Episode 10: I Left Everyone to ‘Succeed’—Here’s What It Cost Me

In this episode, Sean Stewart shares the story so many young adults are living—but few are saying out loud. From a creative, connected high school life to total isolation in college, Sean fell into the trap of hustle culture, comparison, and social media pressure during COVID. What started as ambition turned into anxiety, disconnection, and a deep belief that he was “behind.”

But this isn’t a story about failure—it’s about awareness, rebuilding, and redefining success on your own terms. If you’ve ever felt like you’re running out of time, not doing enough, or questioning your path… this episode will hit.

Timestamps(00:00:00) Introduction to Sean Stewart

(00:02:54) The Skateboarding Culture

(00:10:15) High School Experiences and Perfect Attendance

(00:16:27) Transitioning to College During COVID

(00:23:13) The Impact of Social Media on Mental Health

(00:25:47) The Disconnect Between Social Media and Reality

(00:29:02) The Curse of Ambition and Its Consequences

(00:34:20) Reconnecting with Friends and Finding Balance

(00:42:06) The Turning Point: Seeking Help and Therapy

(00:50:47) Building Meaningful Relationships and Moving Forward

(00:52:11) Reconnecting with Hobbies and Creativity

(00:53:29) Entrepreneurial Journey in Real Estate Marketing

(00:54:13) Writing 'Buyers on Demand' for Realtors

(00:55:16) Navigating a Healthy Relationship with Social Media

(00:57:33) Lessons Learned and Advice for Young Adults

(00:59:08) Challenging Societal Norms for Young Men

(01:00:05) Evolving Definitions of Success

(01:03:47) The Importance of Asking 'Why?'

(01:16:42) Introduction to Leadership and Action

(01:16:43) Building a Community of Leaders

What You'll Hear

• How social media can quietly reshape your identity and self-worth
• The hidden downside of hustle culture and “success content”
• Why cutting people off doesn’t equal growth
• What isolation actually does to your mental health
• The turning point: therapy, reconnection, and asking why
• How to rebuild your life when you feel completely off track
• A healthier way to think about ambition, masculinity, and success

Key Takeaways

• Social media is not reality - What you’re seeing is the highlight reel of the exception—not the rule.
• You are not behind - There is no universal timeline. The pressure is manufactured.
• Ambition without balance can become self-destruction - Drive is powerful—but not when it costs your relationships and mental health.
• Isolation is not the price of success - Connection is actually one of the strongest predictors of long-term happiness.
• Ask “why” more often - If a belief doesn’t hold up under questioning, it probably isn’t yours.
• Success is personal—and it evolves - Your definition today won’t be your definition tomorrow. That’s normal.

Who This Episode Is For

• Young adults feeling lost, behind, or overwhelmed
• Anyone comparing their life to what they see online
• Ambitious individuals caught in hustle culture
• College students navigating identity and pressure
• Young men questioning expectations around success or masculinity
• Parents or mentors wanting to better understand Gen Z experiences

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Episode 9: Evan Gold: Winning, Pressure, and Becoming Your Own Person

In this episode, I sit down with Evan Gold—Cal Berkeley men’s varsity rower and junior—to unpackwhat it’s like growing up inside a high-achievement bubble, learning to define success for yourself, and building a “real” network in a world that tells you to rack up LinkedIn connections. Evan shares how pressure in Palo Alto shaped his mindset, why choosing Cal was a step toward becoming his own person, and how mentorship + community (especially through sports) can be a protective force for young adults. The episode also tackles screen-time culture, why many young people don’t actually like being on their phones, and what supporting young men can look like when we stop reducing them to metrics.

Timestamps

(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:01:08) Would You Rather

(00:04:00) Evan Gold

(00:04:38) The "Palo Alto Pressure" – Parental pressure, bubble cultures, and youth mental health

(00:12:15) The Mentorship Gap for Young Men

(00:15:15) Choosing Cal over Stanford

(00:23:50) Choosing a college major

(00:26:13) Learning How to Network – Evan shares his big take aways from a “failed” networking call with Mary

(00:41:19) Looking forward – How Evan has been talking to people in pursuit of future endeavors

(00:47:48) Books (Barbarian Days), Leading a memoir worth life, Social Media

(00:52:37) Evan and Conor’s Social Media Challenge

(00:54:43) Dispelling the "Screenager" Stereotype

(00:57:08) Redefining Masculinity

(00:59:30) What does supporting young men look like?

Key Takeaways

• Pressure doesn’t always look like “bad parenting.” Even “hands-off” support can still carryinvisible expectations—and young adults often feel responsible for meetingthem.
• Your first network is closer than you think. Coaches, parents’ friends, alumni databases,and “friends of friends” beat cold applications when you’re early in yourjourney.
• Networking is human, not transactional. People usually want to help—and youdon’t need a “trade” to earn a conversation. The value is the relationship.
• Career paths aren’t linear after school. The structure you’re used to disappearsafter college; the skill becomes making the next best decision, not the“perfect forever” one.
• Gen Z doesn’t necessarily love screens. Many feel trapped by them and want more realconnection—but need support to build it.
• A healthier model of masculinity = mentorship + connection. Strength isn’t “being better than someone,” it’s being grounded enough to help others rise too.
• Stop quantifying young men. Height, money, status—those metrics flatten a whole person. The realstory is who they are and how they grow.

Who This Episode is For

• Young adults who feel stuck in comparison, pressure, or “the path you’resupposed to take”
• Student-athletes (and high performers) trying to figure out identitybeyond achievement
• Anyone overwhelmed by career options and tired of “apply online andpray” advice
• Parents, coaches, and mentors who want to support young men in a waythat actually helps
• Listeners who want a more honest conversation about masculinity,connection, and confidence—without stereotypes

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Episode 8: Rethinking Success and Meaning in Your 20s

In this full-circle conversation, I sit down with Stan Prehu—a Franco-Croatian third-culture kid I first met as a baby in France—who’s moved nearly 30 times and learned to build confidence and community wherever he lands. Stan walks us through the honest version of early adulthood: chasing a “glossy” consulting role in the UK, getting laid off during COVID, and using that forced pause as a reset to choose growth over grind. He relocates to Poland, plays rugby with coal miners, throws himself into humanitarian work when the war in Ukraine begins, and rebuilds a life from the inside out—eventually finding his lane in AI at Amazon.

We talk about how five-year plans can box you in, and the mindset that turns a brand-new city into home: show up where your interests live, act like a local, put your phone down, and keep returning until the room becomes yours. Stan gets real about comparison, self-doubt, and the moment he stopped living for external validation. We also touch on relationships: why checklists don’t make you “ready,” but self-respect does, and how finding the right partner quiets the noisy inner critic.

This is a story about choosing yourself without losing your humility, measuring compensation in learning, mobility, and alignment (not just salary), and paying it forward to thepeople who lifted you. If you’re stuck in a job that looks good but feels wrong, navigating a new city, or figuring out who you want to be in your 20s, this episode gives you a practical, humane playbook—rooted in courage, community, and heart.

00:00 Introduction to a Third Culture Kid's Journey

04:50 The Experience of a Third Culture Kid

08:08 Adapting Through Education and Travel

13:08 Navigating Career Paths and Expectations

19:48 The Impact of COVID on Career Decisions

27:40 Finding Personal Fulfillment and Growth

28:33 The Impact of COVID-19 on Career Choices

32:32 Finding Clarity Through New Experiences

36:50 Key Takeaways from Life's Challenges

39:15 Advice for Those Feeling Stuck

43:56 Navigating New Environments and Building Connections

46:35 Embracing Change and Personal Growth

49:22 Redefining Relationships and Expectations

52:40 Introduction to a Third Culture Kid's Journey

52:40 The Impact of COVID-19 on Career Choices

52:40 The Journey of Self-Discovery

52:40 Building Connections in New Environments

52:46 Understanding Masculinity and Support

56:27 Redefining Success and Career Goals

01:02:25 Mental Health and Support for Young Men

01:05:03 Introduction to Leadership and Action

01:05:04 Building a Community of Leaders

Key Takeaways

• Choose confidence over do-overs.
• Your path isn’t linear—and that’s a feature.
• A forced pause can be a gift.
• Build a life, not just a résumé.
• Hardship happens, and you owe yourself the happiness you deserve.
• Humility changes the story.
• Relationships start with you.
• Community is legacy.

Who This Is For

• Young adults navigating early-career choices, uncertainty, or a pivot
• Third-culture kids/expats learning to belong everywhere (and not lose themselves)
• Recent grads & job seekers who need practical, human advice after a layoff or “wrong fit” role

• Young men (and those who love them) looking for healthier models of confidence, connection, and support
• Parents, mentors, and coaches who want language and tools to walk with young adults—without steering for them

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Episode 7: Coming Out Isn’t a Moment — It’s a Process

What happens after you finally say the words out loud?

In this powerful episode of Fresh Out and FiguringIt Out, Vaughn Vogel (University of Miami senior) opens up about his coming out journey — and the parts people don’t always talk about: the pressure to “do it perfectly,” the fear of risking important relationships, and the identity whiplash that can follow when you’re trying to figure out who you are now that you’re free to be yourself.

Vaughn shares how a supportive school environment helped him feel safe… but also how rejection right after coming out triggered a spiral around body image, control, and confidence. The turning point? A mom who noticed the cues, pushed resources with love, and helped him rebuild from the inside out.

This conversation is honest, emotional, and deeply hopeful — especially for anyone navigating identity, self-worth, or the pressure to have life “figured out.”

00:00 Introduction and Choices in Relationships

02:41 Academic Journey and College Life

06:53 Growing Up in Newport Beach

09:28 High School Experience and Coming Out

13:24 Navigating Identity and Acceptance

17:59 The Coming Out Process

28:10 Post Coming Out Challenges and Growth

31:40 Navigating Rejection and Self-Discovery

35:34 The Journey of Coming Out

39:11 Exploring Identity and Masculinity

41:49 The Importance of Evolving Identity

45:47 Seeking Help and Support

47:19 Career Aspirations and Internships

54:01 Understanding Young Men's Challenges

57:05 Expectations and Realities for Young Men

01:00:31 Changing the Narrative for Men

01:01:23 Introduction to Leadership and Action

01:01:24 Building a Community of Leaders

What You’ll Hear

• A real, step-by-step look at coming out — including the fear, planning, and relief
• Why “you never stop coming out” (and what that actually means)
• How rejection can turn into control patterns (and how to interrupt them)
• The pressure of stereotypes: “Do I have to act a certain way to belong?”
• The power of mentors, counselors, and one safe person to talk to
• Why young men often delay asking for help — and how to change that
• Career clarity for Gen Z: internships, experimentation, and choosing what fits

Key Takeaways

• Coming out isn’t a finish line — it’s the beginning of self-discovery.
• Your identity is bigger than a label. You can have many sides and still be fully you.
• Rejection is painful — but it doesn’t get to define your worth.
• If you’re struggling, your problems “count.” Don’t minimize yourself out of support.
• Parents: watch the cues. Support isn’t one conversation — it’s consistent presence + resources.
• For early career Gen Z: you’re not lazy — you’re navigating more options than any generation before you.

Who This Episode Is For

• Anyone questioning identity, sexuality, or how they “should” show up in the world
• Young adults who feel pressure to fit a persona or stereotype to be accepted
• People healing from rejection, body image spirals, or self-worth dips
• Parents who want to support their kids without pushing them away
• Mentors, educators, and leaders who want to better understand young men today
• Seniors / grads who feel behind because they don’t have the whole plan yet

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Episode 6: Thriving in San Francisco as an Introvert — Rest, Reflection, and Redefining Success

In this episode of Fresh Out and Figuring It Out, Connor Callahan, a 20-something computer engineering grad living in San Francisco, talks about what really happens after college and how he moved past negative thought spirals, learnedto value rest, and found his people in a city obsessed with status, startups, and questions about “what you do”.

Connor opens up about moving to a big city, being an introvert in an extrovertedworld, building websites that unexpectedly took off online, and deciding to join his family’s cheese and yogurt business, Bellwether Farms. He shareshonestly about imposter syndrome, “doom loops” of negative thinking, learning to ask for help, building community when you don’t naturally love socializing, and what it actually means to be a man with purpose and values today.

It’s a grounded, thoughtful conversation for anyone who thought life would feel “figured out” by now—and is realizing that this in-between stage is where the real growth happens.

What You’ll Hear:

• The story behind his viral writing tool website “Lose theVery” and other creative side projects
• What it’s really like to move to a new city aftercollege as an introvert
• How imposter syndrome shows up in everyday choices—socially, professionally, and personally
• The concept of the “doom loop” and how gratitude andperspective helps break it
• Why long walks, solo runs, and technology-free time became essential for his mental health
• How a first serious relationship forced him to grow, make hard decisions, and take agency over his life
• Practical ways he’s building community now—run clubs, coffee meetups, tennis, poker nights, and more

Key Takeaways:

• Life after college is the first time you design your ownstructure. Freedom is amazing—but you have to be intentional about how you spend your time and where you put your energy.
• Introverted doesn’t mean antisocial. You might prefer depth over crowds, but you still need people—and it’s okay to build community at your own pace.
• Your mind can trap you in “doom loops.” When your thoughts spiral into “I don’t belong” or “I’m behind,” you start seeing proof everywhere. Gratitude, old letters, and real rest can reset that pattern.
• Rest is not laziness—it’s growth. Long walks withoutpodcasts, runs without music, and quiet time away from your phone help you actually hear your own thoughts and values.
• Experiment early and often. Try different jobs, cities, androles. Optimize for learning, experience, and people you can grow from—not just titles and short-term prestige.
• Decisions are part of adulthood. Not choosing is still achoice. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or a city, you won’t get guaranteed “right” answers—but you will learn who you are.

Who This Episode Is For:

• New grads trying to figure out life after college,especially in big cities
• Introverts who want community but feel drained by typical “networking” culture Parents & caregivers who want to better understand what their sons are actually navigating right now
• Early-career professionals questioning if the path they’re on is really theirs—or just what they thought they “should” do
• Anyone in their 20s or 30s who feels behind, stuck incomparison, or caught in their own doom loops and wants a more grounded way forward

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Episode 5: From the Field to Life: Micah Bowens' Journey Navigating College Football and The Lessons Learned

In this episode of Fresh Out and Figuring It Out, I sit down with former D1 quarterback Micah Bowens to unpack what really happens when the dream you’ve chased your whole life suddenly changes. From being a four-star recruit and state champion at Bishop Gorman to playing at Penn State, Oklahoma, and UNC Charlotte, Micah shares the highs of national TV games and scholarship offers—and the lows of coaching changes, COVID, transfers, and a devastating hamstring injury that forced him to rethink everything.

We talk about what it means to be a man, the pressure on young men to “be strong” and never show emotion, and how one phone call to his mom in tears changed how he sees vulnerability, faith, and support. Now 24, working in insurance and navigating job interviews and “adulting,” Micah is honest about not having it all figured out—and why that’s exactly okay.

What You’ll Hear

• How Micah went from right tackle at age 7 to starting quarterback at powerhouse Bishop Gorman
• The reality of being heavily recruited: scholarships, visits, whiteout games, and emotional decisions
• The behind-the-scenes truth of college football as a business: coaching changes, depth charts, and pressure
• How he juggled 40+ credit hours, community college classes, and D1 football to graduate early
• The hamstring injury that tore his season—and Plan A—away right before fall camp
• How faith, baptism, and reflection helped him reframe his story and find peace beyond football
• What he’s learning about networking, interviews, and adulting
• His honest advice for young athletes who dream of playing in college or going pro

Key Takeaways

• Everything happens for a reason—even when you can’t see it yet. Micah’s journey through three schools, five coaches, COVID, and injury reshaped his faith and perspective on purpose.
• College sports are not just a game—they’re a business. Understanding that early can protectyour mental health and help you make smarter decisions.
• Being “the man” doesn’t mean being emotionless. Bottling everything up works…until it doesn’t. Vulnerability with the right people is strength, not weakness.
• You can be both present and purposeful. Micah talks about learning to enjoy where his feet are while still making decisions that serve his long-term vision.
• It’s okay not to have your next chapter fully mapped out. What matters is staying curious, asking for help, and being willing to pivot.
• Rejection isn’t the end—it’s reps. From football to job interviews, every “no” is practice, data, and preparation for the right “yes.”

Who This Episode Is For

• Young adults who feel like Plan A didn’t work out and aren’t sure what comes next
• Current or former athletes navigating life after sports, injury, or major transitions
• Young men who’ve been told to “be strong” and never show emotion—but are tired of holding it all in
• Parents, coaches, and mentors who want to better understand what young men are really carrying
• Anyone who’s still figuring out their path, wondering if they’re behind, and needs the reminder: You’re not late. You’re learning. And you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

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Episode 4: A Day in the Life of Gen Z Entrepreneurship:Grit Over Glamour

In this episode, I am joined by 21-year-old entrepreneur and creator Dominic Arvielo for a raw, hopeful conversation about identity, body image, and building something from scratch. Dom traces his path from theater kid to music producer to founder of Zigzy, a social media tech + management company. Along the way, he opens up about his battle with an eating disorder—how performance, social media optics, andobsessiveness fed it, and how asking for help, reframing goals, and channeling that same drive into healthy ambition helped him rebuild.

We unpack the unique pressure Gen Z faces online, why entertainment beats “traditional ads” on social, and what early entrepreneurship really looks like (spoiler: less glamour, more grit). Dom shares hard-won lessons on failingfast, starting lean, and choosing to be known for your mind, not your body. The episode doubles as a guide for parents—how to support without smothering, hold boundaries with compassion, and stick with your kid through the hardest parts.

What You’ll Hear

• From stage to startups: Theater roots → music production → founding a seven-person social media company.
• Inside the disorder: What it felt like at the worst point, why it’s so hidden in young men, and how recovery began.
• Optics vs. reality: How social platforms reward appearance—and how to opt out mentally.
• College or not?: The value (and limits) of degrees, self-teaching, and learning how to think.
• Gen Z at work: Competence, value creation, and why you can’t ChatGPT your way into a career.
• Parent playbook: Stay, listen, don’t take the heat personally, and never give up.

Takeaways

• Ask for help early. Suffering in silence is heavier than sharing the load.
• Be known for your mind. Shift focus from body/optics to ideas, skills, and contribution.
• Start small, start now. “Anything you can do with $1,000, you can do with $10—it’s just harder.” Test, learn, iterate.
• Create for why people scroll. Entertain, inspire, or educate—then add a clear CTA.
• Failure is data. Fail fast, analyze, pivot. Pride down, learning up.
• Self-teach as a superpower. Curiosity + consistency beats credentials alone.
• Support young men by stretching them. Space to try, fall, and get back up—plus real check-ins about mental health.

Who It’s For

• Young adults navigating identity, body image, and big career choices.
• Early-stage founders/creators who want the unfiltered version of building a business.
• Parents & mentors looking for practical, compassionate ways to support without over-controlling.
• Leaders & HR pros curious about how Gen Z really thinks about work, value, and social media.

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Episode 3: A Day in the Life of a Division 1 Rower: A Story About Humility, Coachability, and Showing Up

In this episode, I sit down with a very special guest—my son, Conor. From family stories to Division I rowing, this conversation is a journey through resilience, risk-taking, and the power of community.

We start with family stories: the giant baby who wore men’s shoe sizes by age five, the Southern-boy-meets-Irish-name combo, and my own first-time-mom worries. Then, Conor takes us into the world of sports—the heartbreak of his last high school basketball game, the brotherhood of team bonds, and the surprising ways men build connection through shared struggle. Conor opens up about finding rowing asa “second-chance sport,” and the whirlwind that took him from GWU to following his dream of rowing for a Division 1 program. What follows is raw and real: the high of being recruited, to setbacks, and the spiral of doubt.

But this isn’t just a story of loss—it’s about the comeback. Conor shares how discipline, not motivation, got him out of bed to keep training when everything felt over. He found a newcommunity, rebuilt his confidence, and turned consistency into growth. We close with big reflections: what itmeans to be a man today, how young adults can push back on stereotypes, and the importance of congratulating and supporting one another—especially for young men who don’t always hear that message.

This episode is a mix of laughter, honesty, and hard truths about resilience, risk, and finding your place. If you’re a parent, an athlete, or a young adult trying to figure out who you are—you’ll find yourself in this story.

What You’ll Hear:

• What failure really teaches you when you keep showing up anyway
• How to build confidence by doing hard things, not waiting for the perfect moment
• Why feedback is a gift, even when it stings
• The mental toughness it takes to be a collegiate athlete
• The ultimate team lesson: progress only happens when everyone rows in sync

Takeaways:

• Resilience is a choice: You don’t control the outcome—you control the next rep, the next practice, the next email.
• Consistency beats motivation: Start first; motivation follows momentum.
• Coachability = trust: Take feedback on the chin, make the change, prove you’re moldable.
• Seek hard rooms: You won’t grow if you’re the best in the boat; surround yourself with people who push you.
• Team > talent: Synchronization, shared language, and clear race plans create winning crews.
• Time is a skill: Prioritize, protect sleep, and stack small routines that travel with you.
• Redefine masculinity: Check in on your guys, have real conversations, celebrate each other’s wins.
• Mentorship multiplies: Be the person you wish you had—one text a month can change aseason.

Who This is For:

• Parents & mentors supporting young adults through high-stakes transitions.
• Coaches & leaders who value feedback cultures and want teams aligned on one message.
• Any young adult who’s been humbled, is rebuilding, or just needs proof that discipline works.
• Leaders & HR pros curious about how Gen Z really thinks about work and life.

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Episode 2: Why I am so passionate about building a community that lifts both men and women up

In this conversation, I sit down with my dear friend Dr. Carli Snyder—a board-certified clinical psychologist licensed in CA and NV with 25 years in practice—whose philosophy is simple and powerful: health is wealth. We explore what she’s learned working with young adults through a holistic mind-body lens, why connection is mental health’s best friend, and how small actions create real momentum.

We dig into the wins and worries for this generation: girls are soaring academically yet reporting record anxiety; boys are too often lonely, under-mentored, and slower to seek help. We talk about how labels like “toxic masculinity” can shut down useful dialogue, and why reframing masculinity as a set of human behaviors—not a gender identity—opens the door to support both our sons and our daughters. You’ll hearwhy community (teams, faith groups, recovery circles) gives boys a language for emotion, and how mentors—especially positive male role models—change trajectories.

Threaded throughout is a simple mindset shift: it’s not either/or; it’s and. We can champion girls and lift up boys. Abundance over scarcity. Empathy over polarization.

What You’ll Hear

• Carli's holistic approach (sleep, food, movement, mindfulness) and why it's finally mainstream.
• The loneliness trend in young men, how it shows up, and what parents often miss.
• Why girls and boys are struggling with the same core needs - belonging, purpose, real friendships.
• Language matters: moving from "but" to "and" to change the conversation.

Takeaways & Tiny Actions

• Action absorbs anxiety: leave the house, take a walk, talk to a human.
• Build connection on purpose: join a team, club, faith group.
• Find (or be) a mentor; normalize asking for help.
• Feel your feelings - fully. They're data points about what matters to you.
• Practice the "and" - support women and men so all young adults thrive.

Who It’s For

Parents, educators, leaders, coaches, and young adults who believe we can raise a generation of confident, compassionate leaders—together.

For more information about Dr. Carli Snyder, you can contact her through her website:

www.drcarlisnyder.com

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Episode 1: Why I Finally Hit Record 🎙️

After years of excuses (“too busy, not the right time, maybe next year…”), I realized the truth: fear was holding me back. Fear of being vulnerable, imperfect, judged. And yet—here I am. Ready or not.

In this episode, I share the real story behind starting Fresh Out & Figuring It Out—from growing up as a 1.5 generation Korean American straddling two cultures, to chasing achievement as a way to earn love, to finally realizing that belonging and worth can’t come from checking boxes.

This podcast is my love letter to young adults—my sons, and the incredible Gen Z and millennials who inspire me every single day. You’ll hear why I believe your voices matter, why it’s time to rewrite harmful stereotypes (especially about young men), and why we need a community that lifts everyone up.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real. And if I’m asking you to show up courageously, I have to go first. So let’s do this—together. 💛

I would love to hear your thoughts and comments and share this podcast with your friends so that we can figure it out together!

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