Ordinary Sulu

Through all the despair and hope, love will guide us to find our place back home. Let nature be our best friend and solace. Give yourself the love you deserve and share that love with those matter most to you. Let's us be grateful for this morning when we awaken alive in love.

What do you really want to do with your life? And what is your fuel to do it? These are 2 questions that keep me struggle for years. The answers don't come easily and mostly it comes to me through pain. It's said that love can move mountain, I am not sure it's true for me but it sustains and renews me everyday to do small things consistently. So you do it not to impress anyone or prove anything but to serve those you love. Even when you only love one person in your life, it's a huge source of strength. You don't just live for yourself but also for the one you love. Your heart beats for others as well. May you find your fuel! And maybe together we can move mountain. Be patient and pay attention inside yourself.

Birds don't wake up until 5.30am so this morning let's sit with them and hear them sing. And let's make a cup of tea to cherish a new day with them.

Freedom is not escaping a situation, it is a shift in mental state when there is clear seeing, acceptance and disidentification with content of mind. When the mind says: "i'm lost!", question it "is it true? where are you going?" if you are not going anywhere, how can you be lost? you are right here right now. Observing helps us to step back and have a necessary distance to painful thoughts to disidentification. What causes pain in relationship is none of people but attachment. Attachment is an invisible tie, in which one feels responsible for another. One tries to make decisions and fix another. There is fear and lack of trust. Attachment is natural, it's not wrong. It will naturally form in close relationship and pain is the opportunity to examine the dynamic. After seeing clearly the dynamic, detachment will happen. Detachment does not mean you become cold, indifferent to each other. On the contrary, you see each other clearer, without bias or prejudices, hold space better and become more loving, caring in an objective stance. You allow each other to be who we are and trust the struggle each handles without interfering. This is a lesson we learn through many relationships with parents, siblings, spouse, friends and it is not an easy process. The key to go through it is to not judge or label other as wrong, bad or villain but to see the interacting dynamic in between. When there is labeling there will be no room for examination because the mind has been biased. Just seeing and understanding its nature in your real relationships, it's worth it.

Life is comprised of transitions. Doors close and open. You are set on a path that you can never go backward. How to embrace yourself in those trying times? Solitude is my friend and I make my mind my best friend to have conversations that only me can express and hear me wholeheartedly. Surrender with gratitude for everything and everyone. Life does not always flow like a song and that is a gift for your maturity.

"My, my, time flies

A new day is on its way

So let's let yesterday go

Could be we step out again" Invite you to listen to the soft rain of early morning and feel sensations of each breath. Relax and immerse into the serenity of a new day. May you be loved!

Let's hold space for each other in a loving silence. Every morning is a new morning, every moment is a new moment. Never the same. Live today like your whole life. Begin it with a serene mind and ready to let go at the end of the day.

Pain is a natural part of life. There is nothing wrong with it. Good feeling is a feeling and not good feeling is a feeling too. The physical pain and mental pain can be separated, they are different. The body can be in pain yet the mind can be at ease and curious. Mental pain happens when there is reaction (like and dislike) to body pain. The worst thing that can happen to you is sensations and you can feel it.

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We don't need to wait until we are perfect and flawless to appreciate ourselves. I love imperfect people and I allow myself to be imperfect too.

We don't need to wait until we receive a confirmation or return of love to express affection to someone. Do it for the joy of the receiver. Rejection is fun!

We don't need to wait until we know everything to start what we are enthusiastic about. Do it imperfectly and have fun!

We don't need to wait until all conditions are right to meditate. Feel it now!

We don't need to wait until someone loves us to feel whole, be our own lover now!

Instead of finding mr. Right, I will be ms. Right for myself!

This morning, invite a friend to sit with you. You can bring a teddy bear and hug it while listening to nature and relaxing. And when you feel calm and at ease, visualize a soft invisible blanket of love and cover it around someone you love. Cover yourself with this soft love blanket too. Let's walk around under this invisible blanket of love during our day. Thank you!

Find a place in your house where you can look really far away. Rest your gaze on the horizon and just look really far away. Notice how you feel. No need to analyze anything. Learn to live in the state of not knowing. Give yourself a chance of not knowing, let the mind be empty and clean. Not knowing is not dying. When we are fully with this step, another this step will open, no need for next step. Look far away, have a vision and at the same time pay attention to just this step, this moment. Let yourself be surprised! When you need to make difficult decisions, come from the place of not knowing. Calm down, keep quiet and listen and welcome. The heart will whisper to you in unexpected moments of silence and listening.