Freedom is not escaping a situation, it is a shift in mental state when there is clear seeing, acceptance and disidentification with content of mind. When the mind says: "i'm lost!", question it "is it true? where are you going?" if you are not going anywhere, how can you be lost? you are right here right now. Observing helps us to step back and have a necessary distance to painful thoughts to disidentification. What causes pain in relationship is none of people but attachment. Attachment is an invisible tie, in which one feels responsible for another. One tries to make decisions and fix another. There is fear and lack of trust. Attachment is natural, it's not wrong. It will naturally form in close relationship and pain is the opportunity to examine the dynamic. After seeing clearly the dynamic, detachment will happen. Detachment does not mean you become cold, indifferent to each other. On the contrary, you see each other clearer, without bias or prejudices, hold space better and become more loving, caring in an objective stance. You allow each other to be who we are and trust the struggle each handles without interfering. This is a lesson we learn through many relationships with parents, siblings, spouse, friends and it is not an easy process. The key to go through it is to not judge or label other as wrong, bad or villain but to see the interacting dynamic in between. When there is labeling there will be no room for examination because the mind has been biased. Just seeing and understanding its nature in your real relationships, it's worth it.