Free Failing

Jess T. and Jess K. dive into the power of “reframing” — the simple but life-changing practice of flipping negative thoughts and hard circumstances into fresh, hopeful perspectives. From navigating loss and heartache to the everyday chaos of parenting and life stress, shifting your mindset can make all the difference. With a mix of faith, science, and a good dose of humor, this episode gives you practical ways to start reframing your own thoughts and embracing growth along the way.

#MindsetShift, #ReframeYourMind #Divorcedwoman #LifeAfterDivorce #ChristianDivorce

Chapters

00:00Understanding Reframing: A Cognitive Approach

02:13The Power of Perspective: Shifting Mindsets

04:30Personal Experiences: Navigating Life Changes

07:15Faith and Reframing: A Spiritual Perspective

09:58Big Picture Thinking: Seeing Beyond the Immediate

10:59Taking Thoughts Captive: The Role of Faith

16:56Scientific Basis of Reframing: Brain Science andTherapy

19:18Applying God's Perspective: Renewing the Mind

21:33Navigating Support and Accountability

24:00The Power of Reframing

26:39Destiny and the Illusion of Choice

33:53Practical Steps to Reframe Your Mindset

35:06Celebrating Wins and Acknowledging Fails

Jess and Jess dive into what it really looks like to rediscover yourself at midlife (ish!) after divorce. From juggling motherhood with society’s never-ending expectations to holding onto the passions that make you you, change doesn’t have to mean losing ourselves. Let's unpack the power of names and identity, the confidence that comes from personal growth, and why it’s never too late to start fresh. Part of divorce is letting go of the painful past and finding beauty in new beginnings—even when life doesn’t go as planned. #divorce #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #midlife #Christianwoman

Takeaways

• Divorce can be a catalyst for self-discovery.
• Maintaining personal identity is crucial during motherhood.
• It's important to keep pursuing personal interests.
• Name changes can impact identity and self-perception.
• Embracing change can lead to new beginnings.
• Self-care and personal growth are essential after divorce.
• It's never too late to pursue your dreams.
• Women often sacrifice their identities for family roles.
• Finding freedom in self-discovery is empowering.
• You can start from scratch and redefine your life.

Chapters:00:00Rediscovering Identity in Midlife

02:04The Impact of Divorce on Self-Discovery

05:00Navigating Changes in Relationships and Roles

06:17The Struggles of Name Changes and Identity

09:09Embracing New Beginnings and Personal Growth

12:28The Concept of Jubilee and Renewal

21:36Embracing Change and New Beginnings

25:12Rediscovering Self and Personal Growth

30:46The Power of Time and Healing

34:54Pursuing Dreams and New Opportunities

35:56Celebrating Wins and Learning from Fails

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Divorce can leave us asking, “Who am I now?” In this episode, Jess and Jess sit down with professional Enneagram coaches Jasmin Beeney and Theresa Krupicka to explore how we can rediscover our true selves in the aftermath of loss and transition. Whether you’re navigating grief, rebuilding your identity, or longing to step into a new season with clarity, the Enneagram offers a roadmap for healing and growth.

Learn about the patterns we can release, and the strengths we can lean into as we rebuild. If you’re ready to transform pain into purpose and move forward with greater self-awareness, this conversation will give you both hope and practical insight. PLUS how the Enneagram can revolutionize your dating life!

#Enneagram #DivorceHealing #selfawareness #knowyourself #EnneagramAndDating

Learn more about Jasmin and Theresa's Bridge Nine Consulting services here!

Jess and Jess sit down with bestselling author Ashley Henriott to talk about her powerful journey through heartbreak, healing, and unexpected reconciliation. Less than a year ago, Ashley and her husband were on the brink of divorce—living apart, with papers ready to sign. But through raw self-reflection and honest conversations with God, Ashley discovered a deeper kind of freedom and faith that carried her through the hardest season of her life.

This episode isn’t just about the joy of reconciliation—it’s about learning to build an authentic, unshakable faith when everything else falls apart. Ashley’s vulnerable story offers hope, courage, and encouragement for anyone walking through heartache and searching for healing.

#confidence #healing, #personal growth #divorce, #reconciliation #trauma

Influencer, speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster Confidence and Coffee, Ashley Henriott shares daily doses of faith-filled confidence with women across the globe. She encourages women to embrace the message that they are never too far from God’s grace to be rescued, redeemed, and released to live a courageous, confident life.

TikTok: @Ashleyhenriott 

 Insta: @Ashley.henriott 

Buy her book, Confidence is an Inside Job here!

Check out her Confidence and Coffee podcast on YouTube.

It's book giveaway time! Please follow and comment on Spotify, Apple podcasts or our YouTube channel and your name will be entered in a raffle to win a copy of Confidence is An Inside Jobe (and a scented candle!). We'll announce the winner on Oct. 1st!

Jess & Jess rewind the clock and spill the tea on what they wish they could tell their 20-year-old selves. From learning to love the body you’re in, to breaking free from toxic beliefs, to ditching the dating apps and putting family first—the wisdom list is long (and sometimes a little spicy). But instead of drowning in regret, this conversation is about growth, grace, and moving forward...because we’re divorced, not dead!

#youngerself #lifelessons #growth #divorcedwomen #singlemom #christianwoman

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Jess and Jess sit down with speaker, author, and podcaster Yvette Walker to explore what it truly means to date with purpose, discover lasting contentment in God, and embrace the joy of self-growth after divorce. Yvette shares her powerful story of surrendering her relationships to God’s will—and how that surrender opened the door to finding her true love. Her journey will encourage and inspire every woman navigating the pain of heartbreak and the hope of new beginnings. #divorcedwoman #Christiandivorce #datingafter40 #datingafterdivorce #divorcerecovery #relationshipgoals

Learn more about author, podcaster and speaker Yvette Walker at postivitleyjoy.com.

-Instagram:@positivelyjoypodcast

-Facebook: @Positively JoyPodcast

-Twitter@ywalker

YouTube : ⁠@YvetteWalker on YouTube

-The Positively Joy podcast

-Check out Yvette's book, "Journaling His Joy" on Amazon.

Jess & Jess tackle the emotional sucker punches that consistently come flying after divorce—and how to survive them with your sanity intact. From getting blindsided by Facebook time hops somehow making your ex look like Clooney, to hearing way too much from the kids about Dad’s shiny new life—welcome to the trigger minefield.
Some you can dodge. Others blow up right in your face. Jess & Jess share their ever-evolving survival list for when the hits come, as well as how to prevent or diffuse many of them through the joy of new beginnings, learning to reclaim the past, and redefining family dynamics.

#PostDivorceLife #DivorceRecovery #MovingOnStrong #EmotionalTriggers #TriggerProof #ChristiandivorceCome visit us on YouTube! xo

Fresh off a fun and "memorable" girls' trip, Jess & Jess a make the case for why every woman needs one on the calendar—stat. We’re talking shameless beauty swaps (estrogen cream for your face?!), uncontrollable belly laughs, and the kind of emotional pep talks you just don’t get in the school pickup line. If you’ve ever felt guilty or unsure about ditching your to-do list for a few days with your ride-or-dies, consider this your official permission slip. Pack the bag, book the flight, and don’t forget the dry shampoo.

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Are we the common thread in all our failed relationships? Does being a divorced single mom with a house full of kids scare off quality men? Are we not "Christian enough" for the kind of guy we're praying for?

In this raw and honest episode, Jess & Jess open up about their deepest fears around dating, heartbreak, and self-worth. With courage and vulnerability, they expose the lies we often believe after loss—and speak biblical truth to counter them.

Because healing begins with confession, and freedom starts when we choose truth over fear.

#FaithOverFear #ChristianDivorce #SingleMomLife #RenewYourMind

🎥 We're now ⁠⁠on YouTube⁠! ⁠Come visit us for some face time—and drop a comment sharing the truth or Scripture that’s helped you fight fear and reclaim hope. xo

Show notes:

-⁠Switch on Your Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf ⁠

-⁠Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyers⁠

- ⁠Mel Robbins⁠

-2 Corinthians 10:5: "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

-⁠God's Limitless Ability to Redefine Your Life⁠

Are we the common thread in all our failed relationships?
Does being a divorced single mom with a house full of kids scare off quality men?
Are we not "Christian enough" for the kind of guy we're praying for?

In this raw and honest episode, Jess & Jess open up about their deepest fears around dating, heartbreak, and self-worth. With courage and vulnerability, they expose the lies we often believe after loss—and speak biblical truth to counter them.

Because healing begins with confession, and freedom starts when we choose truth over fear.

#FaithOverFear #ChristianDivorce #SingleMomLife #RenewYourMind

🎥 We're now ⁠on YouTube⁠! Come visit us for some face time—and drop a comment sharing the truth or Scripture that’s helped you fight fear and reclaim hope. xo

Show notes:

-Switch on Your Brain by Dr. Caroline Leaf

-Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyers

- Mel Robbins

-2 Corinthians 10:5: "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."

-God's Limitless Ability to Redefine Your Life