attachment style have a negative view of self and a negative view of others, they have a hard time believing they deserve love and that they’re worthy of love. They also don’t trust others or believe they would be willing or able to give them that love.

They are able to find darkness and negativity wherever they go.  Because of this, they have a sort of “mixed bag” of attachment problems or difficulties, resulting in a “shattered self.” The disorganized attachment style is the least common attachment style to have.

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Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the ambivalent attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. The ambivalently attached person tends to believe “I am not worthy of love, I am not capable of getting the love I need without being angry and clingy.”

In regards to others, they tend to believe “others are capable of meeting my needs, but might not do so because of my flaws" and "others are trustworthy and reliable, but they might abandon me because of my worthlessness.”

Those with an ambivalent attachment style tend to fear abandonment. 

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Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the avoidant attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with an avoidant attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need," however they also believe others are either unwilling or incapable of loving them because they are untrustworthy. Others are not reliable when it comes to meeting the needs of an avoidantly attached person.

Those with an avoidant attachment tend to fear intimacy and struggle articulating and experiencing their emotions. 

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Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 

Fr. Steve and Ashley talk about the secure attachment style, which is one of the four attachment styles within attachment theory. Those with a secure attachment style believe "I am worthy of love and I am capable of getting the love and support I need." There is confidence and security within their own acceptance of themselves. They also believe "others are willing and able to love me as I am." In general, they trust others and know relationships to be safe places. 

Email us at [email protected] with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.

Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend 

Fr. Steve and Ashley continue their discussion of attachment theory by looking at how our different attachment styles may affect our relationships, especially our prayer. 

When we have an insecure attachment style, our prayer life has the potential to cause doubt or fear in us based on the unpredictability of it.  Much of our prayer turns into fighting the lie that God isn't who He says He is. Those with a secure attachment still have doubts and fears that come up at times, but they believe God is who He says He is and knows that He will always be there and has always been there in our story. No matter where we find ourselves, God is always calling us to more, to greater healing and greater intimacy with Him. 

Email us at [email protected] with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.

Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
• The Context of Holiness: Psychological and Spiritual Reflections on the Life of  St. Thérèse of Lisieux by Marc Foley, O.C.D. 

We are back from our brief summer break!

In this episode, Fr. Steve and Ashley discuss the basics of attachment theory- what it is and why it matters. This is the first episode in our new series delving into the different components of attachment theory and how our attachment style affects our relationships and prayer.

There are four attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Much like our episodes on story and identity, we see how relationship is at the center of our stories. Take a listen to learn more! 

Email us at [email protected] with questions, episode topic suggestions, prayer intentions- you name it! Please also subscribe to our podcast, leave a rating, and share it with a friend. Thank you so much for listening! God bless.

Recommended Resources:

• Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinto and Dr. Gary Sibcy 
• The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young